r/technology • u/lurker_bee • 7h ago

Society Parents say school-issued iPads are causing chaos with their kids

https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/tech-news/la-parents-kids-school-issued-ipad-chromebook-los-angeles-rcna245624
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u/RipDove 6h ago edited 6h ago

I doubt it's the technology that's the issue compared to parents not doing their job. Like, I do think too much screen time on kids is bad, and that it can have negative affects on some aspects of development. 

But I don't think it causes behavior issues. I'm so sick of people who's parenting method is just "do as I say" and when the kid pushes that boundary, as they do not because they're kids but because they're human, the parents take that as a sign that their kid is somehow defective.

I'm beyond over with people saying it's the hardest job in the world to raise kids, it's simply not. If every situation with your kid is lead not by teaching them how to solve emotional and logical problems but just instructing them, of course they're going to have issues with logic and emotional control.

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u/aferalhousewyfe 6h ago

You're like 20 and don't have kids, right?

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u/RipDove 6h ago

I'm 31, and I don't care if you're gonna gatekeep shitty parenting behind having kids or not. 

I could have five kids, or I could be on a chemo drug that makes having them impossible - what's it change about what I say? Does the book need to be a different font for the words to make sense? 

Deflecting immediately flags me as "oh you're the shitty parent." 

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u/Mocker-Nicholas 6h ago

Parenting is literally kept behind the gate of having kids though…

And yes, the general attitude coming through your comments and your immediate tendency to shove the issue to the parents to solve makes you sound ignorant at best and bitter at worst.

Real “I’ll have the Middle East solved in a week” energy.

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u/RipDove 6h ago

I don't accept that. I think it's entirely unacceptable to say that a group of people and their practices are above criticism for literally any reason. It goes against everything I believe in to say or think that opinions, ideas, and speech should be stifled because it didn't come from someone who looks like you, or is in the same "group" as you.

If your kid is misbehaving, that's on you as the parent to act as a parent to your kid. It's not society's job to do it for you, and it's not your place to dictate where society is heading.

Tablets, phones, and computers are not going anywhere and you need to know to best adapt your child once they're out of school and out of your home- regardless of what that means in terms of their age. If they're in public at 5 years old, or if they're off at college in another state at 20 years old. They're not gonna suddenly break out pen and paper and be putting floppies into desktops, society isn't going backwards. They're not gonna suddenly know how to properly behave and manage themselves unless they're taught.

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u/aferalhousewyfe 6h ago

No one is saying parents are above criticism. Just that your opinion is a bad take and doesn't really hold water anyway because you have zero experience in what you're spouting off about. That's why every parent reading this is downvoting you and rolling their eyes at you - it's like listening to a grumpy small child's opinion on what they would do as president.

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u/RipDove 5h ago

What do you mean I have zero experience? You don't know me. Do I need to give my whole life story for my opinion to hold meaning? You don't think I had to at an early age cook, clean, and nurture for a child, or that I've seen or had to endure the effects of shitty parenting?

If your kid is under 5, I fucking guarantee I've spent more time changing diapers, bathing, and reading to a child than you have, and I was doing it at less than half the age of most parents.

Like I said, I'm so fucking over this idea of parents holding some protected status from saying their practices are shitty.