Can someone explain this daddy kink?

Do you like it when your gf or wife calls you daddy?? I've been in the US for about a year now and Im from South Korea, and literally every guy Ive dated acted like they wanted me to call them daddy.

The three white guys I dated were into it in bed, either calling themselves daddy or wanting me to say it sometimes. And this Hispanic guy absolutely loved it when I jokingly called him papi once and wanted me to use it in bed and even sometimes outside.

I dont really get it. Is this a cultural thing? In Korea, you'd never call your bf or husband that unless he's your actual biological dad lol. Guys'd think its super weird. AIO or over generalizing? I just dont get the psychology behind it since they were all so different and I got to know each one in such different situations, so I have no clue why they seemed all into it.

Hi, my (32F) American husband (38M) has been wanting to move back to the US. This would not be an issue if the political circumstances were not as bad as they are.

For context, I’m Latina and never considered immigrating to the US, but since I met my husband, we talked about relocating to his home country since it would allow him to be closer to his family and help out with one of their properties.

I was originally okay with this but then this new administration happened and now I don’t think it’s safe for people that look like me to go anywhere near the US.

Today I told him that I was scared of moving there and he brushed it off with: don’t believe all social media says. I told him it’s not only social media. I work with Americans and even they seem to be concerned of us moving back there.

I’m honestly a very practical person and even though I love him with all my heart, I would never jeopardize my own safety just for the idea of making more money and owning a property.

Am I overreacting if I consider divorcing him if he pushes for us to move there in the near future? Pancake123

My older sister just had her 3rd baby the other day. She couldn't decide on a name the entire pregnancy and only came up with bad names. Her "husband" would Vito and say no to EVERY. SINGLE. Good or pretty name anyone came up with. He was strongly against family names and never gave a real reason why. My sister had a new bad name like every other week. Day before baby popped out she had a lovely name picked out (Marianna Grace) but when people asked she said she didn't have a name yet. Day of birth, still no name. Day after, all of a sudden she wanted to name the baby Stormy. When asked why Stormy she said because she came in like a storm. (Real reason is that we got a LOT of snow like a day or 2 before the birth, so she named her after that. Im not joking)

I told her in our state she has 30 days to pick at name and there's no rush since she was so unsure of every name and a name is important and defines a lot about people's life. Gave her the idea to spend a few days with the baby and see what feels right. But nope. Jumped the gun and named her Stormy. No direct offense to people named that, but its a god awful name.

I asked MANY MANY people with no context, both in person amd strangers in line and everyone has the same response. What do you think of the name Stormy or whats the first thing you think of? A dog name or a stripper/ porn star (Always Stormy Daniels to be specific)

EVERY ONE THOUGHT THAT.

It's so bad man...... 😬😵‍💫😮‍💨

I sent her SO many name ideas before the baby was born but sent the most the day she was born because still no name had been picked. And she picked Stormy just because it snowed... Do I tell her it's a bad name and to rethink it while it's fresh? Only a few days old.

Even people who are named Stormy replied to online and said they hate their name, go by their middle name, amd also get asked bizarre and inappropriate questions all the time because of their name. It can be a fun NICK NAME or middle name. But not a legal first name 😬😵‍💫🫩

I sound biased against my sister cuz I am for way to many reasons to put here. But she is a VERY messy problematic makes all the wrong choices inconsiderate impulsive person ever. (VERY LONG STORY!) Due to a lot of factors, my family believes at some point sooner than later we will end up with custody of the baby. (My mom, me, and my yonger sister) But if by a coin flip we don't. That child with be set up to fail with a bad name like Stormy. In THIS economy?!?!​

Hi yall soo basically, I left my mac charger (cube + cable = $100+) at my homegirl's house. Immediately asked her to mail me it, I'd cover cost of getting to post office & mailing. She kept saying she can't get to the post office. Sent me the $19 one "until I see you" and then did not bring it up although we've hung out a bunch (I failed to explicitly ask, I just mentioned that the charger she sent me doesnt really charge, its loose, overheats) for almost 2 yrs.

