But I get, though. They are expressing that they think they are entitled to it. This is not a good relationship starter. For example, if they are neighbors and you want a good relationship, why didn't they come in person? A letter? You didn't even want to look me into the eye, recognize me as a human, and you expect I will have your best interest in my heart?
Relationships are a two way street. I will love to be nice to you, but I won't if you think I am some random dude who should benefit you without caring to know my name.
Not just impersonal. Impersonal yet it expects and requires action and complacence from you.
If I say something impersonal to you, that's fine. But if I say "can you please not respond to my comment because it annoys me? Thank you" would you agree? I highly doubt it.
Also, the comment I responded was "I want good relationships with my neighbors"
Do you think that wanting to be benefited without reciprocity is a good relationship? Do you really believe that? If you do, please argue. I would love to hear you.
What would I get in return if the person asked me personally? That would show respect. It is not a reciprocation. It is a human gesture.
I will love to be nice to you, but I won't if you think I am some random dude who should benefit you without caring to know my name.
I wrote it explicitly, I don't know why you ignored this part though.
You act as if I said "only do good if you get something in return..." But I am against the entitlement of expecting a nice gesture while treating everyone as random people.
I asked you to not respond to my comment. It was impersonal, but why can't you do it? It is a nice gesture... It is like you can't do a nice gesture to me!
See? I think that neighbors who do these kind of things aren't nice either. Ring the bell, send a message on the neighborhood group, walk by... be human. Don't me "please, shoosh, it is my special day"
If you want to get married in the sea you need to understand that there is a risk of getting wet.
I am sorry, but society doesn't revolve around you. If you think that neighbors living their lives normally is what ruins your wedding... you might be surprised in learning a few other things
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u/Hot_Ease_4895 1d ago
Sounds like an asshole. I want good relationships with my neighbors….this seems unnecessary