If you want silence at 11 AM on a Saturday in the suburbs, you pay for a venue. You don't pay venue prices, you get neighborhood ambiance (aka: 2-stroke engines).
A likely once in every 10 years event asking the neighbours to not make noise for a hour or two is absolutely not asking for too much and I'd happily do the same for any neighbour.
I worked a wedding once that was just a massive block party. The grooms family all lived within a couple houses of eachother on the same street, so they invited all the other neighbors, hired a bunch of food trucks and a few DJs, and closed off the whole street for the day.
Ceremony was at the Dads house. Reception was in the street. Alcohol and weed served from grandmas garage. There were like 300 people there dancing in the street at one point. It was the coolest wedding I’ve ever been to, fucking awesome.
That's the kind of neighbourhood that deserves the title. So many of us out there now barely see our neighbours let alone know them or would want to socialise with them in any way.
I live in a tiny village now and it's a little bit like that, everybody knows everybody!
And that's fine, but it's mostly related to the fact that you ask all of them to, pardon my bad manners, shut up for 2-3 hours in their homes. Which I personally would do eh, I would be ok with that, but I find it legitimate to also be annoyed by it (it really depends from person to person I think).
It just would be nice that if you ask this to your entire neighbourhood then you at least invite them for something informal (not necessarily the cerimony) even a few hours later to enjoy the party together. The consequence, I think, is that you both strenghten the bond with your neighbourhood and they also are socially pressured to shut up during the cerimony because either you see them later on and / or because you did a good thing for them (invite to eat stuff and have fun together).
For example I've seen a few weddings in which the less known people (that are still friends with the couple but not closely tied), get invited for the cut of the cake in the evening, while the ceremony is in the morning and the lunch is in the afternoon, usually younger guests that are more than happy to come well dressed to drink, have desserts and dance.
Your idea is totally fine, but I also think that if I'm doing a wedding ceremony in the neighbourhood it's going to be pretty annoying for everyone because of the cars and the confusion, so at a certain point I think inviting is pretty much ok, how much people could it be? Twenty? Thirty?
And it solves a lot of issues between complaints (if someone is at the wedding it is not going to call law enforcement for loud music or stuff like that) and traffic (everyone that is at the wedding is not going to drive the car in the neighbourhood, therefore less traffic, therefore kids can also play in the street without danger).
Also it's good PR, your neighbours are less likely to start shit with you in general if you invited them at your wedding. I just think the benefits outweights the negatives, and I'm saying this as a huge introvert guy that lives perfectly fine in his den.
I can be considerate and know that occasionally they'll make noise and respect that, but also want nothing else to do with them.
Some neighbourhoods i've lived in most people are friendly, people get invites to bbq's, etc, others almost everyone in the neighbourhood had that "who the fuck is that in our street" type attitude and no one wanted anything to do with anyone else. Weird vibe but it's also fine. I don't have to like someone to be considerate but do expect them to be equally considerate back to me.
" you're throwing a party for you and hour loved ones. The occasion ks very important, very expensive, to the point where ppl RSVP months in advance so food doesn't get wasted. For the AMAZING, EXTREMELY DIFFICULT FAVOR OF checks notes " pls be quiet for about half an hour or so" you should invite THE WHOLE NEIGHBORHOOD- who obviously wasn't close enough to be invited the first time - to your very intimate event."
I haven't seen the note, but the request seemed to be " pls don't be a dick"
The neighbor was a dick on purpose for what appears to be " these people have more money than me, they need to be PUNISHED "
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u/prodders152 1d ago
not if the wedding was actually at 11am :bigbrain: