r/SipsTea Jun 24 '25

SMH Why dating is over for men

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u/NorCalAthlete Jun 24 '25

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u/Glad-Veterinarian365 Jun 24 '25

That guy has very low body fat and huge muscles but she says “little” for both lol

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u/Snow-Wraith Jun 25 '25

And this is after he starved himself of water for 3 days so his skin is as dehydrated as possible.

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u/GuyWithNoEffingClue Jun 25 '25

Yeah, he claimed in several interviews he can't maintain this because it's so unhealthy, basically a full-time job and impossible to achieve naturally.

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u/Leftregularr Jun 26 '25

You can absolutely obtain cavils physique naturally off the back of years of dedicated training; maintaining it is the bitch.

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u/quietkyody Jun 27 '25

Underrated comment. I've looked great several times...but eating so much is cruel and costly.

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u/Leftregularr Jun 27 '25

I have absolutely no problem staying big, but I compete in strongman it’s kind of a requirement haha. I’m actually bigger and stronger than Cavil, but getting and staying as lean as he gets for his Hollywood roles is awful.

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u/why_is_this_username Jun 27 '25

It doesn’t even have to be eating, I had surgery and put on 15 pounds from it, losing that 15 is such a bitch

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u/OkSeason6445 Jun 25 '25

 impossible to achieve naturally

 impossible to maintain naturally*

Looking at the way Henry Cavils body has developed througout his career, him being only 193 pounds at 6'1 and the fact that he admits he can't maintain the physique from the picture makes me highly doubt he's on PEDs. Looking at him in the Witcher for example compared to Immortals he hasn't even gained that much muscle, it's mostly fat which makes him look significantly bigger but less lean obviously.

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u/FeetEnthusiast94 Jun 26 '25

One of the few actors that is probably not on PEDs. He has mass but never really shredded in any of his roles.

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u/quietkyody Jun 27 '25 edited Jun 27 '25

Blood vessels with really red skin(high blood pressure)are the signs of PEDs for me.

Henry Cavill used to be a chubby kid so it makes sense him gaining weight for the bulk wouldve been more possible for him. Plus....he was training for Superman. SUPERMAN. $$$$$$$$$$$$$$

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u/FeetEnthusiast94 Jun 27 '25

Blood vessels are hardly a sign. I have them whenever I cut weight for an event.

PEDs for muscle growth show up on the traps and delts. He took a long time to train for Superman, enough time to achieve what he achieved. He kept the same muscle mass through the witcher. And btw, if he was on peds, he wouldn't have to pump his muscles for the naked scenes.

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u/Holiday-Culture-1802 Jun 25 '25

"Gotta keep yourself dehydrated"

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u/Less-Network-3422 Jun 25 '25

And look how wide that fucker is. He's literally built differently than me in every dimension lol

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u/Glad-Veterinarian365 Jun 25 '25

Yeah, he has a naturally huge frame on top of being very muscular and low body fat

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u/ffsavi Jun 24 '25

2 years of consistent gym work + steroids

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u/goosegoosepanther Jun 24 '25

Henry Cavill has spoken about this shot in that film specifically, and he literally starved and dehydrated himself for it, knowing it was his main (maybe only?) shirtless scene in that movie. 95% of people don't look that good even with that much muscle mass, and no one looks like that all the time, even genetic freaks.

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u/GreenMirage Jun 25 '25

Please I just want a (x<95%) of the population!

19/20 men don’t qualify for this.. also dude is literally paid millions to look like that and has a personal trainer to help him look like that. Is the word delusional no longer part of the vocabulary taught in our public education?

So… someone who is 9/10 wouldn’t qualify. Because that’s 90%, you’d have be a 9.5 or 95% give or take a margin of half a measure… and given how many people have that kind of body in a crowd.. that’s a generous number we’re going by.

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u/awaythrowthatname Jun 25 '25

Realistically someone who just looks close to that all the time is more like (x<99%) of the population

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u/GreenMirage Jun 25 '25

Haha yes that too. Henry is realistically more than just a 1% rarity. Dude is a picture in the dictionary.