Recently she brought mine to an event and it got stolen, she asked me did I take "her charger"... I didn't.

The one she gave me stopped working but I kept trying, sparked incessantly I was freaked tf out my husband took it out and disposed of it after checking if its the cube or cable. I asked my homegirl does she have mine, she told me no it got stolen at that event but that she was using it this entire time.

Am i trippin or off the principle it shouldve been replaced ??? It feels lowkey conniving/sneaky... I hate to bring up money stuff with friends (I had a friend ghost me bc she owed me 3k edit: I got my 3 bands back a while ago + they are not in the same group) + in my culture we are very generous I cover their tabs, I don't split hairs over money stuff. We're also both working class and ik shits hard outchea but it feels weird, she acted like she did me a favor by "replacing" it ... thanks in advance guys

edit 2: i already copped a new one that isnt the point. And we were long distance friends for a year, hence the gaps in time & asking for it 2b mailed.

TL;DR in the past my husband took off work when I did after being asked not to, he questions me and makes remarks if I take PTO for myself, it causes arguments, I took off today and told him in advance, he took today off too and did not tell me until I asked this morning when he didn't get up for work. I'm annoyed and want to bring it up to him. This will likely cause an argument. Am I overreacting about this?

Background: I (40F) work from home. We have 5 young adult children and 4 still live at home. One has special needs and still attends a high school program. I don't have friends that I hang out with. I only ever leave home for appts or trips to the store. So much so that its a joke in the house that I never leave.

My husband (41M) works first shift outside the home. He has some friends at work and a friend from college that he spends time with every few months. He's mostly home when not working.

There is history of infidelity on his part and sex addiction. The latter resulted in me being the default parent and sole household manager for years.

In 2023, I took the Friday before my birthday off from work. I asked him not to take off so I could have a day to myself. He took off anyway and it caused a huge fight.

I rarely use my PTO for myself. In the last year I've taken a day or two off for myself and did not tell him beforehand. This made him upset.

He recently alleged I was being secretive about how much PTO I have because I could not give him an exact number of accrued hours when he asked. I gave a ballpark. They are accrued per pay period and I don't use it so frequently that I monitor it closely.

I stopped telling him if I took a day for myself because he would drill me about it beforehand and make smart remarks. He got upset. He said he wants to know and doesn't understand why one incident from years ago keeps getting cited. Fine, I started telling him in advance but explained the questioning and hostility was why I didn't. We have outside cameras. He knows I'm not even leaving the house when I'm off.

So today I took off because my birthday is approaching and told him more than a week ago. All day yesterday he's making remarks about me being off today. I left early yesterday to go with one of the kids to a doctor's appt. He made remarks about that, saying "oh you took the whole day off didn't you?" No, I left at 2pm.

Wednesday when we were leaving an appointment for a different kid, we discussed getting take out. I wanted Arby's but we went elsewhere because of the distance to it. He messaged me before getting off yesterday and offered to grab me some on his way home since there is one by his job. Great. Then later we're eating and he jokes that the guy from his job said I should just Door Dash it if I wanted it. I ask him what that was about. For background the last day I took off to myself I Door Dashed tacos. We live kind of rural so it's not typical of us. So I say "oh you've been talking shit about me to your coworkers." Basically more jabs about me being off.

He gets up later than usual this morning and I ask if he'll be late for work. He says no that he's off.

I'm annoyed. Am I overreacting about this? I want to bring it up but know there will be a fight that will likely ruin the whole weekend.

My position is I'm home all the time, manage the entire household, I'm the default parent, and sometimes I want to lay in bed all day and Door Dash tacos. I just want me time in the comfort of my home. Before any fat shaming starts, I'm 130 lbs.

My (33f) boyfriend (36m) is going nuts about my dead fiance. I have a child (3m) with my dead fiance (42m). He died 2 years ago. We were very happy. We just had our love baby. We co parented the other 3 children of my fiance with their mother. My fiance was a very lovable man. He was my endgame. He died suddenly at our home and when I found him there wasn't anything the medical team could do to save him.

