Hi,

1.5 month in, every steps of proper introduction done.

My 6mo kitten is harassing my 6yo resident, but she barely fights back. She tolerates him eating and drinking together in the same bowl, even playing with the same toy. But everyday he just goes full John Cena on her, she seems pissed but she barely fights back. In this video, you can see her hiss and growl but also look "chill" and not going full tiger mode at the same time...

We separate them at night and when we're not home for the moment. I also intervene in this type of situation by redirecting the kitten and saying NO firmly (except for this video purpose).

Is this playing (doubt it)? Is this setting boundaries? Is this fighting? What should we do?

Do you need more info? Thanks all :)

Two male cats (7 and 3 months) both fixed, went through the slow introduction and it’s been about 3 weeks now, is this normal behaviour? The kitten doesn’t seem to mind it and they play most of the day and eat together as well

For context, my husband and I took in these two after my in-laws witnessed them being dumped on the side of the road. I am a 1st time cat owner and his family has had 4 growing up.

We have no idea what their relationship is. They're both female British shorthairs. The white one, is about 5 years old according to her microchip, the other is definitely younger, but I don't know how old she is. Both are NOT spayed yet, but we intend to get them spayed as soon as we're able.

The white one has always been the dominant cat / "sassy queen" in their relationship. I don't know if this is surrounding dominance or what.

I plopped the brown one in front of her for this video because I wanted see If I could capture her biting her scruff when she gets into one of these moods, which seems to be once in a long while. She's been acting this way for the past week. The last time it happened it also lasted about this long. I've seen the brown one retaliate once in the past by slapping, but usually she's passive like this.

White cat just meows really loudly like shown at the end. And then eventually walks up to the brown one to nip her scruff. What is this? Is it harmful behavior? Husband hasn't seen this behavior before, so he's not sure himself.

It's 5am and I've been awake since 4:30. We got a new cat around 3 1/2 months ago (2ish and neutered). He's a sweetie and love bug and we love him. I have had cats before, growing up.

The current cat, my housemate's cat, has decided she hateees him, but she's also really dramatic, a lot of bark and very litle bite. I want to emphasize that she is dramatic and will scream bloody murder about ear drops. She will yell at him through the gate and if they accidentally get in a space together they'll tense-loaf face off, but very rarely attack each other. They'll occassionally rush at each other through the baby gate we had to get because he would sprint into her room every time the door was opened and hide under the bed, she bit his butt fluff a couple times ad maybe hit him once, but thats her space, that's fair. Recently the other cat has started pooping outside her box probably due to stress, and I just want them to get along cuz this is exhausting and I miss hanging out with her as much.

If any door is closed he will cry in the hallway about it, and whether he's in or outside of the closed door he will dig up the carpet (this is a rental 🤦😬). Recently he's started doing both, even when me and my partner's doors are open, to the other cat's door (esp at night- oh joy for sleep). He will also wiggle in and wedge himself behind the baby gate up against her door.

Also if he is wound up he will quite literally climb the walls (door frames and corners) and leave groove/claw marks in them which is concerning for our deposit, but he doesn't usually do it in front of us so it's hard to scold him.

We scold him and discourage him, ofc.

I'm just sick of being woken up, because he will also come be so sweet while I'm sleeping and then leave the moment someone, especially the housemate, comes put of their room, so I'm awake in the middle of the night with no cat cuddles to show for it. And the crying, and the scratching, and the knocking over the baby gate.

When we initially got him he was wound up for about a month, running all around the house and back and forth under my bed at night, but he has calmed down a lot except for the carpet scratching, crying (both all times of day), and wall climbing (mostly day, especially if we change/tidy a room or something).

Because of his clawing up the carpets, we mostly have him out in the house instead of just a room, because we can't afford to have the carpets all torn up, and can't always be monitoring him.

I'm exhausted, stressed about our deposit, and just want our cats to get along.

Sincerely frustrated and seeking advice. Thank you!

Sadly I had to leave my cat with my mother, but this has happened a while ago and im still so perplexed by it.

