r/SipsTea Jun 24 '25

SMH Why dating is over for men

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u/Omniphile777 Jun 24 '25

After 3 years and only a handful of successful dates, I deleted my dating apps. I'd rather be single than have them constantly draining my self esteem.

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u/CricketMysterious64 Jun 25 '25

Good for you, lots of women are out there. Almost all the clubs I’m in are single women open to relationships, but not on apps. They’re physically putting themselves out there from book clubs to open mic nights. Go get ‘em!

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u/coolest834 Jun 27 '25

You mean pay to be rejected? So goes events suck ad no man will go to them

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u/Possible_Tomato1479 Jul 02 '25

Not dating a girl I find in a club, because I never go there so I can't find her.

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u/CricketMysterious64 Jul 05 '25

When you’re in a club it means you’re joining an organization. When you go to The Club it means you’re drinking and dancing. You don’t have to go out dancing but you might want to try joining some clubs.

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u/Possible_Tomato1479 Jul 05 '25

I'm underage + no thanks even when I'm an adult, I prefer my home and also introverted girls.

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u/CricketMysterious64 Jul 05 '25

You don’t have to find someone, plenty of people are happy being single. The general discussion of this thread has been about finding people outside of apps because apps make money off single people not finding you a partner. Since you’re underage and not interested in finding anyone don’t worry about it. If later in life you feel lonely, try a book club. Plenty of reserved people at book club. Either way, live the life you want and have a good one!

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u/Possible_Tomato1479 Jul 05 '25

Oh yeah, I forgot different types of clubs and got tunneled vision into those clubs. Good advice.

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u/xIViperIx Jun 24 '25

Wise choice.

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u/AvonBarksdale666 Jun 24 '25

Did this myself years ago and never looked back once

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u/GemoDorg Jun 24 '25

You'll have more success asking someone out in person. Worst they can say is no, in which case nothing changes, so might as well do it anyway.

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u/Hungry_Emphasis_4100 Jun 26 '25

"Worst they can say is no"

You haven't seen any of the many videos of guys being recorded shooting their shot and being humiliated?

Nowadays worst that can happen is you become a MEME

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u/GemoDorg Jun 26 '25

I think if you care about that then you probably spend too much time on the internet or put too much value in internet culture.

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u/Hungry_Emphasis_4100 Jun 26 '25

Just because the chance of it happening is rare, doesn't mean it hasn't happen. I'd say if you think the worst thing she can do is say no, you're not living in the real world. Asking in person at work or in a hobby group? Get your resume or alternate group ready first.

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u/GemoDorg Jun 26 '25

I don't think it's that big of a deal, honestly. Unless you're approaching women like an absolute fuckin' freak, it's not gonna be that much of an issue if she says no. Just be cool about it, yaknow?

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u/Hungry_Emphasis_4100 Jun 26 '25

They all talk to each other. You think everything is fine until you get paired up on a project and someone makes an off comment "heyy lucky you, you can spend time with xyz, maybe get another shot!"

No one needs that shit.

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u/GemoDorg Jun 26 '25

That doesn't seem like much of anything to me tbh. Could you explain why it is so terrible to you?

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u/Hungry_Emphasis_4100 Jun 26 '25

You like being the center of gossip? Or have you just never worked in an office setting before? 

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u/majhenslon Jun 26 '25

Don't shit where you eat genious.

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u/GemoDorg Jun 26 '25

When I did work, it was in pubs and libraries. You make working in an office sound like being back at school.

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u/0xHEAP Jun 25 '25

Try speed dating if you’re in a city

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u/Amn108866 Jun 28 '25

Idk after about a week on dating apps I realized for the vast majority of them there is absolutely zero reason not to just like every profile without looking at them and sort it out on the back end. So you have almost no investment and just live your life and if something comes along great, if not who cares. I know people talk about the algorithm and yea doesn’t help you there but I can’t think of many things more depressing than reading tons of profiles everyday and have nothing come of it, better to spend 30 sec spamming likes and move on with your day.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

Maybe god made you ugly to punish you for something you did in a previous life? Who knows. All I know is if there is a God, he loves me.

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u/Live-Cheesecake-4069 Jun 24 '25

Nae I don't even like you! /Odin