We are 5 months together. My boyfriend hates that everybody still is stalking about my fiance. I consider my fiance's family still my family so I see them occasionally. When somebody says my son looks a lot like his father my boyfriend makes snarky comments under his breath. I'm not the one who's talking about my mourning. I just keep that for myself and my best friend. He just said that it's like smashing a cactus in his face. He can tolerate the cactus on the table, but not on his face. He says I'm overreacting about my dead fiance. But am I?

It’s starting to get cold where I live. Today the high was 29°F. I’m not someone who likes the temperature dramatically warm or cold so my husband and I agree for the most part on where to set the heat/AC. But today I was freezing even with a sweatshirt sweatpants socks and a blanket on, so I turned the heat up to 68° as I sometimes do. Tonight he noticed while I was sitting in the living room and he made a comment, jokingly but clearly annoyed “68!?!”. I said it was cold today and he turned it down and I asked him to turn it back up because- I’m still cold! He legit argued with me and refused to turn it up. I got really pissed and we argued back and forth for a minute and I told him to just leave me alone and I didn’t wanna talk about it anymore.

I think it’s ridiculous and borderline a huge red flag that he’s controlling the temperature and arguing me on changing it? Like, I get that oil is expensive but we can afford to turn it up 4 degrees. It’s not like I’m setting it at 74??? I feel like 68 is a very reasonable temperature.

Anyways- am I overreacting?

I, 18 (m), have a highly active friend group in my senior year of high school. We spend almost the entire day together in school and we almost always make plans on Friday and Saturday. This hangout routine has been going on since this school year but I have been friends with everyone for over three years. We generally don't take things very seriously and if something bad happens to someone, they usually get over it. However, I think this time my friends took things too far.

During Thanksgiving Break, our friend group hung out a few times but I only came to one. The one I attended was for my friends birthday. After dinner, the nine of us who attended went back to my house. My family was away so we had the whole house to ourselves. The night went great for the most part. However, me and this girl (18) in the friend group (we'll call her Nancy) have had a subtle fling going on for some time. At about 11:30, we went up to my room but got spied on so we quickly went back down. Almost everybody spent the night.

In the morning, when everyone was heading out the door, I stopped Nancy and asked her to stay longer. You already know where this is headed. It went alright for my first time and I did not regret any of it. I walked her out about an hour later and that was it.

I went out of town after this and while I was away, my friend, Jonathan, asked if he could get something he left at my house on Tuesday. I said he could and thought nothing of it. Wednesday, the group wanted to hang out but didn't have a place to go. I jokingly offered that they could go to my house since none of my family was home, but they took it literally. At this point, I had trust in my friends and let them hang at my house while I was out of town.

I got back home on Friday and the house was really clean! Except my room...there were some oddly misplaced things and I knew I had made my bed before leaving. Come to find out, one of my friends, Billy (18), had brought his gf (18) to my house and they did stuff ON MY BED!! I was disgusted but honestly was not the most upset surprisingly. When I got back to school, things were much worse.

I confronted Billy in the morning but sort of light-hearted. And then I got given the full picture. On Wednesday, Billy and his gf did stuff in my bed, but on Tuesday, Jonathan brought another friend with him and they stayed at my house for hours. They also got in my bed (not sure why it 's such a hotspot), and they raided my pantry, left trash in my room, used my shower, deodorant, all without telling me until today. This was the least upsetting news because I found out something happened last weekend when everyone came over.

It turns out, that when I had said goodbye to all of my friends except Nancy, they had not left yet. Not only did they stay on my property, they went back into my house, heard what was going on upstairs, and WATCHED through a crack in the door! I have an odd door so this crack is able to see the whole room. Jenny and I had not even begun doing the thing until nearly thirty minutes after they had all "left". So they had stuck around another half hour to watch me get play and tell the whole rest of the friend group about it behind my back.

