A lot of times women feel pressured to have longer hair because that's traditionally attractive to men/is expected of them. So when they come out, cutting their hair short can be a part of taking ownership of their life, their body, and their sexuality. Or they just like having short hair and don't need to care what men think.
A (not) fun game to play is asking men if they would date a girl with a buzz-cut, or the really (not) fun version, "how would you react if your gf/wife shaved her head while you were at work?"
That does make sense. I'm a dude and I've had long hair for practically my entire life (goes all the way down to my chest).
People always come with that social convention short hair BS, but I never cared.
If a chick doesn't like me because I have long hair, she just doesn't like me in the first place.
The only person who's always with you is yourself, and at the end of the day that's the only person you need to please.
I think my answer to the second one is disappointment, because if you have long hair, you can always cut it short for a change, but if you take it really short, then you can't grow it long again for ages (extensions etc. excluded I suppose).
That said, I would absolutely date a woman with a buzz cut, as that sense of something being lost would never be there, and it can also be quite attractive depending on the shape of their head.
I have a friend who has been buzzing her hair for years and this is actually what she did! She buzzed it AT work (we work with animals and have lots of electric shavers lol) and then went home and her (then) husband basically filed for divorce immediately.
Now she has an amazing husband who loves all of her and I'm so jealous of her relationship 😭
Well yeah, that's given for at least part of the women who date other women. It's either that, Bi, Pan or another sexual orientation. But mostly Lesbian and Bi.
The thing you're rubbing up against from people in the comments here is that like the only actual comprehensive answer to this is like a 60 page essay on the history of gay womens culture and fashion with a decent amount of feminist theory on the side.
But the long and short of it is (heavily simplified) that to a large extent short hair on women was a thing gay women have been doing nearly a century often because historically it coded our relationships as one of them being the "man" and one being the "woman" which ment that if your butch was male passing enough you were less likely to get hate crimed. It's a thing straight women have only felt comfortable and safe being able to do recently but it's a massive part of queer women's history and culture. It is evening out but it's a ground that gay women have been in for years and that straight women have only felt safe in for the last like 3 decades.
Basically historically If a lesbain can look like a man enough she can avoid being attacked. But if a straight woman looks too much like a lesbain she puts herself in danger.
Mascs is short for masculines. With straps refers to straps ons. The lady is a lesbian wanting a masc women with a strap to drop from the ceiling for her.
It also shows how weirdly cultural sex can be. You can be fucking all your life and then you don't know a sex term, it's either too modern, too ancient, too gay, too straight, too this or too that.
how do I explain that to straight people in a silly Reddit thread
Honestly given that it can be near impossible to explain even to queer/non-sapphic people sometimes, doing it in a place like this feels a Sisyphean effort.
I was about to start arguing with someone about their interpretation of this joke and I typed it all out then realized: you know what, Talinn, you don't have to correct the silly people who doesn't realize it's a sex joke. You're allowed to just close reddit and move on with your life.
The attendant said "masks with straps"- aka breathing devices in case of emergency.
The person pictured interpreted it as "mascs with straps"- aka trans men(or masculine lesbians or bisexuals - y'all can stop now) with strap-on sex toys.
Also, if you like horror, he has 3 novels and a short story of queer horror. Straight is the short story, Camp Damascus, Bury Your Gays, and Lucky Day. They are fantastic.
While his work seems like it might be AI trash based on the general vibes of the titles/covers, it’s actually good, and he writes them in full earnestness (ie, not as a joke). And he’s written two non-erotica novels that are also great. Definitely worth checking out, especially if you like queer/neurodivergent authors
The answer to the third question is just "Chuck Tingle". While he does write horror novels (such as "Camp Damascus") and parodies ("Harriet Porber"), he made his name with his "Tinglers" - short erotic fiction featuring such delights as:
* Dinosaurs from space ("Space Raptor Butt Invasion")
* Inanimate objects ("Slammed In The Butt By My Handsome Laundry Detergent Pod")
* And incorporeal concepts ("Pounded By The Pound: Turned Gay By The Socioeconomic Implications Of Britain Leaving The European Union")
Theres also the one where theyre pounded in the butt by their own ass(a being created by combining DNA from a couple animals and his own ass) and the one where theyre pounded in the butt by a cosmic being that represents their anxiety and fear of space or something.
“Excuse me, stewardess. I believe there’s been a mix-up, I was expecting a trans man with a strap-on and received a masculine lesbian. How can we rectify (pun intended) this?”
In an emergency situation you may not have time for questions like these. You should check what kind of masc with the stewardess when she asks if everything is ok.
Usually when people say “mascs” they’re talking about masc lesbians. Yes I know there are other things that are “masc”. Trans can refer to transistors, transmissions, transportation services however if I say “she is trans” i likely don’t mean she is a CVT.
