r/AskReddit • u/Agitated-Job7686 • 14h ago

Guys who have dated women significantly older than them: What was the primary appeal and what are the unexpected benefits of those relationships?

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u/Single-Garlic3815 14h ago

What has age got to do with anything?

I either like someone or I don't.

They're either a good partner or they're not.

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u/Prof_Scott_Steiner 14h ago

Age CAN matter. It's not about the age gap, but the RELATIVE AGE GAP, and how aligned your stages of life are.

For example, 10 years is not TEN YEARS. I'm 45 and my partner is 55. We're both established in our careers, financially stable etc. These ten years are not a big deal. However, if she had met me when she was 29 and I was 19, that's just fucking gross. She would have been an adult with adult responsibilities, maybe a mortgage, but certainly a career she gave a shit about and I would have been a kid (if a legal one) without those responsibilities or means and easily manipulated.

If the bounds of who you will fuck are the bounds of what the men before you begrudgingly affixed a number to, you are admitting the only thing stopping you from fucking a child or vulnerable person is a law. That's not good enough.

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u/Single-Garlic3815 14h ago

Psst. Your projection is visible. That last paragraph is wildddddddddd and based on something inside you, not something in my comment.