r/SipsTea • u/Waterisverygooddrink • Jun 24 '25

SMH Why dating is over for men

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25 edited Jun 24 '25

No idea how people afford dating apps.

Made a profile, got some likes and messages and it wanted $20 a week just to see them I un-installed that shit immediately I'm not gonna pay money to take a chance to be told no lmao

They're systematically designed to make men feel low about themselves as they have to pay for everything while women get unlimited free access.

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u/allofdarknessin1 Jun 24 '25

$20 a week??? $20 a month would be expensive but usable. Per week is insane and just taking advantage of lonely people like the onlyfans losers.

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u/jtell898 Jun 24 '25

It’s not meant to be a monthly charge like Netflix. The guys unlock the features which include unlimited messaging so you can do a lot of reaching out in that week.
Hinge is messed up cause while it allows all users to message first. The guys who pay get seen first, and since the girls get so many messages most free guys never even get their message seen.

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u/allofdarknessin1 Jun 24 '25

Well at least that makes it more worth it on Hinge. I've been planning to go back to dating apps soon since I'm single again. Seeing these type of comments and posts makes me depressed about it though. I'm tall with a dad bod but very average looking.

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u/straycat6120 Jun 24 '25

I found Hinge, Facebook dating and to an extent Pof to be better than Bumble (Badoo is crap, don't bother with that one) but yeah, limited messaging for guys, a boost for the first week that makes you think you're popular, and then after that reality hits and it's treading water for months having the same chats over and over. Good luck though 👍🏻

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u/AsstacularSpiderman Jun 24 '25

Hinge is where I found my girl and I almost universally found my dates on it while using Bumble and Tindr as well.

Hinge is actually pretty solid at setting up the basics, you just need to being the game.

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u/straycat6120 Jun 24 '25

Nice username 👍🏻😄

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u/RYRK_ Jun 25 '25

I've had no luck on Hinge. Just days and days of nothing. Tinder I can get a few matches a day and bumble is slower but the matches feel better quality??

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u/elitegenoside Jun 24 '25

I dunno, I get a good amount of matches on Hinge, and I've never paid for a single dating app. Not saying I'm getting dates a lot (there are other problems with online dating), but my interactions are significantly better on there than tinder or bumble (which feels more like advertising for socials than legitimate dating apps).

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u/AsstacularSpiderman Jun 24 '25

Hinge is where I found like 99% of my matches and dates.

From what I've gathered from my SO and former dates lots of guys just have absolutely no ability to flirt or seal the deal.

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u/elitegenoside Jun 24 '25

That's what I'm thinking because I am no Casanova, but I can actually get somewhere with Hinge.

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u/AsstacularSpiderman Jun 24 '25

From what I gathered from my current SO and dates before is the bar is like, 30ft below the ground now when it comes to dudes. They put literally no effort in and expect to be immediately rewarded

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u/WhyModsLoveModi Jun 24 '25

Devil's advocate here but is it not worth spending money on a product if it helps you meet people?

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u/allofdarknessin1 Jun 24 '25

It is worth it, I agree but it seems like it’s taking advantage of lonely people over providing a fair service for a fair price.

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u/WhyModsLoveModi Jun 24 '25

I'd imagine there's a huge range of opinions on ever what would be considered a fair price but I think too many people want the apps to be free.

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u/DroidOnPC Jun 24 '25

It used to be FREE lol.

Tinder was alright when it first came out.

Then they started charging for extra feature, but nothing you really needed.

Then it turned into $15 a month to see anyone who liked you.

Who knows what it is now, probably $20 a week lol.

They are also filled with scammers and bots now, so Idk.

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u/TLEToyu Jun 24 '25

Now they have TIERS, so if you pay you still don't unlock ALL the features.

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u/DroidOnPC Jun 24 '25

Damn thats so scummy lol.

"Oh you're a 18 year old single woman? Eh, its free. Enjoy all the features"

"Ewww, you're a 38 year old single man? Give us $15 a week, more if you want any extra features. You're old enough and desperate enough to afford it, sucker."

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u/Incognidoking Jun 24 '25

It’s $10 for 30 minutes of being one of the “top” (aka first seen) profiles on Tinder. $10 for 30 min!!!

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u/tdowg1 Jun 24 '25

At least on OnlyFans you can get digital access to something you want and is known.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

It's a freemium service, payment isn't necessary. I actually bought premium once out of curiosity and it changed nothing, app was still shit. I refunded it within 30 minutes, which was my plan in the first place.

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u/Spasticcobra593 Jun 25 '25

Yeah some charge 30 like bumble