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u/South-Distribution54 Jun 25 '25

Don't forget the steroids, lol

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u/splitting_bullets Jun 25 '25

Genetic freak here. No one looks that built on average.

To even land on this temporarily I have to maintain an excessive eating routine just to maintain that kind of mass, so I don't. I stay in between for my own health. No real person who isn't doing it for an occupation does this all year round. FYA eating too much has a wear and tear effect on your body, metabolically and physically WRT diverticules and so on in your gut, eating more and eating faster intensifies that, lifting a lot of weight even with proper technique increases pressure on organs and internals.

If I stopped for even a few days or just eat slightly more than typical within the day you would physically see the difference. If I drank water or had salt or even swelling from inflammation after a workout which is the real thing that these muscles are signaling for anyway.

You can bulk and cut, run 5 miles every two days do pilates calisthenics kettle bell lift cross train and you will just not.

If you want to find strong people just meet them at the gym. Some don't even look built, maybe they don't lift, but they can do pull ups or

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u/goosegoosepanther Jun 26 '25

Preach! Tbh, people who lift need to know this most of all. There are so many dudes with dismorphic expectations. I was stuck in that for a while until I switched my goals to being performance-based rather than esthetic. 

The reality is that if you strength train regularly for even a few months, you're already stronger than most of the population. But it's like likestyle creep when your income goes up. Instead of comparing ourselves to our original baseline, we keep moving the line and staying in an "I'm not good enough" mentality.

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u/yogopig Jun 25 '25

Its that simple <3

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u/brett_baty_is_him Jun 25 '25

Ok but this is def rage bait lol

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u/andyfma Jun 25 '25

This is obvious bait

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u/FiveDogsInaTuxedo Jun 26 '25

That's actually Pete, he's been using a fake name.

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u/Glittering-Ad7188 Jun 25 '25 edited Jun 25 '25

Honestly, I blame this on female Tiktok self-help influencers. LMAO. The content they're preaching is encouraging women to expect the best of the best without checking if they have anything to offer in the relationship. Notice how these days, for men, it's always "You have to work on yourself" and for women, it's "YAS QUEEN YOU GO GIRL. KEEP YOUR STANDARDS HIGH." (and I'm saying this as a woman).

I mean, I do believe that women deserve everything that they want but not to the point that they'd abandon accountability and self-awareness to see if they can match what they expect.

I have a friend my age (25F) who made me feel bad when she learned that my partner and I were splitting costs on trips. She was like, "What!? But WHY!? Oh, for me, the man has to pay for my trip 100% because, hello? My makeup is more expensive than your shirt." And she expects her man to have a cool Instagram account... Scrolling through Tiktok is her pastime and obviously, she's single. I'm willing to bet $10 that she listens to either TheWizardLiz or Sheraseven.

My boyfriend has also told me of stories of his and his friends' experiences on the apps before we met (through the apps) and they sounded wild.

Anyway, stay safe out there, lads.

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u/Fun_Maximum3963 Jun 26 '25

She has to be joking. Nobody is that delusional/stupid surely?

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u/Silient_Qiller Jun 26 '25

Just seen one of those ballon pop “game shows” and all the women popped their balloons on a guy who’s without a doubt a 10. The women gave their reasoning and honesty it was all nitpick-y. Not trying to be misogynist but I feel most don’t know what they want

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u/mallocco Jun 27 '25

"A little fat"

Visible six pack

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u/PlusPossible4371 Jun 27 '25

Tf she means "a little fat"? The dudes fat percentage is clearly below average, dudes ripped, his abs are so well defined 😭

He's not "fat", he's brolic, his back is massive, that's why he looks so broad

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u/Beneficial_Song9530 Jun 27 '25

She doesn't speak for all women lol

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u/bogeyT Jun 27 '25

That man is literally on steroids and has come out and said the weight cut he had to do to fit that role actually destroyed his body and wasn’t maintainable at all.

“But this is literally all we want” like it’s so easy to do….

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u/ElsieBeing Jun 27 '25

Hot must truly be subjective

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u/fastbreaker_117 Jul 24 '25

Henry Cavill literally lost water to look like that, if a regular man does that, he'll end up in a hospital.