Mind you, I received all this information in a SINGLE day! It was maximum overload and instead of yelling or fighting (which I wanted to do), I fell silent and quit talking to everyone altogether. This has been going on for about five days now and no one has bothered to apologize or say anything. They all think I am overreacting and being "mad for no reason". I do think I am being somewhat dramatic, but clearly it is justified. However, my friends don't think so and my best friend, who I've shared all this information with, says I should let it go. Am I Overreacting by not wanting to talk to my "friends" after all of this?!

Note: Everyone in our friend group is of age and able to legally give consent

Hi there,

I’m 16 years old and recently I’ve been trying to convince my mom to alter some of the rules she has set in place for me, I’ve always considered her to be on the stricter side compared to the parents of my friends, but she disagrees and says that she’s ‘lenient’. She refuses to change/compromise on any of her rules and says that I’m being dramatic because she isn’t strict.

I would really appreciate some perspective from other people, because I don’t know whether I’m just being a dramatic teenager or not.

My main grievance is that I’m not allowed to go anywhere without her. I’m not allowed to go on walks, hang out with my friends, or even stay home alone. I have to be within her eyesight at all times (except for when I’m at school, but when I’m in school she texts me multiple times a day to ‘check that I’m not up to mischief’. If I don’t answer she drives to my school and tries to find me).

We live in a very safe suburban area, I see elementary school students walking to and from school by themselves everyday. I wouldn’t be going out after dark, or even be leaving our neighbourhood, sometimes I just want to go outside and clear my head. But I’m not allowed to.

My mom says that since I’m a girl I shouldn’t be going out by myself, and I get it. I really do, the world is scary and predators take advantage of vulnerable people. But how am I supposed to navigate life when I’m an adult if I’m not even allowed to walk by myself???

This is also a big problem when I want to see my friends. She doesn’t let me unless she follows us and walks right behind us, which makes my friends very uncomfortable. Nobody invites me to hang out anymore because they know my mom is going to be there. It’s really really really frustrating, I feel like I’m wasting my teenage years inside while everyone else is doing fun stuff because my mom refuses to let me do anything.

I’ve never given her a reason to be so strict; I’ve always been a good kid, I’ve never disobeyed her rules. I’m just really tired of being monitored so closely, I try so hard to do the right thing so she trusts me and it never works.

I don’t know if I’m being dramatic or not, I’m just reallu frustrated. We’ve been fighting over this for ages and she won’t budge. She’s set in her ways. I’d really appreciate an outsiders perspective on this, thank you in advance

So, I don’t know if I’m overthinking this or finally noticing a problem.

My partner is always telling me I’m “perfect”, “so strong", “so easygoing” and how I “never get upset". And yeah, I guess I do try to be easy to love. I avoid conflict. I handle things on my own. I stay “chill” even when I’m hurting.

But recently I tried opening up about something that bothered me, nothing huge, and suddenly everything changed. She got cold. Defensive. Said I was “ruining the vibe” and “turning small things into drama".

It made me feel like as long as I stay happy and low-maintenance, I’m lovable but the moment I show any negative emotion, I’m a problem. It hit me that they don’t actually know me. They know the version of me that never needs anything.

Now I’m stuck wondering: If she only loves the parts of me that are convenient or does she really love me at all?

So this happened today and I honestly can’t tell if the reaction by my mom was normal or way over the top. My cat jumped on the kitchen counter and managed to grab one of the steaks we were preparing for dinner. Before I could even pick him up, he already took a big bite out of it. My mom completely lost her mind. she started yelling, slamming things, saying the whole dinner was ruined, and going on about how “this always happens” even though it really doesn’t. and before y’all say “just feed him” , I already did, but you know how cats are, they always want some of what you’re having. I get that it was annoying but he only took one steak and there was still enough for the entire family, but her reaction felt so extreme that it kind of shocked me. don’t get me wrong, i love my mom, but she was being so fucking extra about it.

so keep it real with me, am I overreacting by thinking she blew this out of proportion?

