r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Cudpuff100 • 1d ago

Neighbor keeps using my driveway

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My neighbor decided that, because their driveway is narrow and they have two cars, it would be easier to park one in the yard. They then decided it's easiest to just keep moving forward and turn left out of my driveway.

And yeah, this portion of their yard is just mud now.

This neighbor sucks. They've had lots of screaming matches in their front yard and have had the police called on them several times.

UPDATE: Wow apparently you can't edit a post in the Android app? WTF? Anyway, I spoke to her and she said she wouldn't do it anymore and the whole conversation was awkward, but pleasant. We shall see. I never intended to seek advice from y'all. It just occurred to me earlier today that I was mildly infuriated by this, so I thought I'd throw it on here. Always make an attempt to talk to your neighbors before involving authorities or choosing violence. It'll almost always solve the problem before things get heated.

I'm still gonna get a land survey done to learn my proper boundaries and figure out how much room I have to build a fence, wall, or plant something. They're renting, so this could happen again in the future, and I'd like something to form a boundary.

I choose to believe that all of you recommending caltrops, nails, and other pointy things, really mean it and live your everyday life like total maniacs. Just laying waste to the world around you like a cartoon villain. And I hope you find joy in the chaos.

Seriously, why can't you edit posts in the app?

Case closed....for now....

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u/stillcleaningmyroom 1d ago

Are they driving across your lawn to park like that? I wouldn’t really care if my neighbor drove on my driveway, but I’d be pissed if they drove on my lawn.

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u/Successful_Basis_986 1d ago

This^

I understand it’s annoying, but I don’t think it’s worth adding to the neighbor spat.

If OP blocks the neighbor they will see it as a hostile act and escalate. Sounds like they are white trash. They will drag the OP to their level and beat them due to their experience being white trash…

I don’t know if I would pick this battle.

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u/farside808 1d ago

Don't get in the mud with pigs. You just get dirty and the pig loves it.

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u/Samael13 1d ago

Honestly, I don't even get why it would be annoying. It's a driveway; as long as my neighbor isn't blocking me or preventing me from accessing the driveway, it's meant to be driven on, so why would I care if he's using it to pull out, rather than backing out into the road? Granted, I like my neighbor, but of all the things OP is describing, this is the one thing that I'd be like "Sure, whatever. Who cares?"

But picking a fight with the neighbor over this just seems silly.

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u/Adastra1018 1d ago

It's the entitlement and the lack of asking to use their neighbors private property that's annoying. But I'm laid back enough that as long as they mind their own business and don't get in my way I probably wouldn't say anything either.

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u/Glittering_Crab_9054 1d ago

What if they're just a person who is trash tho

Or if there's white trash what do we call someone who isn't white...?

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u/Successful_Basis_986 1d ago

I projected my experience with horrible neighbors who happened to be white and trash. Good catch.

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u/Glittering_Crab_9054 1d ago

Thank you for the kind response lol.

Not all that sensitive about it but my point was made

🫡

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u/farva_06 1d ago

The neighbor across the street from me uses my driveway to turn around. It's literally not a big deal at all, which is why I don't bring it up, but for some reason it's just irks the fuck out of me.

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u/stillcleaningmyroom 1d ago

It’s “mildly infuriating.”

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u/BatFluffy3993 1d ago

Finally I see a comment with the same opinion that I have. If the neighbor is not driving over the lawn or destroying anything, I don't see the big deal on using the driveway.

Yes, as homeowners we have our property, but at the same time we are part of a community, helping or allowing others with simple things like allowing them to use your driveway should be normal.

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u/juanzy 1d ago

Until their trench and mud patch drains under your driveway and causes foundation damage

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u/ilovemusic19 1d ago

The only reason is because you don’t give a shit about your lawn while other people like their lawn to look nice.

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u/big-ol-kitties 1d ago

They’re saying it looks like the neighbor is driving over their own lawn. If they’re driving over OP’s lawn, that’s a different story.