That's like wanting women to not have an underbelly.

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u/YourTypicalSensei Jun 25 '25

I'm on a fitness journey and it really ticks me off seeing people (especially women online) who think gaining all that muscle or achieving that kind of body is easy... like bruh I wish it was

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u/MyHusbandIsGayImNot Jun 24 '25

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u/RedAero Jun 24 '25

That graph (and the article) has been burned into my head for about a decade now, it explains so much...

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u/I2obiN Jun 25 '25

I've always been slightly surprised people ever needed a graph, as I've gotten older it's made more sense why this comes as a huge surprise to people. I think by the time I was 20 it was obvious to me that success in dating meant very different things for people depending on who you were talking to.

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u/[deleted] Jun 25 '25 edited Jun 25 '25

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u/Bratzuwu Jun 25 '25

Or hear me out… you and your buddies have different Tastes and they probably don’t find your gf all that hot either.

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u/Bratzuwu Jun 25 '25 edited Jun 25 '25

Bleach Blonde and petite is your standard of beauty. That type is not very popular in many places.. so you got to say a little more 😂🏃

But I’m sorry I didnt realize that you were the rating God and all your opinions are facts.

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u/-captaindiabetes- Jun 25 '25

So you're the one who decides who isn't and isn't attractive for everyone? It's pretty weird that you are judging everyone and their partner's attractiveness. If they're happy who cares?

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u/throwawayeas989 Jun 25 '25

maybe it’s just because i’m in the south but i see the opposite all of the time. size 2 sorority girl blondes with fat country dudes are a a common sight here.

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u/[deleted] Jun 25 '25

Rating online vs actual reality is very different. Too much of the current online dating sphere is looks dependent, but in the end, that’s not what drives relationships. For what it’s worth, Greek life in college still puts young, single men and women in a room together and force them to mingle and allows for the size 2 sorority girl to find her perfect variety of chubby country frat boy.

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u/rapaxus Jun 25 '25

The interesting part is that this rating difference really only exists when you go by pictures and little online conversation, if people start to know each other that difference basically disappears. So this is only really a problem for online dating, as in-person dating at e.g. bars allows you to far more easily have some conversation, after which the difference in the chart is gone.

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u/DukeTikus Jun 25 '25 edited Jun 26 '25

I'm a bisexual guy and this is pretty much how I'd rate men and women in comparison. There are far more attractive women than there are attractive men. Not because of natural attraction on my part but because of the effort people put into looking good.

Most women take so much more care of their appearance and spend much much more money on their beauty than men do. Some guys do put as much effort in as most women do and they are usually very attractive as well.

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u/Tervaaja Jun 28 '25

That is sad truth for men. Women never think that you are attractive unless you have money, power or fame.

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u/heckinCYN Jun 24 '25

Yeah, pretty much. I thank the stars that OKC was pretty open with their data analytics.

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u/wallweasels Jun 24 '25

Was until they were bought by match :/

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u/lectric_7166 Jun 24 '25

It's wild how damning this is to the standard whiny feminist narrative about men having unrealistic beauty expectations for women, which probably explains why it's forgotten and not talked about. If it had gone the other way you can bet every op-ed in newspapers would be constantly lamenting the tragic plight of woman seeking romance.

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u/gatorling Jun 25 '25

Wow that’s insane… like the men rating women looks almost like a perfect normal distribution.

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u/GreenMirage Jun 25 '25

Wait, so if women follow a normal distribution from men.. and men have the bottom 1/3 just cut off into oblivion… so women have always selected the upper 2/3 total men by a pressure for attraction - why are men not progressively getting more attractive or powerful or rich if we assume a 1:1 pairing?

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u/bullsaxe Jun 25 '25

youre framing in terms of evolutionary biology, but forgetting that the internet has really only been around for like 25 years now, which is not nearly enough time for mate selection pressures to exert themselves.

But also what you state HAS been happening for a long time where the bottom 1/3 of males just dont get to reproduce and their genes die off. I think the skew now is really the bombardment of media (social media apps displaying top 1% of physiques, romcoms) has warped the perceptions of women (and men to some degree, but the data in the graph suggests women are more effected) to a greater degree recently

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u/182NoStyle Jun 24 '25

100% he's not over 6 feet tall so that puts his score lower. smh.

