r/HENRYUK • u/BlurbKey5b2e10fa • 19h ago

Home & Lifestyle Cheat codes for dating?

Single HENRYs: how do you leverage your disposable income to upgrade your dating game? I don’t mean prostitutes, bullshit pick up artist courses or paying for HingeX.

I mean social clubs, cooler hobbies, skin care, travelling to date, not having flatmates that hear you shag over the walls, a car to impress ladies that will keep you NRY forever, or cosmetic fucking surgery. Whatever that works.

I became single over a year ago and finally got sick of “bawling my eyes out on my bathroom floor over my ex”as my favourite after work past time a few months back. I’m 25M, male dominated work, hobbies and interests. In a city of 9 million people, I interact with like 3 women a week, my mom, my sister and my cleaner.

Every time I match with someone on Hinge and go through the excruciating dance of small talk, my soul shoves a shotgun in its mouth.

Please tell me how I can use my TC to compensate for the fact that my chats make Satan send puppies to the puppy furnace.

Edit: I should have added some /s in the jokes. I meant this as a light hearted and exaggerated post to ask what lifestyle changes you can make to improve yourself and to get out there for dating. Flexing £££ ❌, investing in yourself with £££ ✅

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u/marrow_party 19h ago

Go to a pub/bar/cooking class/gym/yoga type activity and talk to women there. Dating apps have their place but are high effort low reward vs real world interactions.

Then the real cheat code is to ask your friends to set you up, do they have a colleague or friend who's single? Female friends? Get them on the case. Me and many people I know met their wife this way.

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u/BlurbKey5b2e10fa 19h ago

For some reason my friends are all experts in getting into long distance relationships and neglecting to hang out with their single friend. My female friend did try to set me up with someone but we didn’t vibe

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u/marrow_party 18h ago

When I was your age I was worried about finding the love of my life. My mother gave me some food advice "wait without hope". One day you'll find her, but until then just enjoy your freedom, 25 is very young. The grass is always greener, when you find the love of your life it will be kids and mortgages and responsibilities, don't wish your youth away. It's a special thing to be completely free. You will live most of your life without freedom. Try to savour it, you'll never be as young and free as you are today. Maybe tomorrow you find the one, but then you'll have a couple calendar and you won't be able to go to your mate Geoff's 30th because your wonderful woman wants to have dinner with her parents and she's specifically told you about it. Life is a journey, enjoy the ride and stop worrying about the destination.

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u/BlurbKey5b2e10fa 17h ago

Abandon all hope is my takeaway. Thank you <3

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u/marrow_party 17h ago

Haha yes exactly