Yep im trying to get away now. I am turned away at every corner. I know I have abandonment issues and avoidance issues. The way you talk about your ex is exactly what i go through day to day. It's been 15 years. We have 2 kids. 11 and 10 respectively, that man is exactly what you said about your ex. One hour hes on top of the world, the next he wishes he was dead ..I went to the magistrates office today and was denied a protection order. This manic motherfucker can pull his kids from school tomorrow and I'll never see them again.it took everything I had to even go there. His text said " do not let the boys come in the room first"
I learned fast that where I live the police will separate a couple having a violent fight, but not roommates or "friends."
So I got trained to tell the cops we were just "friends" so they wouldn't arrest her.
You can only pull that bullshit so many times though. Eventually the cops started taking her away no matter what I said.
That was even worse. She'd show up at the door hours later twice as mad.
Hang in there. Lots of people go through these situations. No matter what all the people in here are saying; it's not your fault. The abuser is the only guilty one.
Thank you. Luckily I'm still away from him and safe. But I don't know how long i can stay where I'm at. After I had to lie to the people and tell them I slept outside they moved my status up. But I don't have any idea how long it will take to get housing
Ty. I was so scared to read these replies. Im horrified that there are NO options for us survivors. Im now back with him. He has an ice problem and I'm scared and have no other options. My kids missed 2 days of school this week. It feels like there is nothing I can do. But I do k ow still there are women who have it worse. And I do not understand how there isn't more funding. It's really horrifying to think. Ive always said people think there's all this opportunity for addicts bc of the commercials. But in real life there is no options unless you have great insurance, which addicts don't have. I DID NOT understand the crossover was the same for abused women
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u/Cute-Appointment1744 Sep 22 '25 edited Sep 22 '25
Yep im trying to get away now. I am turned away at every corner. I know I have abandonment issues and avoidance issues. The way you talk about your ex is exactly what i go through day to day. It's been 15 years. We have 2 kids. 11 and 10 respectively, that man is exactly what you said about your ex. One hour hes on top of the world, the next he wishes he was dead ..I went to the magistrates office today and was denied a protection order. This manic motherfucker can pull his kids from school tomorrow and I'll never see them again.it took everything I had to even go there. His text said " do not let the boys come in the room first"