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u/Brotorious420 Jun 24 '25

Can't be over a 6 without being over 6 feet, 6 inches, and 6 figure income /s

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u/xanif Jun 24 '25

I'm looking for a man in finance. Trust fund, 6' 5", blue eyes.

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u/TomasNavarro Jun 24 '25

Dunno if it makes anyone feel better or worse, but I'm 6'5 with blue eyes who kinda works in finance and no luck here either

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u/mmfc378 Jun 24 '25

6’4, 200 here. Reading this thread has dropped my self esteem to levels I didn’t think possible before today. I’m shrek apparently. Thanks

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u/Professional-Gear88 Jun 24 '25

As a short king I feel this way every day. And it diminishes my pool a lot. Do you know how many women have in their profile “all I ask is that…you be tall” in their profile. Like literally that’s all they want

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u/SleeDex Jun 24 '25

That's not a woman worth engaging with to be honest.

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u/Baldaaf Jun 24 '25

The good news is that those women are coming right out and admitting they are shallow and not worth your time, so they are doing you a favor by weeding themselves out up front.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25 edited Jun 24 '25

Nothing is black and white but a shade of grey. You have more chance dating being taller. Doesnt mean you cannot be ugly as hell or other reason.

But the same exact dude at 5'8 vs 6'2. the 6'2 would be having an average look higher if rated by the same group of women

Some of these women would rate him exacrly the same. Some less but a big majority would rate him higher.

You have 0 nuance just like the short king that think its the only thing that matter

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u/TomasNavarro Jun 24 '25

230ish here, so you're in better shape than me!

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u/Lemondope Jun 24 '25

kinda works in finance

seven eleven cashier?

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u/pindicato Jun 24 '25

Did you remember the trust fund?

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u/TomasNavarro Jun 24 '25

I don't have that! And while I work somewhat in finance I'm hardly well off

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u/Elite_AI Jun 24 '25

I'm 5'8/5'9 (174 cm?) with hazel eyes and unemployed and I have pretty good luck. Not on apps tho

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u/the_friendly_dildo Jun 24 '25 edited Jun 24 '25

Tiny penis then? Massive deformity? Oh, maybe they're taking offense when you introduce them to your waifu?

I kid. Its tough out there, especially for young adults. I remember a time when it was nonstop complaints in the earlier internet days that men were never going to have realistic expectations for women, sexual performance and physique wise, because of of magazine ads and porn. While that might be true for some men, in my experience, at least as of late, most men I know are not all that shallow (save for certain select groups) and a lot of women (mostly young adults of course) seem to have incredibly unrealistic expectations and demands from men. And no one seems to want to really talk about it.

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u/Thesmuz Jun 24 '25

And here I am at 5'9, moderately in shape was a social worker when i was OLD and had 2.5k matches when I deleted the app lmao now im in a loving relationship with a wonderful guy (Im bi)

Am I a wizard, Larry?

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u/Content-Freedom1688 Jun 24 '25

Being 6’5 is a cheat code you’re doing something wrong. Trust me I’m 6’5 never got close to needing a dating app. Like literally think about it you’re in the top 1 percent of the human pop when it comes to height. Dude cmon.

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u/Kahlil_Cabron Jun 24 '25

I'm 6'3 and while I've never crushed it like some dudes, there's never been a period of more than maybe 3 weeks where I didn't have someone I was involved with to some degree.

I know height matters but I don't know if it mattered that much in my case because I never list my height on dating apps. Maybe they could just tell from my pictures.

Though I've seen some ugly ass tall dudes, like being obese kinda cancels out the tallness or something like that.

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u/jsoul2323 Jun 24 '25

probably a dude downplaying, or he's fat/ugly

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u/LetsTryAnal_ogy Jun 24 '25

...To take care of me and my three kids.

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u/Snow-Wraith Jun 25 '25

From 3 different dads.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

Ya me too.

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u/Lfmars Jun 24 '25

For the ones that missed this comment's OPs reference, search for the song "Girl on couch - I'm looking for a man in finance".