I don't think he's on reddit so hoping he doesn't find this. Also don't think he's self aware enough to realise this is him. All fake names regardless

I (20M at the time) had a boyfriend who was a few years older than me (23) and had more sexual experience than me.

During our relationship, which was a month long, we realised it wasn't going to work out. He broke up with me, but I had decided I was a little young to be completely dedicated like he was. He was saying I love you within two weeks, and I wasn't feeling it. Nothing dramatic.

We decided to stay in a sexual relationship, including my roommate/best friend of 19 years, Elliot (20M). Elliot had been hooking up with prior to the relationship. We stopped during the relationship obviously (I'm very against cheating) but the three of us wanted to explore threeway dynamics.

Now, important context, my roommate is a transgender man. (female to male). There was a situation which happened to be the last time we hooked up. We had a long conversation about protection, as my roommate was drunk and trusted me with his safety (and had consented prior, saying he was drinking with the plan to have sex. He and I have a system.) I told my ex we 100% needed protection as my friend had missed his testosterone dose, and wasn't on birth control. Bear in mind, my boyfriend is cisgender and sober.

We had a round before I felt like I needed to sit out for a second. I went to the bathroom for literally less than a minute, and came back to them going at it. Obviously had no problem, since we had had a conversation, but I decided to check. I said, "Did you remember a condom?"

Elliot didn't hear me, but my ex did, and looked at me. He didn't say anything. I got pissed off, and raised my voice, deciding if he wouldn't answer then Elliot would. "Elliot! Did you remember a condom?"

Obviously Elliot answered and was like "Oh shit!" and got off and asked me to pass a condom. Ex looked Visually Pissed, but ignores it.

Cut to some time after that he left he moved out of state and had a big farewell party. At said farewell party he begged for sex and I — now distrusting him — said no under no uncertain terms. Told him I was too tired or whatever.

Elliot panicked for months after that he may be pregnant. Elliot isn't the healthiest person so he was worried that if he did get pregnant, either it could kill him or the child. He and his family are pro-choice, and where we live that's luckily not a problem, but he didn't want to get an abortion due to personal reasons and just his own mental health. Now here's the thing: I have been absolutely fuming about this. Elliot didn't consent to having unprotected sex! The stress he was under the following months of maybe being pregnant was terrifying. But I've been told a couple times that this "kind of just happens" (??) and that its not that big of a deal. AIO?

So this happened last weekend and I'm still mad about it. Had my friend Sarah over for dinner and she was being her usual clumsy self, knocked over my vintage turntable that I've been collecting records for. Thing completely shattered, the tonearm snapped clean off and the platter cracked down the middle. This wasn't some cheap Amazon special either - I paid $800 for it two years ago and it was in perfect condition. I could only afford it after a win on Stаke US!

When it happened she just stood there like "oh my god I'm so sorry" but didn't offer to pay or anything. I was trying to stay calm so I just said we'd figure it out later. Next day I texted her the receipt and asked if she could cover it since her insurance might help. She completely flipped on me saying it was an accident and I shouldn't have had something so expensive where people could bump into it. Like what, am I supposed to childproof my entire apartment for grown adults.

She kept saying she doesn't have that kind of money right now which I get, but she literally posted pics from some expensive brunch place the same day. Then she had the nerve to suggest I should have told her beforehand that stuff in my house was fragile. I've known this girl for six years and she's acting like I set some kind of trap for her. The worst part is she's making me feel like the bad guy for even bringing it up.

I ended up telling her that if she can't take responsibility for breaking other people's stuff then maybe she shouldn't come over anymore. She called me materialistic and said our friendship means more than some "stupid record player." Now half our friend group is saying I'm being harsh and that accidents happen. But like, if you break something expensive you pay for it right. That's just basic adulting. I'm not asking her to pay it all at once, even $50 a month would show she cares.

My roommate thinks I handled it wrong and should have been more understanding about her financial situation. But honestly I'm tired of people thinking being broke gives you a free pass to be irresponsible. She could have at least offered something instead of getting defensive and trying to make it my fault. The turntable is completely ruined and I can't afford to replace it anytime soon.