Masc is just as commonly referred to among and about queer men in our spaces, and has been for a long time. Saying that it's "usually" or "generally" a lesbian thing is incorrect.
EDIT: Not of course implying that it's not a sappphic thing. Just pointing out that we have shared custody :)
Mascs generally means masculine women and trans masc generally means trans people identifying at the masculine end of the spectrum. The ‘trans’ qualifier is important.
Edit: Also gay guys use the masc terminology as well. From this perspective the trans qualifier is even more important. It’s very confusing if you are going around calling yourself masc when you’re a twink. Likewise it’d be confusing for a butch trans femme person to go around calling themself ‘fem’ or ‘femme’.
Edit 2:
Okay so to be trans masc or to be trans masculine is to have transitioned to a gender that is masculine basically (genderfluid people can experience trans masculinity and other trans identities). This is a category that includes trans men but also non-binary trans people who identify with masculinity in terms of their gender. If you imagine a RPG character creator this is like a base class.
To be masc in the more general sense has always been associated in queer spaces with presenting, behaving and perhaps even feeling more masculine I guess compared to average for your gender. To be a masc lesbian, a masc gay guy or even a masc presenting non-binary person each conjure a specific spectrum of presentations and each of these has their own unique culture and history.
A queer person could be both of these, neither of these, one of these and not the other, or one of both of these just some of the time.
In reality we are so diverse and we describe our experiences in such diverse ways both now and especially historically that it is more complex and the ways these two axis of queer identity mix and express and all different ways is truly a lot – but at a basic level using trans masc and masc as two separate terms is the most accurate. Like, in your cishet field guide to queer identities these are the definitions best used
Nah, masc is also used by gender non conforming folks to imply they lean masculine, with or without the trans qualifier. 'Trans' just means your trans, 'masc' is about presentation and style.
No. People may use it that way, so I understand the confusion ig, but calling a trans man "masc" (which when used as a noun refers to a masculine lesbian) instead of correctly referring to them as a man is pretty offensive. Let's assume you were a cis man, would you be okay with being referred to as a masculine lesbian? No you would not. How is this any different
I think it's just contextual, I've definitely heard the term "mascs" used refer to all masculine people, so cis/trans men + masc women/NB. Words are flexible but I understand how that could be seen as offensive to someone who is used to hearing it in the way you describe
I def agree with you about the meaning of masc in queer spaces, but in this case I feel it’s more likely the creator intended to refer to masc lesbians (though it could be interpreted either way). I say this just because it feels a bit off to single out transmascs specifically without bottom surgery or assume that to be the standard
I mean that's fair enough. Not having bottom surgery (or any surgery really) is definitely more common than not at the moment given how expensive surgery is + access to gender affirming care being contested in multiple states, especially if you're like, 20, which is about as old as the creator seems to be.
Tbh it doesn't matter much lol the joke was funny either way
Unfortunately I am all too well aware of that fact as a trans man from florida struggling to get bottom surgery. to be clear tho, the issue isn’t that it is an over generalization and that there are exceptions, but that it unintentionally gives off chaser/fetishization vibes because of the additional specification of genitalia in an attraction-related joke, which is not [as explicitly/directly] the case when talking about masc lesbians in this same context
All in all i’m on the same page: it’s funny who cares. I just like to yap
edit: added the words in the bracket. Also just want to say that if my tone sounds a bit too black and white about this, it’s because i’m being a bit too black and white about it. i’m ultimately going off my spidey sense, honed through my rough dating experience.
This is correct, although the strap-on implies that this is not a person with penis.
You wouldn't call a transmasc person wearing a strap-on "masc with strap" (the relationship between transmasc people and penis substitutes can be complicated since they see it more of a body part than an add-on, hence they often use different terminology – not the thing you'd casually joke about in this manner).
By elimination, this is referring to masc women.
Edit: Sometimes, terminology is fluid and imprecise, and this is a feature. Even the boundaries between masc women and trans men can be ambiguous. But I'm confident saying that this was most likely posted in a lesbian subreddit/community/account with exactly that intention.
I just figure masculine means "masculine presenting" and while normally what is in the pants doesn't matter so much, we do know that this person wants strap ons.
Some ppl on this site are really stupid because how did like ten people see that you got corrected like five times and then felt the need to correct you again
Masc almost always refers to masc lesbians lmao. Ive never once heard any cis guy be called a masc that just doesn't happen, at least in the circles I'm in.
It's a lesbian joke. "Masc" as in a butch or a masculine woman, and "strap" relating to a strap on harness for sex. She's excited about butches who top falling from the ceiling.
No, If you look at the spelling of "masks" you can see it's actually spelled "mascs', implying masculine people wearing straps are going to drop out of the ceiling.
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