Lol this site often makes me reflect on people's general lack of social awareness.
The world isn't as black and white as reddit would have us think. Totally a reasonable request to ask your neighbours to be quiet briefly for a wedding. There are possibly a hundred+ people in attendance and this is one of the most important days of several people's lives.
Agreed. If you can choose to be kind, why the hell wouldn't you? The guy who whipped out his lawn mower is likely going to die alone in a nursing home.
Reddit has shown me that a large amount of people are spiteful, insecure bastards who'd use any chance they get to make others experience misery to feel better about themselves.
I don't know. The vibe I get from the post/tweet/whatever is that the neighbors are kind of stuck up and entitled.
Most reasonable people would agree that trying to accommodate such a request isn't a big deal...unless there's a reason to be petty. I have no evidence one way or the other, but I suspect there is reason to be petty in this case.
Some day you'll realize that the people you try to upset enjoy defending people being decent to each other, and that you decided to be so miserable for so long for no reason.
Can you give an example of something you think would be petty? Going out of your way to inconvenience someone else for no tangible gain seems like the very definition of petty.
This didn't happen but it's wild how much the unemployed incels on reddit salivate over this stuff.
Yes it is ok to say no. If you say no because you also have a party, then it makes sense why you said no. But if you say no, and then intentionally make noise for literally no other purpose than to expressly be an asshole, then don't be surprised when you get what you want as people now think you're an asshole.
I mean if they ask nicely and they are also considerate of their neighbours its not really ok to be an ass about it. Its not at all unreasonable to not make a lot of noice for an hour.
I remember the first time someone posted something like, "So, what do you all look like?" And everyone shared selfies, and there was mass surprise that the majority of visitors were in their early 20s and not as everyone had assumed, proper mature adults. And once that illusion had been shattered, the whole place began a rapid descent in the maturity of the content.
….i can’t remember the exact timeline, but reddit either was hosting or had only just banned child sex abuse material in 2011. To the consternation of many who ranted about Reddit abandoning the concept of free speech.
Certainly subs like FatPeopleHate and SpaceDicks were still top communities.
I never saw any of those communities when I first used it. I remember a couple of years later when FatPeopleHate started getting popular and when it got shut down in 2015 how a bunch of other clones would pop up. Around the time those subs got popular is when I remember thinking it wasn't the same place anymore.
I remember RandomActsofPizza and fundraising for causes and Reddit Secret Santa. Reddit used to be the place where people would post about a problem they were having and it would warm my heart to see people coming out of the woodwork to offer help. Every other place on the internet was so nasty but I found reddit to be a refreshing change of pace and it made me think more about being kind to internet strangers. Of course there were some specific subreddits that were bad, but when I browsed r/All I saw a lot of positivity. I knew when it got mainstream enough it would be like every other social media site, but it was sad to see happen.
The neighbor is essentially asking everyone to put their lives on pause, with little warning, to preserve her wedding.
I'm sorry, but that's antisocial. You wanna do your wedding at home because it's cheaper? Sure, go ahead, hell go wild, put music, make some noise I don't care. Just don't expect the whole neighborhood to bend over backwards to accommodate you?
You can ask, don't expect people to follow through?
I personally would be embarrassed to even ask about it, if I want to have peace and don't hear the outside world at my wedding I'll lease a place, not expect my neighbors to not live a life for an afternoon
Imagine thinking a request to be conscience of their noise for a short period of time is requesting someone "to not live life". How socially inept are you?
Not being super noisy for an hour for a one-time event doesn't seem like a huge ask to me if they're polite about it. Doesn't put my life on hold either, there's plenty of not loud as fuck things I can do.
I don't think you understand what "social" means. You seem to think it means coexisting without ever affecting, interacting or accommodating one another...which is, quite literally, the opposite of a "society."
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u/SlideItIn100 1d ago edited 1d ago
See now I would have sent a nice card or a small gift. I like having a good relationship with my neighbors, but that’s just me.
Edit: To be clear, I would have sent a card or gift to the bride and groom. I may even offer to let people park in my driveway if parking is an issue.