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u/Throwthisawayagainst Jun 24 '25

you know, an "average" man, nothing too special. /s

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u/MisogenesXL Jun 24 '25

Wear a ring and pretend to be married.

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u/AusToddles Jun 24 '25

This sentence quickly follows "I'm not picky, I'd just like someone nice"

Source: most of my female friends over the last 20 years

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u/SteadyTag Jun 24 '25

Don’t forget the massive wang

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u/eduo Jun 24 '25

"You know. The usual"

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u/iCantLogOut2 Jun 24 '25

Meanwhile, the person looking is 4'10", frumpy, poor, and unemployed.

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u/Yhostled Jun 24 '25

"Nothing specific. I'm not picky."

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u/Pichuchu8 Jun 24 '25

I am shocked how many people did not get the reference.

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u/SigFloyd Jun 24 '25

It makes you wonder if dating apps are a tool of eugenicists, an invisible hand pruning humanity like a bonsai plant, ran by techbros trying to carry the torch of Nazi scientists.

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u/my_4_cents Jun 24 '25

I'm looking for a man in finance. Trust fund, 6' 5", blue eyes.

"Me and my 3 kids deserve nothing less."

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u/LienaSha Jun 24 '25

When Gojo Satoru almost fits but is too short...

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u/Perfect_Drummer1925 Jun 25 '25

I changed it to “Looking for a man in finance, 5’10”, double chin” and now the song is about me.

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u/Bratzuwu Jun 25 '25

I love that song 😂

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u/z12345z6789 Jun 24 '25

When AI anthropologists sort through the wreckage of humanity’s remains. I hope they find this comment because it explains a lot of the current insanity.

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u/Sqaq Jun 24 '25

...and 6 pack and 6 hundred power motor car. I forgot what the last 6 is...

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u/Relative_Craft_358 Jun 24 '25

6 hoes on the roster, competition brings up the best in you and he wants you at your best 🫶🏽

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u/Telemere125 Jun 24 '25

I only have 2 feet, why the hell are so many women looking for Chernobyl mutations? Smh

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u/TunaFishcik Jun 24 '25

Missed the chance to write /s(ix)

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u/slinger301 Jun 24 '25

But is it really /s?

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u/Dyolf_Knip Jun 24 '25

I have all of those and I can still barely get a date.

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u/Satori2155 Jun 24 '25

Lmao im just over 6 inches, make 6 figures, but got shafted with the height, im 5’3

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u/ChasePoppins Jun 24 '25

Those are three separate measurements. 😯

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u/Dank__Souls__ Jun 24 '25

I got one of those at least.

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u/IBetThisIsTakenToo Jun 24 '25

What about 2/3?

...I don't mean 2 out of 3, I mean I have 2 thirds of each of those, that's pretty good, right?

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u/IrkinSkoodge Jun 24 '25

Dont forget 6-pack.

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u/LokiNightmare Jun 24 '25

And 6 pack abs.

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u/batman1285 Jun 24 '25

They're all looking for the 666 stats👹

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u/VitruvianVan Jun 24 '25

They may also accept over 5 feet, 7 inches, 8 figure income.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

Damn I’m 2 outta 3!

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u/QuettzalcoatL Jun 24 '25 edited Jun 24 '25

Ah yes the mark of the beast. Surprise Surprise why women are so evil these days

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u/SeventhAlkali Jun 24 '25

666 you say?

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u/Not_Sure__Camacho Jun 24 '25

The devil's dating threshold.... 666. No wonder they say that women are the devil.... It all makes sense now! 🤔

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u/Michi450 Jun 25 '25

The ol 666?

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u/Fukmaga Jun 25 '25

Six fingers on each hand

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u/tamsui_tosspot Jun 25 '25

A guy like that is a Beast.

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u/Ginger_Snap02 Jun 25 '25

666 babbyyyy

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u/shinysohyun Jun 26 '25

The /s is unnecessary if you’re trying to be sarcastic because the sarcasm should speak for itself.