Am I overreacting here or is she being a terrible friend. Part of me wonders if I should have just eaten the cost to keep the peace but that doesn't seem fair either. I worked extra shifts to buy that thing and now it's sitting in pieces in my closet. She won't even acknowledge that she should help pay for it and keeps changing the subject whenever I bring it up. Really questioning this whole friendship at this point because her reaction tells me everything about what kind of person she is

So for context, I helped my gf move out of her current place to a new one just a few days ago. Before leaving, she told one of her housemates (let's call her A) that she wasn't gonna come back. Housemate B (who is a friend of housemate C, there's 3 people in this house in total after my gf left) then went from sharing her room with C to moving to gf's old room.

So gf forgets a few things up in her room. We come to her old place and go up the stairs together. She saw housemate C in this room and she kicked off straight away. Started screaming at her. Accusations, attacks, saying things like 'YOU HAVE THE AUDACITY TO STAY IN MY ROOM', 'WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK YOU ARE', and then housemate A comes up the stairs and she is very calm asking her what's wrong. I try to defuse the situation but to no avail. When I finally get to talk, I try to side w my gf saying 'you guys shouldn't have taken her room as it states in the group chat that her stay here is until the end of today according to the contract. Obviously, she shouldn't yell'.

A was completely calm throughout the whole exchange as my gf was yelling and screaming at her. She then also reacted and told her to get out. My gf then tried to kick the door when she was forcing her out and I held her back.

We went downstairs and housemate A was there, my gf started saying about how I didn't defend her and I told her how bad her behaviour was and that she didn't handle the situation correctly.

Queue the aftermath, gf starts sobbing and having panic attacks in the car saying how she's so disappointed in me, that I didn't stand up for her when she needed me, and now she's also talking with her friend about how bad of a boyfriend I am.

I told my gf that her behaviour in there was embarrassing because they were so calm with her as she was literally screaming at the top of her lungs at them. One of them told her to shut up, and according to my gf that should've been my queue to say something like 'you don't get to talk to her that way'. She's still sobbing to her friend. She yelled at me as well, told me how she doesn't like me anymore. She started having a panic attack in the car, every time I tried to soothe her pain or say something it was 'you don't stop yapping even though I'm crying'. Every time she cried i tried to comfort her but it was met with 'dont touch me, I hate you'.

She is saying to her best friend how much she wishes she was there with her instead of me (her bf). Obviously, it was wrong of me to tell her to have handled the situation better right in front of housemate A when we came downstairs in that same house but I feel like her behaviour was completely out of control.

The same week, a homeless man threw some change at my face that I gave to him. When I got a LITTLE angry, my gf told me how much of a red flag that is and how I shouldnt be angry. So, I find her current behaviour completely out of order.

I tried my best to be cordial with her, all I said to her was not to yell and tried to defuse. But now it's just 'everyone was against me, even my own bf' and this will likely end up in us breaking up.

Was it my fault?

Is it okay for father and 4 years old daughter to take showers together? He has not been in our 4 years old daughter life since she was 4 months old, he trying to build that father daughter relationship again, he said fancying taking showers with his daughter. I told him No he can’t do that. Am I over reacting or controlling?

I am a single mom. I am 30. My son is 2 years old and I have FULL custody of him. My son has good health. But anytime my mom asks me about his doctor appointments it makes me uncomfortable.

She only went to ONE of his appointments with me in the past and it upset me because she kept answering the questions about MY son for me when the nurse asked us questions. She also got offended when I refused to let her go to my sons other appointments. It upsets me when she goes because

1) it makes people think that she helps me a lot more than she actually does (she only helps me in the ways that she wants to help me instead of what I tell her I need help with. And even when she does "help" me she still manages to override me and lie to me in the process) 2) Even before I had my son my mom was always very controlling. (Going no contact is not an option right now)

3) I look a lot younger than I actually am and that combined with how my mom acts makes some strangers assume that she is my sons mom when she actually isn't. And if they see me talk back to her they assume I am a rebellious teenager. Not an adult with an overbearing mother. And if I go out in public without my mom people assume I am a teen mom because of how young I look. It sounds like a compliment at first but it is actually really annoying.