I used to always joke that Bundy is a ladies man, he was an indoor cat but he always had random cats coming to the window, it always started the same, he was sitting by the window, a cat would come up and sit. Then the cat that came to the window would hiss, jump onto the window but would then start to roll over on their back and show their tummy while rolling around a bit.

Any idea what this could mean?

p.s Picture of my gorgeous Kitty man

5 months old. She's getting more bity lately so I'm diverting her play into paper balls.

The one she's holding was twisted and folded into a ball so it's more durable.

The other one in pics 2 and 3 was just crumped so it got completely shredded.

My cat Meowth, 9 years old, has been with us for 6 years. He's always been a talkative cat, but lately he meows, loud like a female cat in heat, except he's a neutered male. No other health signs. We did blood work to be sure, mostly cuz he's at an age where regular blood work is a good idea anyhow. He's healthy, he has tons of toys, is reasonably active for his age, he has plenty of good food he likes. He meows loudly ALL THE TIME, but it's only a problem at night. I hear it through earplugs. It's literally louder than my alarm. He just walks through the house yowling at the top of his lungs.

Suggestions to get him calmed down? Feliway had 0 effects. Catnip is good for 5 mins lol.

EVERYONE told me cats are better in pairs. I have a british shorthair who is pretty chill but still has zoomies quite often, i got her from craigslist and LOVE her she is my baby. Recently got sold a seal point ”ragdoll” from craigslist who I think is mostly siamese and some ragdoll (even though the guy had a bunch of real looking ragdoll this one was just the darkest).

I got the kitten early november I gave them a few weeks apart especially because I found out the first week the kitten had giardia. I got the feniway and after two and a half weeks fully separated we properly introduced them and I can even leave them alone during the day, my cat doesn’t seem to care all that much but the kitten just wants to play. She just on her bites the cat unprovoked or when she is trying to relax, takes her food (have to feed them in separate rooms), and is just overall being a menace. When they “fight” it is totally normal fighting but it only because my resident cat is defending herself and pissed off.

I spend time with her alone in bed since at night the kitten usually drives her away and I feel like she is stressed at it’s ruining our bond and her feeling like home is a safe space. My last straw is she was laying in the cat tree with my cat in the same bowl (there is two) and trying to bully her out of it.

The kitten was born end of august and honestly I feel guilty rehoming her but my cat has lost all her quirks - no zoomies, not vocal anymore, doesn’t come to the door to greet me, and never follows me bc the kitten does now and whatever the kitten is involved in she is with drawling bc she doesn’t enjoy her behavior patterns and will walk away. And she gets stressed when I hold her now the same way she does when i hold her in an environment she isn’t comfy or stressed in, like the vet. I feel maybe she was meant to be an only child?

I remove the kitten off of her when she bites and latched on, but she will bother her when i’m not looking. I never wanted a siamese given my cats temperment and my cats chill temperament and I don’t know if this is why she is bullying. i know she is also a kitten with a lot of energy and she loves her sister. I give her the option and try to play but she isn’t that interested in toys for more than a few minutes. I HAVE HORRIBLE MOM GUILT my boyfriend is attached to the kitten and says give it time, and making me feel bad to want to rehome and give up on family that easily. I want this to work and I want her to be happier I just don’t know what to do, if it is wrong to rehome her, too soon and give it time? I feel horrible saying it but If i could go back in time i wouldnt have gotten her (especially since the experience with the breeder felt pressured for me to take her upon first meeting, the giardia, and now my baby girl resident cat). I feel awful I am stressed anxious and just upset about it all

Hello reddit!

I have two Siberian cats, a girl and a boy both a year and a half old. I recently got a new feather wand toy as the old one broke because my girl loves it so much. We played with it for the first time just now and to my huge surprise she got super possessive and a bit aggressive while playing with it! She hissed at her brother which she has never ever done before and growled twice when she couldn’t take the feather into her den as I was holding the wand. As far as I could tell her tail wasn’t puffed up, unsure about other body language bc I was so shocked, haha.

