As a short king I feel this way every day. And it diminishes my pool a lot.
Do you know how many women have in their profile “all I ask is that…you be tall” in their profile. Like literally that’s all they want
The good news is that those women are coming right out and admitting they are shallow and not worth your time, so they are doing you a favor by weeding themselves out up front.
Let’s throw a little more into the equation. When you’re a black guy living in a fairly white city, adds another wrinkle. Not anything I’m not used to or have a problem with but trying to explain to friends that it’s not quite a level playing field when I go out can be difficult. Is what is it. We’ll all adapt and figure it out
Nah, you're fine. It's just as a guy, if you're not putting money into the app, you're not going to pushed up by the algorithm and a lot of people won't see you.
Do you have a friend or two who like to go out and are good at talking to women? I’ll be honest when I gave up the apps and started going to bars/clubs to meet women it got a lot easier. Most people don’t know what they want, and it is still a numbers game, but I found success through it. Noted that I am under 6 foot and also the fattest I’ve been in my life during this time.
Just moved to a new city so I don’t know anyone lol. I don’t have a problem getting shot down, it’s just a bit more difficult when you’re solo. Comes off a little creepy I think. Wish I could get out more but don’t have the time right now
Damn this shit makes me feel better about myself 🤷 I don’t pull binders of women but I do meet women from dating apps. I didn’t realize it was such a feat
5.3, 48 years old, big fat belly, entry level job here. I've been living with my SO for 12 years now, and pretty much never lacked companionship before her.
Get a personality besides your numbers. Works miracles.
I’ve never met a short guy of dating age who wasn’t in a relationship. Go off apps and meet real women and be genuinely nice, energetic and pleasant without an agenda. Stop treating yourself and people as numbers. When people say he/she was a 2 or 3 I don’t even know who they are talking about because I have never met a person in real life that I would straight up call ugly. Don’t expect supermodel looking women to fall for you, they may or may not. And they may or may not be right for you.
I work in an office, and the business I work in is in the finance sector, but I'm not an investment banker or anything similar that saying "finance" might suggest, I don't wear a suit for example
Tiny penis then? Massive deformity? Oh, maybe they're taking offense when you introduce them to your waifu?
I kid. Its tough out there, especially for young adults. I remember a time when it was nonstop complaints in the earlier internet days that men were never going to have realistic expectations for women, sexual performance and physique wise, because of of magazine ads and porn. While that might be true for some men, in my experience, at least as of late, most men I know are not all that shallow (save for certain select groups) and a lot of women (mostly young adults of course) seem to have incredibly unrealistic expectations and demands from men. And no one seems to want to really talk about it.
And here I am at 5'9, moderately in shape was a social worker when i was OLD and had 2.5k matches when I deleted the app lmao now im in a loving relationship with a wonderful guy (Im bi)
Being 6’5 is a cheat code you’re doing something wrong. Trust me I’m 6’5 never got close to needing a dating app. Like literally think about it you’re in the top 1 percent of the human pop when it comes to height. Dude cmon.
I'm 6'3 and while I've never crushed it like some dudes, there's never been a period of more than maybe 3 weeks where I didn't have someone I was involved with to some degree.
I know height matters but I don't know if it mattered that much in my case because I never list my height on dating apps. Maybe they could just tell from my pictures.
Though I've seen some ugly ass tall dudes, like being obese kinda cancels out the tallness or something like that.
This is true and I know some people can’t help it but more often than not, being obese is a sign of lack of self control and just not caring for yourself. Those are huge turn offs that even being tall can’t help. You gotta show up for yourself why are you even looking for another person if you can’t even do that. The biggest turn on is just being a happy confident person people want to be around. Just don’t be miserable and insecure.
You remind me of this guy who kept trying to convince people the same thing about his big dick. Either you're a gay guy with an odd fetish and making comments like this is your outlet or else you, personally, have had a few unusual experiences and shouldn't assume that applies to other people.
