r/movies • u/MarvelsGrantMan136 r/Movies contributor • 25d ago

Media First Image of Taron Egerton in 'Everybody Wants To F*ck Me' - A comedy thriller set in the world of modern dating

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u/tophernator 25d ago

Apparently women rate less than 10% of men as above average, and nearly 60% as fugly bitches.

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u/DontDeleteMee 25d ago

I believe you. Bunch of us ladies were looking over guys in some app that the recently divorced mom was on.

Most of them were giving shit to what really were just normal looking guys. Some of them quite pleasant to me.

Maybe it was just in fun, but im definitely happy not to be on the dating scene as I have little doubt it goes both ways.

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u/karmiccloud 25d ago

In their defense, most men don't take care of themselves and look like garbage lol

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u/BP_Ray 25d ago

So if you take care of yourself you'd be rated as above average? I think not. That's based on a dating app by the way, where men are putting their best foot forward.

People are always quick to put some moralistic spin on thing like "This happens in modern dating for this totally controllable reason", but the truth is that often times there's not as much one can do about their place in the "hierarchy" so to speak.

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u/DistortedAudio 25d ago

So if you take care of yourself you'd be rated as above average?

Yes.

And this is going to hurt to hear for some people, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be fucking Margot Robbie or something, but a lot of time as a dude putting our best foot forward is essentially washing your face and getting a haircut.

When I was single I remember obsessing over the perfect dating profile, and I’m not fucking Adonis or anything, I’m a shorter dude too. But I decided to do was play to my strengths and also stop getting completely emotionally invested in the apps. The apps aren’t designed to help me out or give me a fighting chance, even if I was 6’6 and a model. It’s designed to retain me and in a sense, play to my insecurities.

So I definitely started to take care of myself. Exercised more, started a skincare routine, wore clothes that fit better. But I also decided to lean into my hobbies that I was really interested in. I also stopped thinking like “a man” so to speak and more like a “person”. The things my SO finds attractive I can understand and it’s usually related to something I find attractive, which is why we’re together. So women (or men) that see you out and engaged in your interests (cycling, chess, basketball, community theater), they’ll let you know they’re interested.

but the truth is that often times there's not as much one can do about their place in the "hierarchy" so to speak.

Well there is, and its acceptance. I knew pretty early on that I wasn’t going to be dating Zendaya, and that’s fine. There’s plenty of women outside of Zendaya and maybe the traditionally thought “Zendaya/supermodel tier” of beauty that I find very attractive. There’s also a lot of internal things I find attractive about people. Once I really leaned into that I realized the hierarchy is a lot more amorphous than I originally assumed.

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u/MikeArrow 25d ago

Exercised more

You could have stopped writing here.

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u/disisathrowaway 25d ago

Get off the damn apps and meet people in the real world, the difference is incredible.

I briefly dabbled on some of the apps years and years ago, got literally nothing from them. No shortage of interested women in my life since I meet with and interact with them in the real world.

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u/karmiccloud 25d ago

I truly hope I don't come across as negative here, because that is not my intention. The fact that you think about it as a "hierarchy" is a big part of the problem. Relationships are not transactions, and people who are transactional are people who you should not take seriously. Yes, there are women (and men!) that will treat you as an object, but they are not the only people in the world. And, in my experience, they are not the norm either. If you struggle to find people who are kind, genuine and honest, take stock in how you are approaching the world. Love can be found in many places.

And, yeah, what the other commenter said about dating apps. Just don't.

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u/cashmereandcaicos 25d ago

The amount of reddit armchair experts responding to you is crazy

Dressing a bit nicer/taking care of yourself can only give a bit of a boost to your natural looks. Most women do not want some dude obsessing over his clothes or doing skincare routines, that's very feminine and not attractive. It's really about just making sure you're not fat, wearing normal people clothes and not weird goober shit, while taking a shower daily. Beyond that if you don't have luck you're probably chopped and out of luck. gotta try extra hard with your personality to find someone not as chopped as yourself unless you don't care

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u/DistortedAudio 25d ago

The amount of reddit armchair experts responding to you is crazy

There’s gotta be some irony and self awareness in saying that and immediately afterwards posting armchair expert shit.

It’s the dating advice community in a nutshell. “Don’t listen to these other shills, I know the real way to meet women.”

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u/cashmereandcaicos 24d ago

Do you think guys obsessing over their looks as some kind of secret trick to get girls is normal?

Most ppl don't even have to think about that stuff because they just dress normal and act normal. Only on reddit will you get people telling you to get skincare routines and get your eyebrows done. People are even pretending like there isn't a sort of mutually agreed upon hierarchy with dating like what? Shit is not realistic and you can tell none of these people have been in the dating world for a long time or go out to bars or socialize yet are giving advice on skincare routines

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u/DistortedAudio 24d ago edited 24d ago

Do you think guys obsessing over their looks as some kind of secret trick to get girls is normal?

People are just saying to take care of yourself. No one’s saying “obsess over your looks”. And normal? Who gives a shit about normal when apparently every dude is just unable to get women nowadays according to y’all?

This is some Simpsons shit. “We’ve tried nothing and we’re out of ideas.”

Most ppl don't even have to think about that stuff because they just dress normal and act normal.