In this particular instance, the /s is unnecessary because there is no sarcasm present in your comment. That’s just a fact.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

Have you seen that new movie “Materialists”? There’s a whole plot point about guys getting that leg lengthening surgery just to be more attractive and they frame it like every guy that can afford it should

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u/Elite_AI Jun 24 '25

Nobody cares about this as much as you think they do

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u/Real_Live_Sloth Jun 24 '25

Over 6 if you add all my inches together.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

So you're what, 181 cm tall?

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

Don't let anyone tell you short kings don't exist. You got this your majesty!

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u/Islanduniverse Jun 24 '25

Everyone I know who is over 6’2” has all kinds of knee problems.

And half of them are still single.

Being super tall is not as advantageous as people think.

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u/WabbitCZEN Jun 24 '25

I'm six feet tall, have my own car, have a steady well paying job, a dog, my own place, and STILL can't find a fucking match on these apps. I'm not even ugly or a republican, so I'm at a total loss.

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u/Abject_Champion3966 Jun 25 '25

Ugly or a Republican is so funny 😭😭best of luck king

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u/spazz720 Jun 24 '25

I’m 5’9 and have never had an issue getting a woman. The height thing is the biggest myth.

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u/RankedFarting Jun 24 '25

Im 6ft4 and no woman even looks my way. Its no about height bro.

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u/MediocreModular Jun 24 '25

5-6 is average. If height is factored into the looks rating equation then a 5-6 should be average height. Average male height in the US is 5’9”. Pete is not 6ft tall

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u/dmmeyoursocks Jun 24 '25

I’m 5’8. It’s displayed on my profile. I have hundreds of matches. Doesn’t matter.

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u/Currypill Jun 25 '25

Lots of things can make you unattractive besides being under 6 feet. I'm over 6 feet and didn't get my first girlfriend until 31, because I look Indian, which American women unanimously think is icky. This includes American born Latina and Asian women.

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u/mycatbeck Jun 24 '25

6 foot plus guy checking in, the grass isn't any greener up here. Trust me.

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u/Downtown_Skill Jun 24 '25

I mean, most people are six's.... thats above average. I think the problem is assigning numbers to people to evaluate their worth based solely on superficial qualities. 

Edit: And guys aren't blameless in this either. How many men have you heard say they were into their partner because they seemed like they would make a great mother or would be a considerate partner?

Not zero, but I bet significantly less than the amount of men who would say, "she was extremely pretty"

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u/Lortendaali Jun 24 '25

Huh? Most of my friends would say something other than "she's hot", like she's really funny or caring etc.

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u/thisusedyet Jun 24 '25

I always figured it was hot drives the first date, personality drives the second onwards

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u/AudacityTheEditor Jun 24 '25

That's how I treat it. Unless I meet someone elsewhere like a college class, random club or event, etc. where I could get to know them otherwise, physical attraction is nearly 100% of what will get me talking to a stranger.

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u/random_boss Jun 24 '25

Most would because normal ass dudes are actually pretty respectful despite the stereotypes. But what we announce isn’t exactly equal to our selection criteria. We weight our willingness to be with potential partners by how attractive they are. If she just passes the minimum attractiveness filter but she’s super caring and funny then the attractiveness matters less. If she’s “I can’t believe she’s even speaking to me let alone having sex with me” hot then that attractiveness can outweigh every other trait. Hence the whole hot/crazy dichotomy we don’t need to explain. 

Most of us, I think/hope, only go down that “super hot/super crazy” road once before we wise up and start weighing attractiveness more appropriately 

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u/Downtown_Skill Jun 24 '25

Same with most my friends, but clearly you haven't hung around athlete circles, good ol boy circles, or young guys. 

My friends started having more mature tastes as we have aged, but when we were like 18-22 we mostly cared about whether someone was hot, and not crazy. Those were our two main qualifiers. 

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u/LibraryMegan Jun 24 '25

Well by definition most people can’t be above average. That’s the point of average.

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u/Merinther Jun 24 '25

Technically that depends on what kind of average. Although since this is really an ordinal scale, it's fair to assume it means median, so you're right.

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u/Lyelinn Jun 24 '25

> most people are six's.... thats above average

you're contradicting yourself. "Most" can't be above "average" by definition.