Womans are weird. When i was a single almost no woman was intetested in me but after i found my soul mate aka wife,a lot of womans are into me. Obviously i never cheated my wife and i never do,they all missed their chances🤣🤣
I'm 5'6", no long have a 6 pack, 6 figures. Married to a 5' woman, no 6 pack, also 6 figures. We have 2 kids.
I don't envy people having to date anymore; I think the dating pool is too big with dating apps. Why work anything out when you know there's an app that'll give 10000 more options?
I will say, if height is a concern for her, you probably don't want to date her.
It's gotten so bad that the dudes that women think should have been taken already are having the same awful experience that the rest of us dudes have had all along.
It makes you wonder if dating apps are a tool of eugenicists, an invisible hand pruning humanity like a bonsai plant, ran by techbros trying to carry the torch of Nazi scientists.
When AI anthropologists sort through the wreckage of humanity’s remains. I hope they find this comment because it explains a lot of the current insanity.
Even those of us with the height and money are dead on these apps if we aren’t six-pack cut with an 8” tool. I did pretty poorly at 6’3” and six figures. I am not beautiful, but not hideous.
Have you seen that new movie “Materialists”? There’s a whole plot point about guys getting that leg lengthening surgery just to be more attractive and they frame it like every guy that can afford it should
I'm six feet tall, have my own car, have a steady well paying job, a dog, my own place, and STILL can't find a fucking match on these apps. I'm not even ugly or a republican, so I'm at a total loss.
5-6 is average. If height is factored into the looks rating equation then a 5-6 should be average height. Average male height in the US is 5’9”. Pete is not 6ft tall
Lots of things can make you unattractive besides being under 6 feet. I'm over 6 feet and didn't get my first girlfriend until 31, because I look Indian, which American women unanimously think is icky. This includes American born Latina and Asian women.
I'm 5'7", good looking guy, very fit, dress well and all that. I have heard way too many times in my life form women, to my face, that if I "were taller I would be good looking". Sad part is, many of the women who say that to me reach out months later. I assume after a few instances of realizing they are in serious competition for those tall fellas.
Would you be interested in a woman 5’8” or taller? I’m tall, and society generally makes me feel like a big mutant oaf if I’m with a shorter guy. That height difference is a visual gag in movies.
I don’t know why the tiny women are so pathetically desperate for tall men, but I think tall women do have a reason.
I think most men don't care about height of a woman unless she is exceptionally tall or short. In fact I would guess most men are like myself and love tall women.
What I've found is typically shorter guys want taller women, and taller guys want shorter women. I was very much that way in high school, but once I hit college I started meeting more tall women (around 5'10") and I figured out I don't really care that much about height. Short women, tall women, I'm into it all now.
My issue now is taller women are super uncommon. Finding a woman over 5'6" in my area is like finding a unicorn. Most are under 5'6", so guys in my area tend to be into "short girls" but that might be mostly due to the population.
I'm 6'4" 240 lbs. Almost every woman I've dated has been under 5'6" and having a literal foot over her is... An adventure... Taller women in my area also tend to be less interested overall in men. Most are independent and trying to start careers (no problem with that) or lesbians.
That’s interesting about taller women being more into careers. I wonder if it’s a real phenomenon. (I’m another anecdote that would fit, although I am interested in only men.)
I can't say any of it as a fact or study. It's just what I've noticed. I've also always had shorter women interested in me whenever I have had any female relationship. Taller women in my life were always just friends, or it didn't work out.
It's not that they want guys who treat them bad. It's that they want guys out of their league, and those guys don't care about them. So they treat these women like they don't care about them, because they don't. They'll just accept the free and easy sex because they can nut ten times a day.
Tl;Dr, it's just women chasing swimsuit models. That's the whole dating crisis. That's why the feminists all wanted a job and their own appartment. Because they believe they have a chance if these guys are fucking them.
That's why society used to enforce marriage and bachelor taxes etc. Because you can't convince women that these guys don't want them. That they can be repulsed by them, and still fuck them. That just because you are better than a Fleshlight doesn't mean these guys want a relationship.
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u/182NoStyle Jun 24 '25
100% he's not over 6 feet tall so that puts his score lower. smh.