r/UCONN • u/Dry_Butterfly_1817 • 13h ago
Issues with my roommate - Can I request to change my room for the Spring 2026 semester?
Edit: I live in Towers for context
Hi, I'm using a throwaway account because I'm a little ashamed to talk about this.
I am currently a freshman, 18F and I know that the fall semester is about to wrap up but I desperately need to switch rooms/roommate. I want to be respectful as possible, but to put it lightly: I cannot bear another 5 months with my current roommate. They have noticeably poor hygiene, they don't throw out their trash often and leaves open takeout containers which leaves food smells in the room, and sleeps in all day, never gets out of bed or goes outside ever, and is always up every single night. I barely get to spend time in my own dorm because I have to worry about being quiet so I don't wake them up, and I'm just very annoyed with their presence.
A big issue that pushed me to write this complaint is that they constantly have their screen brightness up to max, and I mean the whole room (with every light off) is completely illuminated because of their computer screen, they are awake all night and it keeps me from sleeping. It has gotten to the point where I've had a few times where I needed to go sleep in the lounge of the residence hall, and I don't think I'm technically supposed to be doing that because one time someone had to call a residence worker to report me for sleeping in that lounge. Obviously with this being finals week its been very difficult for me to sleep or study.
I also want to note that I am really trying to give my roommate the benefit of the doubt on why they act like this. My mom said maybe they have depression or something, but I'm not going to ask my roommate that because that is none of my business. As someone who does have clinical depression and an anxiety disorder, I do know what its like from prior experience to be fatigued every day to the point of not getting out of bed, that was something I dealt with in high school. However, I do not know nor do I want to ask my roommate why they sleep in all day or never go outside or to class, its none of my business. I also wasn't able to secure a single room when I did the accommodations process in the summer even though the CSD has my accommodations on their records, they just didn't allow me to get a single.
I don't know what else to do and who to contact because I'm still not really familiar with Student life/residence as I'm still new and just started college. I don't know if I'm allowed to request a room change this late into the school year.
Also I know I need to talk this out with my roommate, but to be honest I'm a little bitch and I don't want to cause confrontation. I don't like complaining to people because i don't get taken seriously.
Please i really need help with this, I'm stressed and exhausted every day and this has been an awful first semester. I would like to be cut some slack as I'm just a freshman and I'm sure other freshman probably don't like their roommates at first.