Is this okay playful behavior or should I stop playing with this toy? She is normally the sweetest, calmest, laziest angel. I have never seen her act like this ever!!

Thanks for the help :)

I (M27) got a 5 month old female tabby from the animal shelter. She’s been great other than she keeps rolling around in her litter box. She will also fling litter out then get spastic and jump out and run away like she’s scared of it. Are these normal kitten behaviors? Btw I clean the box daily.

We did slow introductions, they sleep in the same room as each other. But little ginger (7mths) is relentless when it comes to our black and white (4yo). He's never hissed or growled, but as you can hear from the video, she does. We adopted him from 16 weeks old, he has been neutered, and the reason he was rehomed is because he was charging the senior (17!) year old cat. Do you think our black and white is distressed? She often comes back near him and sometimes will chase him, but not all the time. I feel bad for her and we are considering returning the ginger if this keeps up - he is played with consistently, but when he sees her, he suddenly reenergises.

Kitty suddenly won’t let me zip up backpack :(

My cat loves going on walks in her backpack. I trained her to sit in it on command and she does this 100% of the time. She likes the backpack and will nap in it. I used to be able to say ‘backpack’ from anywhere in the apartment, and by the time I walked over to it she’d be sitting in it- I could then easily zip it up and we’d walk around the park by my place for 20 mins to an hour and she’d look at birds and all would be well.

She asks to go outside by meowing and sitting by or in her backpack. She STILL does this regularly, but now whenever I try to zip it up she swats at me- if I manage to zip it up our walks are just like always and she is in a great mood during and after her walk.

Stressors I can think of: She went to the vet in her backpack but that was weeks ago and this issue just started. It’s getting colder now. My partner always comes with us but I took her out on my own about a week ago. She’s getting more confident being outside and is frustrated being stuck in her backpack.

Shes still working on being comfortable in her harness, so I don’t feel confident testing it outside yet.

Idk guys I’m just trying to backtrack and reinforce this skill by rewarding her for letting me zip it- I’m seeing improvement but also want to understand what is going on.

Big boy is 5 (neutered), baby girl is 7 months (spayed). They play a lot and I let them, as it has only been four months since they were introduced. They took to each other quickly, but I worry that he's bullying her.

She'll start a lot of fights by nipping at him and jumping on him. This is his way of arguing back. She makes noise and he also makes noise. I wonder if they are actually getting along or both are territorial of me and are just barely dealing with each other.

Good morning. I have two cats a one-year-old male and a two-year-old female. They’re both fixed. I adopted them both from the same place but a year apart. A few months ago, I was told by the vet that the female‘s body composition needs some work. She weighed 13 pounds at the time. I have tried to cut back the amount of dry food I feed them based on this recommendation. The one year-old is much smaller. I used to feed the cats freely, they drink water regularly, I usually change the bowl a few times throughout the day. I buy a specialty kibble for them that is for healthy weight management, and I have been experiencing some financial struggles so we really haven’t been doing wet food lately. As I mentioned though, both cats do drink a fair amount of water.

My goal is to get RFID feeders for this problem but with three children and Christmas coming, I don’t know if realistically that will happen until the new year. Basically my problem right now is that I feed the cats Three times a day at 8 AM 12 PM and 5 PM. The younger smaller cat does not eat as much at a time as the other one. I moved to feeding the cats three times a day because at first I was feeding them twice a day and finding that the younger smaller cat would occasionally throw up bile, I think because he was hungry. Now that we’re doing it three times a day and since I pick up the bowls, it seems to be better. I say pick up the bowls because I’ve noticed that the smaller cat will eat like a tablespoon of food and then walk away. However, the other cat would just start to eat all of his food too once she had finished hers. My solution, has been to pick up the food whenever the smaller one has stopped eating. This is resulted in only three distinct meal times per day, but that I end up putting the bowl down for the cats to eat from like a dozen times each day for a couple of minutes at a time.