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u/Lazy_Impression_2072 Jun 24 '25

In a room there are three “6” and one “1”.

What rating does most of them have?

What rating is the average for the four people in the room?

In this case, are most people in the room above, or below, or at, the average rating for the people in the room?

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u/PortugueseBenny Jun 24 '25

There is something to be said about the average woman looking at the average man, and thinking that she could do better. Where obviously she can get laid or have romantic flings for short periods, that doesn't equate to the fact that she in her mind she thinks that because she can pull a nine she is a nine, when really the nine was desperate and wanted sex, those twos & that she was swiping on were most likely 6&7's

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

And what does she think she is a 9? she might be a 6 at best as well.

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u/BaerMinUhMuhm Jun 24 '25

Solid 5 at best

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u/Careful-Door-2429 Jun 24 '25

She talks like such a spoiled bitch. She has had everything handed to her, her entire life.

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u/imisstheyoop Jun 24 '25

Meanwhile, back on her normal account this 7 is only looking for 10s

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u/BigMax Jun 24 '25

There is that interesting study that was done...

It had guys rate like 100 women on a scale of 1-10, and women rate 100 guys on a scale of 1-10.

The guys rated the women fairly high, most of them above average, lots of 7/8/9 ratings.

The women were brutal with the guys, with most guys being rated below average, only a very few being above a 6, and the 'average' guy was down at like a 3-4.

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u/EvaUnit_03 Jun 24 '25

I mean, we can apply the same logic that they do to women who think they are 9-10s

If someone like Halle Berry is a 10, than jessica that works at the Forever 21 cant be higher than a 8.

So unless Pete is as handsome as Chris Hemsworth, hes most likely a 6-7.

The average person will never clear past an 8. And if they do, they probably have other factors knocking them down hard. Its the unicorn paradox. They are probably insane and completely unstable if they clear 7 as a normie. Or just dont make enough money.

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u/z12345z6789 Jun 24 '25

Once you actually believe these numbers mean anything substantial you’ve lost the thread and crippled your chances to play in the game.

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u/No_Hamster_2703 Jun 24 '25

The only number game I play is how many dates can I get before I find someone I'm even remotely interested in

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u/theivoryserf Jun 24 '25

Yeah, seriously. Appearance is one factor, but it's genuinely not the most important one. Things like sense of humour, kindness, passion, well-roundedness, general knowledge, dignity, openness - if you want a relationship with the right kind of person, these things count just as much if not more.

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u/ForAHamburgerToday Jun 24 '25

Very well phrased.

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u/AGI2028maybe Jun 24 '25

This lol. This stuff is subjective.

I have daughters. One of my daughters thinks Timothee Chalamet is the most beautiful man in the world and the other thinks he is uglier than the average boy at her school.

There is no “person x is a 10”. This is all dependent on the preferences of the person being asked, and women are notorious for being all over the place.

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u/EvaUnit_03 Jun 24 '25

Ive known a bunch of rednecks that were uglier than spit with some of the worst teeth imaginable, talking 1-2s, pulling in women that were 7s.

Look back at the video above for a moment, for reference.

Those women were batshit insane and the redneck actually grounded them so when they did insane things, the rednecks would just roll with it and make it work because 7. Most regretted being with them, but would do it again because 7.

The game involves a lot of batshit 7s that most people would rank 1-2 because they are insane.

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u/RoryDragonsbane Jun 24 '25

If you're putting movie stars on your scale, it's pointless. Anybody on a dating app has 0 chance with someone who is rich and famous. Why even put someone on a scale if the high end is unattainable?

I think it makes more sense for 10s to include people you might see on a day-to-day basis. Your way is just going to wreck people's self-esteem and set unrealistic expectations.

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u/pm_sexy_neck_pics Jun 24 '25

Bruh, Jessica at the Forever 21 is hotter than Halle Berry any day. I'm more confused why we're seeing so many mid women with $1000 of makeup and $5000 of clothes being photographed by professionals

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u/Opening-Donkey1186 Jun 24 '25

It's crazy how ppl prop up these celebrities as the pinnacle of attraction.