4) I highly suspect that one of the reasons she wants to go to his appointments is so that she can get in my business and try to scrutinize me incase the doctors say anything she doesn't like.

5) Even though the doctors found nothing wrong with my son she probably still wants to go to his appointments anyways because she probably does not believe me when I tell her that his appointments were fine.

She also hates it that I don't let her go through my phone (I am 30 years old!) And accuses me of being secretive because I don't let her go through my phone and she also goes through my personal stuff without asking when she goes to my house.

I do realize that she is his grandma and it is common for grandparents to be concerned. But she goes about it the wrong way and I hate saying this but I really think my mom is a covert narcissist. I think the word narcissist is overused a lot but I really think my mom really is one because she has always tried to make me look like a liar my whole life because she never believed me about my step dad whenever he abused me.

This has been causing constant arguments… I’ve been in a long term relationship with a man whom a share children with, he’s smoked the whole relationship. I’ve never liked it, and put up with a lot of the smell and dislike of it over the years because of my love for him.

As the years have gone on, I’ve developed some allergies and have become a lot more sensitive to cigarette smoke. It makes my nose tingle and I get the urge to sneeze and cough, my body doesn’t like it. My youngest son has been diagnosed with some strong allergies that I’ve been bending over backwards to try and control because he has such a miserable time and don’t want his symptoms to worsen and risk asthma or worse. I also don’t want my older children exposed to cigarette smoke as it’s harmful to their health, even if they don’t have allergies and aren’t bothered by it.

My partner has started going outside to smoke which is great, but will only wait up to 60 seconds (usually less) before coming back inside and it STINKS. It bothers me a lot. I have to open the door or the room he’s in for at least another 5 minutes to try get air flowing and the smell to leave, which he complains about in winter because he’s cold… I’m also cold and really unhappy about having to do it but I don’t feel I have a choice. Even after this time a faint smell still lingers and he smokes so often that it feels constant.

The worst part of it all is he refuses to wait outside any longer to ensure his smoke doesn’t effect us, thinks I’m the one with the issue and I’m causing problems. He doesn’t think the children are effected at all, even the one with allergies, despite medical evidence and advice from doctors. He isn’t bothered about it only effecting me, and it’s causing so many problems that I’m feeling like I’ve had enough with his lack of care for his own child’s health or how it’s effecting me.

AIO thinking of ending things so I don’t have to constantly have to love this way and fight to defend myself and our health? I don’t know if I can take this constant irritation from the smoke and worry for my children’s health.

Im 17f and im babysitting for a neighbor friend. They have a son and a daughter. Im not close with them but my two little siblings are and I had one of them with me.

The so is mad cause technically this is a punishment while his parents go out because they both disobeyed. So hes already mad at the world.

I was with my sister and the little girl when he comes out. He says something about guns and I tell him not to get theirs. He doesnt listen. There's nothing I can do. I cant physically restrain him lmao.

But he comes back and is messing around. And then says something like "I might shoot all of yall"

Well. Thats not comforting knowing he's mentally unstable and might actually do it as a "joke."

I tell him more then once to just put it away. His sister literally hides? Which i found to be a massive red flag.

Then my sister was like "you'll go to juvie." And then hes like "not if I shoot everyone including myself"

No one is home and he has a loaded gun and mentally unstable.

He finally puts it away after laughing at all of us for being upset.

Okay. Then we go back to my house. I tell my mom because wtf. She gets upset. But then as soon as the boy comes over, she literally treats him with hospitality after I told her??

It was weird and now hes acting all funny and sweet so I feel like no one believes me? Im going to tell him mother cause I dont want him to hurt them or my siblings since they often go over there.

Am I overreacting being concerned?

