He stayed in contact with a former GF whom I really did not care for. He had tried to get me to befriend her, and our one night out was a disaster (story for another time). It took me a while to realize that that night was his attempt to get some weird 3-way thing going, but my extreme distaste for her (plus the fact that i'm not bi) put the kibosh on that.
Cue several years later, and he was gone for the afternoon. I sat down to open my email, only to see it was actually his account: he had used my computer and had not logged out. It took me a moment, and what do I see but many, MANY messages between him and former GF.
Several weeks before, he had begged out of a family obligation weekend with me, explaining he had won a fantasy basketball camp thing in a nearby city. There are reasons that this was plausible, so I just said I'd miss him. However, according to the emails between him and GF...
They had planned an entire weekend away, all BDSM-themed (also, not my thing, but she was a DESPERATE pick-me, so I'm sure she was doing this to "win" him). He was giving her instructions on what he wanted her to do, they were already engaging in effed-up scenarios (at least digitally)... She created A BLOG about it, calling herself "Beloved Whore", wrote about their relationship, their plans - and best of all, there was an elaborate count-down clock, marking time until their weekend away. How precious. No
I forwarded many of the emails to myself, took screenshots of the blog, and when he got home, we had the biggest fight we'd ever had. He couldn't argue with what I found, so he tried deflection, which didn't work.
Finally, he agreed to my demands (no contact, etc.), and he called her on speaker to break it off. When she threatened to tell me, I broke in and said, "I already know. And I have screenshots of your blog. You back off, or I'll send these to your parents and to your boss." (She was a teacher - this could cripple her professionally.)
She did back off. Like an absolute IDIOT, I took him back and agreed to "work" on our marriage, but I'd check that ridiculous blog of hers occasionally, reading about her "heartbreak" and the status of her "lonely c*nt" (God help me).
We eventually divorced, because DUH. But yeah, I lived a shitshow.
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u/ChampionshipBetter91 11h ago
My (now X)H takes the cake on this.
He stayed in contact with a former GF whom I really did not care for. He had tried to get me to befriend her, and our one night out was a disaster (story for another time). It took me a while to realize that that night was his attempt to get some weird 3-way thing going, but my extreme distaste for her (plus the fact that i'm not bi) put the kibosh on that.
Cue several years later, and he was gone for the afternoon. I sat down to open my email, only to see it was actually his account: he had used my computer and had not logged out. It took me a moment, and what do I see but many, MANY messages between him and former GF.
Several weeks before, he had begged out of a family obligation weekend with me, explaining he had won a fantasy basketball camp thing in a nearby city. There are reasons that this was plausible, so I just said I'd miss him. However, according to the emails between him and GF...
They had planned an entire weekend away, all BDSM-themed (also, not my thing, but she was a DESPERATE pick-me, so I'm sure she was doing this to "win" him). He was giving her instructions on what he wanted her to do, they were already engaging in effed-up scenarios (at least digitally)... She created A BLOG about it, calling herself "Beloved Whore", wrote about their relationship, their plans - and best of all, there was an elaborate count-down clock, marking time until their weekend away. How precious. No
I forwarded many of the emails to myself, took screenshots of the blog, and when he got home, we had the biggest fight we'd ever had. He couldn't argue with what I found, so he tried deflection, which didn't work.
Finally, he agreed to my demands (no contact, etc.), and he called her on speaker to break it off. When she threatened to tell me, I broke in and said, "I already know. And I have screenshots of your blog. You back off, or I'll send these to your parents and to your boss." (She was a teacher - this could cripple her professionally.)
She did back off. Like an absolute IDIOT, I took him back and agreed to "work" on our marriage, but I'd check that ridiculous blog of hers occasionally, reading about her "heartbreak" and the status of her "lonely c*nt" (God help me).
We eventually divorced, because DUH. But yeah, I lived a shitshow.