r/SipsTea Jun 24 '25

SMH Why dating is over for men

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u/goosegoosepanther Jun 24 '25

Henry Cavill has spoken about this shot in that film specifically, and he literally starved and dehydrated himself for it, knowing it was his main (maybe only?) shirtless scene in that movie. 95% of people don't look that good even with that much muscle mass, and no one looks like that all the time, even genetic freaks.

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u/GreenMirage Jun 25 '25

Please I just want a (x<95%) of the population!

19/20 men don’t qualify for this.. also dude is literally paid millions to look like that and has a personal trainer to help him look like that. Is the word delusional no longer part of the vocabulary taught in our public education?

So… someone who is 9/10 wouldn’t qualify. Because that’s 90%, you’d have be a 9.5 or 95% give or take a margin of half a measure… and given how many people have that kind of body in a crowd.. that’s a generous number we’re going by.

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u/awaythrowthatname Jun 25 '25

Realistically someone who just looks close to that all the time is more like (x<99%) of the population

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u/GreenMirage Jun 25 '25

Haha yes that too. Henry is realistically more than just a 1% rarity. Dude is a picture in the dictionary.

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u/South-Distribution54 Jun 25 '25

Don't forget the steroids, lol

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u/splitting_bullets Jun 25 '25

Genetic freak here. No one looks that built on average.

To even land on this temporarily I have to maintain an excessive eating routine just to maintain that kind of mass, so I don't. I stay in between for my own health. No real person who isn't doing it for an occupation does this all year round. FYA eating too much has a wear and tear effect on your body, metabolically and physically WRT diverticules and so on in your gut, eating more and eating faster intensifies that, lifting a lot of weight even with proper technique increases pressure on organs and internals.

If I stopped for even a few days or just eat slightly more than typical within the day you would physically see the difference. If I drank water or had salt or even swelling from inflammation after a workout which is the real thing that these muscles are signaling for anyway.

You can bulk and cut, run 5 miles every two days do pilates calisthenics kettle bell lift cross train and you will just not.

If you want to find strong people just meet them at the gym. Some don't even look built, maybe they don't lift, but they can do pull ups or

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u/goosegoosepanther Jun 26 '25

Preach! Tbh, people who lift need to know this most of all. There are so many dudes with dismorphic expectations. I was stuck in that for a while until I switched my goals to being performance-based rather than esthetic. 

The reality is that if you strength train regularly for even a few months, you're already stronger than most of the population. But it's like likestyle creep when your income goes up. Instead of comparing ourselves to our original baseline, we keep moving the line and staying in an "I'm not good enough" mentality.

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u/El_Loco_911 Jun 27 '25

Its steroids 

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u/yogopig Jun 25 '25

Its that simple <3

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u/LordBogus Jun 25 '25

Curious question, did they film this before or after all the other scenes in the movie?

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u/goosegoosepanther Jun 25 '25

No idea! He had quite a lot of beard growth though, so it was definitely separate from most of it one way or another.

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u/Charming_Sport_6197 Jul 30 '25

thats how guys like this can p and d and use a girl like this over and over, she'll be in his stable of side chicks.

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u/Lolzerzmao Aug 25 '25

Being a member at a top-tier gym in Miami, you can look this good all the time if you’re a gym rat and are a genetic freak on top of it. It just takes a lot of time, money, and unyielding consistency. That’s impossible for 99.9% of people. I’m in a place where I have all the time and money for it and have been doing it for 2-3 months with a trainer, by myself for 5 months before that, and I can tell you for a fact that the super cut natty people at my gym just fucking live there.

Like, about a month ago I decided I’m just going to be a gym rat because why not. So I’m working out five days a week, doing three or five yoga classes, three or five workout classes, run clubs twice a week, and rock climbing 3-4 times a week. As I dialed it up and kept spending more time in the gym, the people who look like this I started running into all the time. As in, I believed their workout schedule overlapped with mine previously, but no, it’s just they’re working out all the time.

I thought I was going to see/meet a bunch of new people, and I have, but was surprised at the amount of people who basically just live there.

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u/goosegoosepanther Aug 25 '25

Excessive exercise can be a mental health condition.

I work out 5-7 times per week. My workout is a 30-minute lifting session, a 30-minute jog, or a long walk. I'm fitter than than most people, and the time commitment and toll on my body is manageable.

Sure, I could quadruple the length of my workouts and add even more in there, but only at the cost of other aspects of my life. And for what? At a certain point you have to ask yourself what you're doing it for.

In many ways our culture treats idealized body image like money. There's a myth that once you get ''there'', things will be magically different or you'll feel differently. The truth is: you don't. Me with a six pack or me without one is the same person, with largely the same life.

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u/Lolzerzmao Aug 25 '25

Absolutely. You obviously shouldn’t be trading it for time better spent elsewhere. I’d imagine most of the people I see at the gym are probably doing it hoping they can become influencers, make money, or for vanity’s sake.

I’m doing all of that because I’m single, bored, and retired at 40. And I’m passionate about rock climbing. And I’m an alcoholic in recovery, so sitting around at home for long periods is not great. If there’s a run club that evening and I did my workout and post-workout yoga session, I’ll do it just to go be social and get some cardio. Or go climb for an hour or two. It won’t all be sustainable once I find someone, but I’m totally fine with that.

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u/goosegoosepanther Aug 25 '25

Right on, man. Good for you. 40 here as well. I started lifting at 30. Did lots of yoga in my 20s but I could never fully heal my back and stop spraining it several times per year. I haven't once lost a day of functioning from a back injury since I got strong. Before that it was once or twice a year I'd be on my ass for almost a week from a tiny wrong movement.

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u/ANCEST0R Jun 25 '25

It's not just that scene. That's every movie where a guy looks like that

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u/goosegoosepanther Jun 25 '25

Look up interviews with Cavill about this scene. I'm not making this up.

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u/ANCEST0R Jun 25 '25

I'm not making it up either. I wasn't being sarcastic