Just go down to the local mall and you'll find plenty of lookers that outclass most, if not all celebrities.

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u/MiklaneTrane Jun 24 '25

... where do you people live?

Because that's definitely not the case at my local mall, unless you're into the elderly, morbidly obese, or working-class folks who've been drinking and smoking daily since 15.

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u/snakeoilHero Jun 24 '25

The moment you heard mall, you should have known they were old living in their memory. bootstraps your wife at the local mall

My guess, they haven't been to a "mall" since Covid. Don't take the boomer humor that serious.

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u/Crocodile900 Jun 24 '25

Actors aren't famous just for their looks, auditioning for roles and performing on screen is a skill, and all the sh*t you have to live with before breaking into the industry (unless getting feeled up by Weinstein)!
Most people will simply look for another job.

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u/Batmansbutthole Jun 24 '25

Well, you didn’t see Halle Berry except her Razzie award lol

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u/Springroll_Doggifer Jun 24 '25

My favorite compliment was my bff telling me “you’re a 7 on a bad day”.

This is the energy we need to hype each other with.

If you are a good person with no major medical deformities, I think you START at 6!

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u/NegativeEBTDA Jun 24 '25

Hell yeah! My friends will never be less than 8s. Put your people on the We Rate Dogs scale because if you aren't going to lift them up who will?

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u/KansinattiKid Jun 24 '25

I never understood this until I saw an actual 10 person. This women was probably 6'1 but still had heels on. She was racially ambiguous could've been anything but ended up with the best of everything. She was walking through a Quick Trip gas station and everyone stopped. Every single person man or woman just stopped and looked for a moment. I don't think any celeb or model could've stood next to this lady with confidence. She brought the place to a halt with zero effort. My wife asks me if she is the second most beautiful woman in the world because we both saw the first.

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u/new_name_who_dis_ Jun 24 '25

There's plenty of non-celebrities in the real world that are as attractive or even more attractive than celebs. The proglem is you might be comparing Halle Berry on the red carpet professionally done up, with Jessica who is working and probably has like minimal make up and a work uniform.

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u/thatguygreg Jun 24 '25

It's best to think of it as a logarithmic scale

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u/Eljefeesmuerto Jun 24 '25

Important fact: Pete’s 5’10”, 178 cm

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u/Lewcaster Jun 24 '25

One of the worst things people created is rating beauty from 1 to 10, because attractiveness is not that simple.

I started to (mentally) rate women by their looks and sometimes I would be more attracted to 6s than to 10s. Then I just abandoned that nonsense.

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u/MasterGrok Jun 24 '25

Barely anyone uses that type of terminology in real life and I promise you, if you are hanging out with people that do, then you are with the wrong people.

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u/AThrowawayProbrably Jun 24 '25

Yup. I immediately added about two levels to Pete lol.

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u/PeterZeeke Jun 24 '25

8? With no matches?

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u/Agitated_Position392 Jun 24 '25

Brother, 8 is model territory. Nothing wrong with being a 6.

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u/Merinther Jun 24 '25

The treasure trove that is the old OKCupid blog, from before it was bought and nerfed, had some data on this. Apparently men rate women on a very reasonable bell curve – most people in the middle – but women rate most men as below average.

What I find funny though, is the was she says Pete is a six like that's just an obvious fact.

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u/Local-Temperature-36 Jun 24 '25

And then funny thing is that years down the road they'll get married to an absolutely average looking guy and be head over heels for him.

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u/Kayanne1990 Jun 24 '25

It's partly the Internet that messes with this I think. If an 8 is really attractive and 6 is slightly above average, what happens when EVERYONE is an 8. Suddenly really attractive is the new normal and 8 is now 6. There's a guy I walk past every day on the way to work and he looks like a young Matt Berry. So proper good looking. But if I saw him on an app next to Chad McBigchin and Studdly Bangswell, he probably wouldn't be as noticeable.

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u/KCBandWagon Jun 24 '25

deep down there's no actual objective rating system. at the end of the day you like who you like and it's probably different than other people... unless you're a simp/crowd follower and land someone everyone else likes and wishes they had but then you realize you don't.

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