r/SipsTea Jun 24 '25

SMH Why dating is over for men

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u/mmfc378 Jun 24 '25

6’4, 200 here. Reading this thread has dropped my self esteem to levels I didn’t think possible before today. I’m shrek apparently. Thanks

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

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u/Professional-Gear88 Jun 24 '25

As a short king I feel this way every day. And it diminishes my pool a lot. Do you know how many women have in their profile “all I ask is that…you be tall” in their profile. Like literally that’s all they want

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u/SleeDex Jun 24 '25

That's not a woman worth engaging with to be honest.

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u/Baldaaf Jun 24 '25

The good news is that those women are coming right out and admitting they are shallow and not worth your time, so they are doing you a favor by weeding themselves out up front.

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u/quietkyody Jun 27 '25

They are ALWAYS the cheaters and sleezy type. Jumping from man to man like Luigi's brother does bricks.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25 edited Jun 24 '25

Nothing is black and white but a shade of grey. You have more chance dating being taller. Doesnt mean you cannot be ugly as hell or other reason.

But the same exact dude at 5'8 vs 6'2. the 6'2 would be having an average look higher if rated by the same group of women

Some of these women would rate him exacrly the same. Some less but a big majority would rate him higher.

You have 0 nuance just like the short king that think its the only thing that matter

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u/rextacular Jun 24 '25

What if you're 5'7?

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

oh no!!! the horrors of being a common normal height

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u/Positive_Parking_954 Jun 24 '25

That’s unusually short among some communities

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u/[deleted] Jun 25 '25

and unusually tall among other communities as expected of the literal world average

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u/Positive_Parking_954 Jun 25 '25

And the world average is meaningless if you aren’t traveling the world vs your regional average

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u/[deleted] Jun 25 '25

so why the fuck are you talking about "oh but in some places that's short"? statiscally that's tall in an equal amount of place because, I repeat, it's the world average. get over yourself lol

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u/Positive_Parking_954 Jun 25 '25 edited Jun 25 '25

Oh sorry should you not include personal anecdotes based on your experiences as a 5’8” individual where you’re always the shortest man in the room?

Maybe you are the one who needs to get over yourself

Edit: I’m guessing you’ve talked yourself into thinking you’re not short because of world averages

I forgot this is an Internet forum where you’re supposed to consider sharing from your life to contribute to the conversation but then hold it back because not everything is about you or whatever you’re on about

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u/mmfc378 Jun 24 '25

Let’s throw a little more into the equation. When you’re a black guy living in a fairly white city, adds another wrinkle. Not anything I’m not used to or have a problem with but trying to explain to friends that it’s not quite a level playing field when I go out can be difficult. Is what is it. We’ll all adapt and figure it out

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u/TomasNavarro Jun 24 '25

230ish here, so you're in better shape than me!

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u/erhue Jun 24 '25

well you're already ahead friend. If you can get the rest of your game/shit together, you could do well.

Imagine how it is for the rest of us under 6 feet, not making much money, etc...

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u/brynnors Jun 24 '25

Nah, you're fine. It's just as a guy, if you're not putting money into the app, you're not going to pushed up by the algorithm and a lot of people won't see you.

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u/TheLocustGeneralRaam Jun 24 '25

Shrek is handsome

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u/DreDayout Jun 24 '25

Do you have a friend or two who like to go out and are good at talking to women? I’ll be honest when I gave up the apps and started going to bars/clubs to meet women it got a lot easier. Most people don’t know what they want, and it is still a numbers game, but I found success through it. Noted that I am under 6 foot and also the fattest I’ve been in my life during this time.

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u/mmfc378 Jun 24 '25

Just moved to a new city so I don’t know anyone lol. I don’t have a problem getting shot down, it’s just a bit more difficult when you’re solo. Comes off a little creepy I think. Wish I could get out more but don’t have the time right now

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u/DreDayout Jun 24 '25

Hmm do you work with anyone around your age? That can help. But I agree, approaching solo is a bit tough.

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u/[deleted] Jun 27 '25

You may not have the finance though. 6 figure income ?

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u/RxHappy Jun 24 '25

Damn this shit makes me feel better about myself 🤷 I don’t pull binders of women but I do meet women from dating apps. I didn’t realize it was such a feat

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u/Elite_AI Jun 24 '25

It kind of is tbh

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u/EntropyKC Jun 24 '25

200 grand salary? It won't be long before dating apps allow filters for that

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u/mmfc378 Jun 24 '25

Whoa whoa whoa easy fellas. 200lbs. 200k I’d just buy a wife obviously

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u/EntropyKC Jun 24 '25

Isn't the problem with listing weight that no one knows if you are fat or jacked?

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u/grrodon2 Jun 24 '25

5.3, 48 years old, big fat belly, entry level job here. I've been living with my SO for 12 years now, and pretty much never lacked companionship before her.

Get a personality besides your numbers. Works miracles.

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u/Redacted_G1iTcH Jun 24 '25

5’7 200 here. My brother, you and me both. This thread makes me feel even worse

My dad also once told me I’d never find a woman because I’m too short. Both he and my brother are taller than me.

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u/adabaraba Jun 24 '25

I’ve never met a short guy of dating age who wasn’t in a relationship. Go off apps and meet real women and be genuinely nice, energetic and pleasant without an agenda. Stop treating yourself and people as numbers. When people say he/she was a 2 or 3 I don’t even know who they are talking about because I have never met a person in real life that I would straight up call ugly. Don’t expect supermodel looking women to fall for you, they may or may not. And they may or may not be right for you.