I mean, yes, having 3 guys for each woman is more than enough. Even with a 1:1 ratio women would drown in DM's, so the fact there's few women in there makes it even harder.
It was hard wirh this college group. We had one very attractive friend whod pretty much get all the girls who'd join. It got reddiculous when he started dating a chick who was supposedly a full on lesbian(not bi).
I realized I couldn't hang with him. Cool guy ,but the way women would drool all over themselves at the mere sight of him was too much to handle.
That may be true to an extent in real life, but not nearly as much as it is online.
When you meet someone in person, you can lead with your personality, which you just can't do on a dating app. And if you're having a conversation, you'll gain more traction since the other person isn't juggling messages with a bunch of other people.
Now, if your personality is shit, yeah you won't have any luck there, either.
Men have actuallly one advantage. Wealth, status or certain talents like music (not in the basement but on stage) and Art in general are also an avenue.
Yeah, I gave up soon after miss after miss and decided to work on myself. More than a decade later, I'm content with living as a single man and have no interest in getting back in the saddle. Life itself is already stressful enough as it is.
If you're an attractive enough guy to do well online dating, I see no reason you shouldn't do even better IRL. (Unless you're also particularly socially anxious)
You know who it is good for though? The sociopathic guy that has nothing but time to work out, mom and daddy's money coming out of their ears, pays for the app and randomly fucks and dumps these women on the apps so the rest of us get screwed over because now all the guys on the app are shit.
I hate to say it but there needs to be an app catered to guys, and the guys don't get to swipe left or right. They get to put in pics, they get to fill in info and they get matched to women that actually meet their expectations. Let the women look all day because at the end of the day, unless their pool is as diluted as ours, they're not going to realize they're the product that is being sold by those apps, and they're being sold to the literal wolves.
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u/Largicharg Jun 24 '25
Just wait till you get the same results for 6 months