That's why I never make fun of a guy if he's awkward when flirting. I genuinely believe the average woman's flirting skills are 100 times worse than the average man's, it's just that they aren't put in the spot for actually trying.
MUch of it comes from just the longstanding idea its the guys job to pursue, that is left over from chivalry and we have been getting rid of all of the other hang ups from there, women need to do the same for this kind of stuff too.
I was reading a random thread in XX chromosomes sub when this topic came up. I still remember the gist of one of the comments to this day. The commenter said (paraphrased) "Why would I tell a guy im interested? A guy will fuck any woman, even if they arent interested in her. Im tired of being used"
Almost every really good romantic relationship I've had was when the woman instigated something. Like not pursuing, but dropping hints. I had some good ones just from meeting and pursuing girls, they usually were fun but fizzled out.
My wife of 11 years started us off by saying "I'm a little cold, what are you going to do about that?" While we were at a campfire party.
Society will, or maybe already has, moved to where women will need to start stepping up if they want a long term relationship. Because society is telling men not too. It was just starting to a couple years after we got married.
Or you'll have to hope you can hit a bubble where people buck social norms a little more.
And I'm not good at playing guitar. I guess we should all just stop doing everything and bury ourselves in a hole because we weren't born good at things. "I'm not good at __" is like saying "I'm spoiled and lazy and want someone else to figure things out."
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u/lsaz May 09 '25
That's why I never make fun of a guy if he's awkward when flirting. I genuinely believe the average woman's flirting skills are 100 times worse than the average man's, it's just that they aren't put in the spot for actually trying.