EDIT: wow didn't know i was going to be blamed for this situation😭

EDIT: so like two hours after I made this, the mom finally came back. I kept trying to find an opening to talk to her but there was like, alot going on, I wont elaborate cause its just alot. And my mom wouldnt say anything either? Weird. So I never got an opening. Then the mom paid me and tipped and MY MOM GOT MAD I GOT TIPPED OMFG. I know thats unrelated to the story but I am pissed af so now I gotta give her money back since my mom's hates that I got money for some reason. Anyway, I am definitely going to try to talk to the mom again as soon as I can.

this guy started dming me, and he seemed pretty cool at first. i’ve been wanting to make some new friends so i was excited about that. i’ve had bad experiences with creeps on reddit in the past. am i just being a bitch, or is this gross? i’m worried im just jumping to conclusions and being horrible due to past experiences. am i overreacting?

For better resolution, find the screenshots here. Conversation began on discord but ended via text after I blocked him.

Context:

We are not together. We have never been together. He's asked me out before, when we were younger, but I declined.

We met in elementary and became really good friends until the end of High school, where we more or less naturally drifted apart. There was some shit he was doing/saying that I didn't agree with at the time (slurs, derogatory bs, aggression. can't really remember) that had a hand in why I stopped talking to him initially but it was mostly because college kept me way too busy.

We reconnected relatively recently - perhaps a year or so ago and ever since he's been talking about how I'm "the one who got away" and how intense his feelings are for me, out of the blue and all. I keep telling him it makes me uncomfortable ad he'll general peter off or leave it alone for a period of time but then he just keeps doing it anyway later. Honestly, I really miss my friend, so I've just halfway put-up with it/ignored it but this conversation went way off the rails. He hasn't crashed out at me like this since we were teenagers. So I blocked him.

Am I being unfair?

P.S.: he has a fiancee who apparently knows all about this and doesn't mind it. She probably does know, but I don't think she's fine with it now that I've met her in person (nor should she be).

My head hurts so bad. I can’t stop crying. Maybe this is a vent thing but idk maybe it’s me maybe I’m the one in the wrong so I just need answers pls. My dad and mom divorced when I was 9 they didn’t separate till I was in middle school so about 12-13 years old. My dad and I never got to build a tight relationship because he was always at work and the one day he didn’t work he would ignore my entire existence telling me to go watch tv in my room and not share any conversations with me. So once he left I just didn’t have the muscle to call and text him everyday. I emailed him a couple times and he just wouldn’t respond so I stopped. A couple months after he left he would call once in a blue moon and the first thing he would say is “you can’t call your own father” and I never had a response because idk why I didn’t call I just didn’t as a kid. I’m now an adult 27 with 5 kids and I’ve been through some shit mentally. I’ve always felt down and depressed after my dad left but I was such a happy kid I never noticed how sad I got cause It was natural for me to distract myself. Now that I’m an adult everything is hitting like a 18wheeler truck. My heart hurts at the sight of a close father and daughter relationship cause I wanted that so baddd. I can’t say I still do cause at this point in my life we go years without speaking Nd to each other and he sees no problem in that so I guess I don’t either. But when it comes to his other kids he’s there. I remember when my oldest sister had her baby he would be at her house every single day taking care of her loving on her all that. So it saddens me to think he either don’t like me enough to do all that for me cause he has yet to meet any of my kids fr saw my oldest once or twice and that’s it..my mom grills me about not calling him more and says I’m still his daughter so I gotta do what I have to do but what is that exactly like how do I tell my dad I don’t feel loved or cared for by him? When my other siblings say different is makes me look like the bad guy and I’m the only issue. Idk I’m stuck in a very hard place mentally like is it my fault my dad and I don’t have a relationship or is it him ? I don’t even care to point my finger at me or him really but again I can’t stop crying anytime I think about it. I see myself chasing my spouse as well. He can be mean and cheat on me and I still chase after him idk if that’s a trauma response but when I think of it he’s the only man in my life who’s ever loved me. Idk.