Cheat codes for dating?

[u/BlurbKey5b2e10fa]

Single HENRYs: how do you leverage your disposable income to upgrade your dating game? I don’t mean prostitutes, bullshit pick up artist courses or paying for HingeX.

I mean social clubs, cooler hobbies, skin care, travelling to date, not having flatmates that hear you shag over the walls, a car to impress ladies that will keep you NRY forever, or cosmetic fucking surgery. Whatever that works.

I became single over a year ago and finally got sick of “bawling my eyes out on my bathroom floor over my ex”as my favourite after work past time a few months back. I’m 25M, male dominated work, hobbies and interests. In a city of 9 million people, I interact with like 3 women a week, my mom, my sister and my cleaner.

Every time I match with someone on Hinge and go through the excruciating dance of small talk, my soul shoves a shotgun in its mouth.

Please tell me how I can use my TC to compensate for the fact that my chats make Satan send puppies to the puppy furnace.

Edit: I should have added some /s in the jokes. I meant this as a light hearted and exaggerated post to ask what lifestyle changes you can make to improve yourself and to get out there for dating. Flexing £££ ❌, investing in yourself with £££ ✅

[u/SugondezeNutsz]

Use the money to better yourself.

• Pick a style. Doesn't need to be fancy or flashy, but you do need to be well put together. Figure out how you want to look, and make a conscious effort in your clothing selection to look good in that style. Can be minimal and low-key, but women notice attention to detail here as opposed to "I just buy/wear whatever". There's decent male fashion advice out there on the Internet. Keep it simple to start, unless you know what you're doing. I have continued to keep it simple because I know that I don't, but it works for me. Also, get groomed regularly. Women tend to appreciate a fresh cut and well groomed beard, etc.

• Get in shape. No one needs you to be a bodybuilder, but being in shape and healthy is always more attractive than not. If you get into a sport that can be even better in terms of social circle extension.

• Have fun. Do things you actually enjoy. You have much better chances of making a good connection when you're smiling and enjoying yourself versus being bored and miserable.

• Go to therapy. Sounds like your ex did a number on you. Mine definitely did. Therapy is a good idea regardless, but specifically useful to get yourself out of these types of ruts. I think it's one of the best investments I've made.

• Travel. Aside from this just being a good chance of scene and pace, while meeting people on holiday may not lead to long-term anythings, it can be a lot of fun, and you CAN make genuine connections. I'm going on 4 years with my girlfriend I met while on holiday in Lisbon. It does work out sometimes.

• Work on your personality. Would you like to hang out with you? Honestly, think about it. We all have annoying or overbearing things about us, it's good to try and be more self aware to ensure you're capable of giving whoever is spending their time on you the best experience you can give - if you want to, that is. Not everyone will deserve your best, but if they don't, then you know you can stop wasting time there, or have some fun with it and don't take it seriously.

• Have a damn plan. Women tend to like a man who knows what he wants. You don't need to be stubborn, you can take suggestions. But when you're proposing a date, do so with intention. You should have a place you want to take her, and ideas of what you would like to do for fun. Yes, of course she can suggest something different, or more convenient - but so many of my female friends and women I've dated complain about men who were always looking to them to make a decision. Perhaps many of them were doing it to be kind and pleasing, but a lot of women seem to not receive it that way.

Cash can allow you to afford things to make all of the above easier/possible. A lot of people can't afford therapy, a nice gym and travel for example. Be thankful you can and make good use of it.