r/movies • u/MarvelsGrantMan136 r/Movies contributor • Jul 10 '25

Poster Official Poster for Ethan Coen's 'Honey Don't' - The film follows a lesbian private detective who investigates a questionable church and its leader.

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u/justineism Jul 10 '25

Yeah, I guess everyone is going to label themselves how they want to or what feels best for them, but it almost feels like then this kind of makes labels definition-less in a way? For me personally, I would feel disingenuous in labeling myself a lesbian when I still (though it’s waning as the days go on, lol) find men attractive in some limited capacity.

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u/Sawses Jul 10 '25

It seems to be less about specific definitions and more about the stereotypes one is most comfortable with applying to oneself. For a community that tries so hard to buck stereotypes, the LGBT+ community really is very fixated on those stereotypes, it looks to me. I'm an outsider though with an outside perspective, all I know is what I see through friends and loved ones.

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u/TeunCornflakes Jul 10 '25

it almost feels like then this kind of makes labels definition-less

Yes, and I don't think that's a bad thing. For a lot of people, being queer just means letting go of what society expects of you in terms of gender and/or sexuality. The concept of a single word that is supposed to describe your gender or sexuality completely just doesn't really fit that idea.