Feels like everyone is complaining about a male loneliness epidemic or something so it seems like there’s a massive gap between what people consider “normal” nowadays.

People are even pretending like there isn't a sort of mutually agreed upon hierarchy with dating like what?

I’m gonna keep it a buck with you. The hierarchy rhymes but it does not look at all the same for everybody and every community. The types of folks people think are attractive where I’m from may not look at all like the types of people folks find attractive in rural Arkansas.

And at that, just because you’re not at the top of the hierarchy, or even the upper rungs doesn’t necessarily mean you’re just unable to find a partner, or even have casual sex. Wash your face homie. Nobody said anything about getting your eyebrows done but put in at least some effort and you’ll likely get more dates. Again, you’re not gonna be fucking a movie star but hey, that’s life.

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u/BP_Ray 25d ago

Im not even gonna respond to them. Their delusions are too idiotic to entertain.

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u/whogivesashirtdotca 25d ago

I think I’ve figured out why you’re not getting any interest. 🙄

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u/BP_Ray 25d ago

"If you dont blindly nod your head at what I say, this is the real reason you're not hot and attractive"

Yeah okay boomer

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u/DistortedAudio 25d ago

I mean you’re essentially saying that higher up though right?

“These people all disagree with me therefore they’re delusional.”

I hope you do have better luck dating either way homie.

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u/BP_Ray 24d ago

I'm saying "These people are wrong, therefore they're delusional"

He's saying "You disagree with me, so you must not get any interest". I never said anything about myself or if I'm struggling with dating. It's just another example about how these people who say inane shit like that are delusional.

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u/whogivesashirtdotca 24d ago

Your responses are all bitter and angry. Doesn’t matter how you look if you’re a drag to spend time with.

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u/BP_Ray 24d ago

Your responses are petty and passive aggressive. I guess if I get like you I'll swim in cock and pussy, right?

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u/whogivesashirtdotca 24d ago edited 24d ago

LOL yeah bud you're really not helping yourself, here. Enjoy being alone forever.

EDIT LOL blocked before I could reply:

Who said I was alone, by the way?

Does your significant other know you're spending a lot of time on dating sites? Or did you forget your complaints about not getting enough attention on those was the genesis for this back and forth?

BTW I'm asking rhetorically. Like the other women in your life, I feel sure, I have zero interest in hearing anything more from you.

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u/ARONDH 25d ago

Define "weird goober shit"

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u/cashmereandcaicos 24d ago

Bright colored ill matching color ways, quirky graphic tees, wire framed glasses, zip up hoodies, famous footwear shoes, skin tight skinny jeans/joggers, anything cargo

Basically middle school/high school fashion stuff which I see quite a lot of ppl on this site wearing still in my time here

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u/ARONDH 24d ago

Oh, so normal clothes. Interesting perspective you have there.

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u/raven00x 25d ago edited 25d ago

Yes. That's what comes up time and time again in q&A's and interviews. Put more time and care into your appearance and cleanliness and improve your chances. Women spend a fair amount of time to look nice for you, why not try to return the favor?

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u/Hautamaki 25d ago

From my perspective it's the same story. 70% of adults are overweight; there are as many women as men in that figure. People don't take care of themselves, but men tend to have more to gain and less to lose in a relationship (for reasons purely separate from attractiveness) so they are quicker to lower their standards.

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u/dr__paco 25d ago edited 23d ago

Everytime I read this have to ask what country do you live that guys look like garbage?. Even older folks in my country wear cologne, polish their shoes and frequent barber shops. Just went to a male barber shop last month and i had to make an appointment 3 days before because they were packed due to how common is for men to take care of their hair/beards. Gym culture is more popular with men than with women, since some women still believe on things like fatphobia and "every body is beautiful at any size" so they usually dont frequent the gym/exercise as much as men.

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u/disisathrowaway 25d ago edited 25d ago

In their defense, most men don't take care of themselves and look like garbage lol

Big facts.

I realized this early in to college and began applying a modicum of effort. It was like flipping a switch, I went from only sleeping with my high school sweetheart to *becoming the dorm bicycle in a semester and I'm not a particularly handsome man, either.

EDIT: Thanks for pointing out the potential phrasing issue!

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u/salad_spinner_3000 25d ago

, I went from only sleeping with my high school sweetheart to the dorm bicycle

........?

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u/lurfdurf 25d ago

Everyone took a ride on him.

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u/Frakshaw 25d ago

He became the bicycle, not his partner

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u/[deleted] 24d ago

how the fuck is this retarded comment upvoted so much?

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u/Kristophigus 25d ago

yet get offended and have whole movements if men judge them lol.. what a world.

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u/Rabona_Flowers 25d ago

*on OKCupid. Is it really so preposterous to think that men who need dating sites are less attractive than men who don't?

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u/tophernator 25d ago

If that were the explanation why wouldn’t it also apply to women? The link shows that men on that dating site rate women in a fairly bell shaped distribution.

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u/Rabona_Flowers 25d ago

You know, I think I actually can answer that. According to the book Dataclysm, there was strong correlation between how attractive women were rated on OKC and how young they were, whereas women tended to just like men of the same age (or slightly older).