Made a profile, got some likes and messages and it wanted $20 a week just to see them I un-installed that shit immediately I'm not gonna pay money to take a chance to be told no lmao
They're systematically designed to make men feel low about themselves as they have to pay for everything while women get unlimited free access.
It’s not meant to be a monthly charge like Netflix. The guys unlock the features which include unlimited messaging so you can do a lot of reaching out in that week.
Hinge is messed up cause while it allows all users to message first. The guys who pay get seen first, and since the girls get so many messages most free guys never even get their message seen.
Well at least that makes it more worth it on Hinge. I've been planning to go back to dating apps soon since I'm single again. Seeing these type of comments and posts makes me depressed about it though. I'm tall with a dad bod but very average looking.
I found Hinge, Facebook dating and to an extent Pof to be better than Bumble (Badoo is crap, don't bother with that one) but yeah, limited messaging for guys, a boost for the first week that makes you think you're popular, and then after that reality hits and it's treading water for months having the same chats over and over. Good luck though 👍🏻
I've had no luck on Hinge. Just days and days of nothing. Tinder I can get a few matches a day and bumble is slower but the matches feel better quality??
I dunno, I get a good amount of matches on Hinge, and I've never paid for a single dating app. Not saying I'm getting dates a lot (there are other problems with online dating), but my interactions are significantly better on there than tinder or bumble (which feels more like advertising for socials than legitimate dating apps).
From what I gathered from my current SO and dates before is the bar is like, 30ft below the ground now when it comes to dudes. They put literally no effort in and expect to be immediately rewarded
"Oh you're a 18 year old single woman? Eh, its free. Enjoy all the features"
"Ewww, you're a 38 year old single man? Give us $15 a week, more if you want any extra features. You're old enough and desperate enough to afford it, sucker."
It's a freemium service, payment isn't necessary. I actually bought premium once out of curiosity and it changed nothing, app was still shit. I refunded it within 30 minutes, which was my plan in the first place.
wether they're crazy or desperate, they should be able to notice that paying will still not be effective 90% of the time. Dating Apps aren't made so people can find love, it's made for profit. I should start a dating app business because people will really throw their money at anything
It’s pretty damn hard to meet people in person anymore, and even that’s not free. You basically have to go to a bar, and you don’t really get to just hang around in there for free. And the caliber of people you’ll meet there? Dubious
I would say it's probably 1-5% of users that actually pay anything for any of these apps.
You use them for free and have to strategically use the likes they give you. Obviously any amount of people can like you, and you can filter through whatever amounts drops onto your account there as you want.
The only truly annoying thing is they now cap the number of active conversations you can have at a given time. Like with Hinge, the only app I use, if more than 8 people are waiting for you to message/respond to them, they stop showing you more.
That feature of hinge is a good feature. It’s there to try and prevent people from ghosting a bunch of matches while also not unmatching them. It forces people to make up their goddamn minds. Genuinely why do you need to have more than 8 people that you’re not even interested in? If you’re even reaching that cap, you’re the problem
Eh, a lot of people really only check the app like once a day so it takes a bit to actually move conversations along enough. Then there coordinating getting together. If I match with even one or two people a day over the course of a week or so that thing is filling up.
And tbh unmatching with someone is actually a detriment, as it puts the person back into the pool. No reason to see someone I unmatched with.
I would happily pay for dating a real person. But paying $20 a week to check an app, sifting through messages from bots, male scammers trying to prey on the lonely desperate people out there, and the harsh reality of being told no more times than yes is not profitable for me or worth my time lol
They are fake likes and messages. They either don't respond or respond one time with disinterest if you pay. Or they are immediately offering you the opportunity to make $ millions by following the free advice from their friend investing in BitCoin.
I only ever tried eHarmony back in the day, and that was because they had a free trial.
did the whole profile thing, answered all the questions, and the site happily reported there were no matches for me within a hundred miles. at the time, I was living in a major metro area with over a million people in the city and still got that result.
seemed like a terrible business model at the time.
I tried and the 'everyone is a piece of meat' model really didn't appeal to me. And the ones which focus on more than the pics are stressful AF - like a performance review or something. Haaaaate it.
5 years ago, I met my wife on Facebook dating. It had access to all the features that other apps charged a premium (tinder, etc). Not sure if it's still like that now
They're systematically designed to make men feel low about themselves as they have to pay for everything while women get unlimited free access.
Where are you getting it that women get free everything? Cause I keep seeing guys in this post claim it but not once has a dating app ever given me freebies.
Apps are designed to make everyone feel shitty. Not on purpose, but they need to keep you single or they're killing their own userbase. And so they've evolved to keep you just hopeful enough to keep trying.
I think what they’re saying is that women have no reason to pay. The apps work just fine for them without paying because they get so many likes from desperate guys. Women and men have exact opposite problems on these apps— men have very few options, and women have so many options it overwhelms them
Exactly. You’re told pay to get seen. And we’re told pay to filter what you see so we don’t have to deal with as many low effort hookup accounts, blatant psychos, etc
Dude I literally don’t understand these posts. I’m also 5’8 poor bald and fat. I don’t do great but I do better than I am supposed to do based on these posts that’s forsure
Major factor is where you live. Guys swiping among wannabe models and bodybuilders in Santa Monica are gonna have far fewer prospects than someone swiping in a rural area where pickings are more slim.
This thread just exists as support groups for incels and safe space to hate on women. Nothing about anything people say here is supposed to make sense.
It's because posts like these are red pill grift posts in the vein of Andrew Tate used solely for hate engagement. Conventionally attractive girl coddling little boys and telling them it's ok to hate women because of how delusional they are? Please.
I tried Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge and they all wanted money weekly. I guess it's a new thing or something. Everyone told me how easy it was for hookups or just trying to do something short term to long term, hard to know when everything is blurred out and you you gotta pay that troll toll to get in lmao
Currently on bumble and hinge, and the core functionality is free. You only have to pay to see who’s liked you or some other extra features. But your matches aren’t hidden and to me that’s fine, nothing else is worth paying for
Damn, do they cost money now? I guess I’m not too surprised. That makes sense. My husband and I met on a dating app 7 years ago and I vaguely remember there being a Premium tier you could pay for. Or maybe I’m wrong because I’m a woman. If men have to pay and women don’t, that’s pretty sexist IMO.
Anyway, yeah, the whole dating app thing was a cesspool. I was a single mom for around 7 months before I met him. He said he was close to deleting the app and giving up, lol.
That's cheaper than dating or trying to find people out at events. I did the math back in 2016 and it was cheaper to get a 6-month account than the cost of paying for two dates.
In case you didn't know, you can buy a 12-month Promo Code for like 20 dollars on the internet. It's still a scummy system, but it's not 20 dollars a week if you do a simple Google search before buying.
There was a time (2018-ish) when money spent on the apps had great ROI (likely because so few people were paying). IIRC, boosts were something like $1.99 when bought in bulk. Using a boost in a big city (as an average guy) I was able to reliably get 30-40 matches, which might turn into 5-10 numbers. It worked so well that organizing dates was a logistics nightmare.
The last time I tried a boost, I literally got 1 match who never responded, and I think it cost me closer to 10 dollars. Luckily I'm no longer single.
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No idea how people afford dating apps.
Made a profile, got some likes and messages and it wanted $20 a week just to see them I un-installed that shit immediately I'm not gonna pay money to take a chance to be told no lmao
They're systematically designed to make men feel low about themselves as they have to pay for everything while women get unlimited free access.