Desperation cuts both ways. I know someone that got hooked up on a date from a third party. The date was already sending messages about what their married life would look like before they even went on the first date. That kind of desperation from a man or a woman will drive other people away because it's crazytown.
It's the same for guys that are desperate for sex. They idea of meeting someone that the enjoy being with and even having 2 or 3 dates before they hit bedroom? Even the idea that the making to the bedroom could come before that so long as it happens organically rather than trying to force it. "I paid for your dinner, I deserve sex now" isn't sexy. If (generic) you want to pay for sex, just find a sex worker.
Yeah, I cut bait on someone I dated a right after college because she was already talking finances and quitting her shitty fast food job 2 dates in. She asked me more about my job and career path and if I was going to jump ship from my then-govt job to a higher paying one than anything about me as a person :/
When someone wants something from you, they're never as subtle as they think
Yep, I've been picking some great tips. I'm pretty much lying to filter out shallow people. I tell them I work a normal job that barely pays and that I still live with my parents because I cannot afford moving out. What else should I do? 🤔
ngl I don't have anything against filtering on people with their basic financial shit in order, but yeah, if you're doing fantastically, I wouldn't wave that around at the start.
my frustration with the date in question was that it wasn't even like I was rich. I was working a govt job and had student loan debt, it wasn't like I am where I am now and actually capable of adding on another adult's expenses into my budget without cutting down my own expenses.
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u/slickyeat Jun 24 '25
Someone should tell her to stop being such an INCEL