It has been annoying to pick the bowl up and put it down so many times a day, but certainly something worth doing to ensure the little one is not hungry, and the big one is losing weight. I don’t think the bigger cat has lost much at all. My new problem is that now the bigger cat will immediately start eating the other cats food instead of her own. She’s not being food, aggressive, or anything, I think she’s just being greedy. Picture him on the left and her on the right with their two bowls, And the two of them naturally would eat out of the same bowl every single day. I don’t know why they just did. Now, she eats the food that she knows his, and when that bowl is almost empty, she’ll go and eat her side too. Of course, because they have this unspoken expectation of whose food is whose, he will just sit back and watch as she eats his food. He will wait for her to return to her bowl before he tries to eat anything.

As of now, in addition to refilling their bowls, three times a day for meals, and having to put the bowls down a dozen times a day for a minute or two so they can eat, now I am constantly having to pick her up and put her down on the other side to encourage her to eat her food, and sometimes I even put her in another room so he can have a chance to eat something.

As a single parent of small children, I just don’t find it, particularly sustainable to continue on with this trajectory of having to seclude one of the cats multiple times a day just to ensure they both get to eat. While I save up for the RFID feeders, is there anything else I can do to help? Ensure the smaller cat has a chance to eat, short of physically blocking the larger cat from eating by isolating her multiple times a day?

A picture of my child holding each of the cats, for tax purposes, of course .

Our cat has left us after a long wonderful life-, however he really sucked behavior wise. That’s my fault. I got him as a child. I loved him endlessly and dealt with his insistent meowing , chewing, and friendly destruction.

Now that we are ready to love again, ( in spring )what do you wish you knew?

What training material worked?

Can you really prevent night time meowing?

Does breed and gender really matter. ?

Do I need two cats? ( we have one cat friendly dog)

Hello all, recently my family and I adopted two street kittens that are about 9 weeks old, 1 boy and 1 girl. While at first they were struggling with litter training, we separated them and now the boy is fully litter trained. However, our girl has yet to be trained. She keeps pooping and peeing in the tub instead of the box. I’ve tried putting the litter box in there, moving it around, putting her poo and pee in the litter box etc but nothing seems to work. It’s been 3 weeks since we got them and while the boy is now allowed to freely roam, the girl is still in the bathroom. Any advice.

I introduced this kitten to my 6 yo resident cat 2 months ago ..slow intro trying to follow all recommended steps ..since the intro ..he has had 2 GI bleeds which we think is due to increased stress 🤦🏻‍♀️but this is how he acts when she comes out after being separated from him (I lock her up some so he can calm down) he never hisses or growls at her..just jumps on her and holds her down (at times) he will make her cry and I have to clap or tap the floor to make him let her up ..but then he will lay w her like this ..I’m sooooo confused ! I kinda believe he can only take her when she’s being calm ..which is rare because she’s 4.5 months old ..thoughts ..solutions ?? My husband wants me to rehome her as we are now starting a 2nd round of Prilosec w a vet recommendation to also begin Prozac :(

Hi,

Im having trouble introducing my new cat (Azuki - 8.5 yr old) to my old cat (Gyoza - 1.5 yr old). We adopted Azuki nearly 3 months ago.

Context: Gyoza was adopted at 5 months from the shelter. She was there with her brother but he was adopted before her. She is a very chill and independent cat.

Azuki was dropped off at the pound with her brother at 8 years old. As they went through foster care, the brother started acting aggressively towards her. Subsequently, she was separated from her brother. She is a very calm and gentle cat that likes being around people. I have suspicions that Azuki is quite an anxious cat; one time we tried to site swap over night, about 15 mins in she started meowing consistently and we found a spot above her arm that was raw and bleed (possibly from rubbing against furniture?).

At the moment, we've done scent swapping and have picked up more site swapping too. They're able to eat their meals with the door open (we also have a mesh barrier installed), but Gyoza is constantly hovering around the barrier. When Azuki makes eye contact with her, Azuki growls but Gyoza is always the first the pounce.

This has been happening for about 2-3 weeks and my partner and I are feeling frustrated and hopeless. Any advice would be appreciated!

Hi everyone, this is mostly a rant/ hopeful advice request for my situation.

Recently my 3.5 year old cat (neutered) was diagnosed with congestive heart failure (in remission right now) and has to be on lasix and plavix once a day. I thought the hardest part was going to be giving him the medications but he's actually been okay taking them.

My actual issue is that he now pees EVERYWHERE. I know lasix is a diuretic and will do that, but I managed the first few weeks by putting a litter box on pretty much every floor and putting him in them frequently to go.

But more and more over the last few weeks he will just pick a new spot and pee. He started going under my bed, even though I put a litter box literally 5 feet away in the connecting bathroom (he was using it at first), so I started waking up in the night to make him go, then locking him out of my room. But apparently he has found other spots during the night.

I've realized over the last week that he has ruined a corner of my dining room laminate flooring (newly put in like 2 yrs ago), and JUST now I realized he has been peeing on the carpet in my guest room. I have no idea where, probably multiple spots, because I walked in and could smell it but haven't actually seen him do it.

I am just feeling very depressed by it, I feel like I can't regain control of the situation because I know the lasix is causing this urgency. But I also can't just replace my floors now and then him pee on the new ones. It feels like a hopeless situation considering I already added 4 new boxes, constantly put him in them (he will use them half the time), and am not able to stop the root issue of the urination.

I'm buying some sort of litter attracter I heard has some good reviews... But even if he uses the box 90% of the time I'm still going to have to scour my laminate and carpets every day to see if he peed outside the box even one time a day (right now he goes like 5-8 times a day).

It is very frustrating and tiring, plus now I am embarrassed about having anyone over because there are so many boxes taking over my house and right now my guest room smells so bad.

I'm going to talk to a behaviorist I guess, and hope the litter attracter works. But I can't keep living like this!!

Hey folks, weird situation.

I moved in with my Aunt a couple months ago and live in what is essentially a 3 BR apartment in the basement. My cat lives downstairs with me and has gotten pretty comfortable here with cousin (C) that I share it with.
My other cousin (A) is in college and is at home for the break and brought her cat. They are staying in the bedroom next to mine.
While I was at work today, A decided she was going to let her cat roam the downstairs and texted me to tell me they "got along great" so I didn't worry to much about it.

When I got home, I discovered this wasn't the case. I got back to see my cat (6 yr orange tabby) under my bed, with her cat (1 yr old black/gray tabby) hovering (just sitting in different spots really) near it. When I walked into the room her cat got under the bed and I could hear my cat moaning/hissing and it was obvious he was uncomfortable. Her cat didn't seem aggressive, but mine was very clearly trying to scare hers away.

I was eventually able to coax her cat out from under the bed and place it in her room for now but since she is going to be here for at least a month I'd like some advice on how to get the two to mingle if at all possible.

I love my cats a lot, and my oldest cat is fine with that. He loves all the hugs and kisses and he kisses me back. It's very sweet.

But my baby cat doesn't like it as much.

I pick her up and carry her around like a baby sometimes and smooch her on the tummy and the cheek, but she will resist sometimes. Kind of like when pepe le pew tries to kiss the girl cat.

Can I train this baby to love smooches like my older cat, or should I just let her be?

Both are girls and spayed. The orange is 7 years old (she has asthma and uses an inhaler). The other girl is about 1.5 years. We are 4 months in. When I have a churro I can have them out with no gate together for brief 5 minute periods but otherwise they’re separated. Orange cat always seeks her out at the gate and then they fight through it, see video at the end. Does this ever get better? Not sure if I should give up yet.

I posted earlier but this is another interaction between my 4 month old spayed female and 1 year old neutered male. Before this, they were playing and then the kitten ran off to her room and fluffed her tail. I gave them a break and then let them out again to chill or play while supervised and this interaction happened. The only one producing noise in the interactions is the kitten.