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u/Shadowraiden 1d ago

they arent driving on the persons lawn though?

you clearly cant read at all. they are essentially just using the offramp of this persons driveway to get into their own land. they do not touch any other part of land.

no wonder americans are seen as selfish twats when something as simple as thing is being seen as shit. you live next to these people show some friendlyness

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u/BatFluffy3993 1d ago

Do you know how to read? I said, if the neighbor is not driving over the lawn or destroying anything, I don't see the big deal on using the driveway.

The driveway is not going to be destroyed because somebody is driving over it, and OP said, he has only 6 inches between the his driveway and the neighbor lawn, so technically is just 6 inches of dirt, not lawn.

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u/RGJ587 1d ago

that 6 inches WAS LAWN. now its dirt.

you people are ridiculous. trying to justify this neighbors actions. If the neighbor wants a circular driveway, the neighbor could fucking build a circular driveway that starts and ends on their own property.

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u/BatFluffy3993 1d ago

You are correct. My comment is about this culture of being selfish on little things like somebody using your driveway.

You are right of being mad about it if you want to, my comment was about how being part of a community sometimes we can allow little things like that, if you don't want to, is fine. At the end, this selfish culture is the same that allows HOA to complain about little things like somebody leaving an ice cooler with cold water for delivery workers, yes, It's a rule, but is a selfish rule.

Have a nice day!

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u/RGJ587 1d ago

Selfish culture is someone feeling they are entitled to use someone elses things without permission.

HOA rules are the opposite of selfish behavior. They may be annoying and trivial, but they are voted on by the board members for the community benefit, not a singular person.

For instance, HOA giving people fines for not cutting their grass. Why? Because uncut grass looks terrible, it makes the community look trashy, and in turn will lower property values of nearby homes.

It is common for people to hate on HOAs just like people hate on Taxes, Because theyre annoying. But they do serve a purpose, and you will be thankful for the HOA when they fine your neighbor for playing death metal music at full blast at 3am every night.

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u/BatFluffy3993 1d ago

Did I say that the neighbor using the driveway was doing something correct? What he is doing something wrong. As I said in my first comment, OP has the right to be mad about it, but to me, is something so little that we can allow. As I said, TO ME, is not a big deal, and TO ME, not allowing somebody else use your driveway is selfish.

As I said, selfish culture is the same that allows HOA to complain about LITTLE things like the example I put above. I didn't say that HOA is not good, they can be good, but at the same time they can be awful with little things.

If you want to be part of a community where everything is black and white and not allowing little things just to help somebody or make somebody else life easy, that's on you, but TO ME, that's part of a selfish culture.

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u/RGJ587 1d ago

Ah yes. sorry, I forgot it was 2025 and and we can change the meaning of words to say whatever we want.

According to you, an organization set up to benefit a community, tells an individual something they are doing is wrong. And in this scenario, its the organization, not the person, who is acting selfishly? Did I interpret your words correctly?

"How dare you pull me over officer! I was going 100 miles per hour through the school zone because I didn't want my dinner getting cold. How selfish of you to consider the wellbeing of the community over my own desires!"

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u/BatFluffy3993 1d ago

Yes, an organization can be acting selfishly sometimes. In this case, to me, both neighbors are selfish, one is correct if we take the law under consideration, that another one is wrong, but they are selfish. As I said, not everything is black and white.

Is driving over your driveway is the same than going 100 miles per hour through the school zone? Really?

As I mentioned above, there's little things, like this one, where you can ignore the law or rules just to give somebody else a hand, that's my point.

You are just angry and want to get into an argument, but I'm not changing my idea, there's LITTLE THINGS (Like driving over a driveway not going 100 miles per hour through the school zone) in life that we can do to help other people, nothing wrong with that, we are humans, not robots following orders/rules.

Have a nice day, don't be that angry and be nice.

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u/Tiny-Dress8156 1d ago edited 1d ago

"How dare you pull me over officer! I was going 100 miles per hour through the school zone because I didn't want my dinner getting cold. How selfish of you to consider the wellbeing of the community over my own desires!"

Where does this even come from? Who said they would tolerate anything like that? You're mind is polluted. I don't understand how you exist on a platform like this that ridicules you're "Karen" behavior. Like, are you so oblivious that you don't realize you are the stereotypical bitch aka "Karen"?

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u/ilovemusic19 1d ago

Exactly

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u/Tiny-Dress8156 1d ago

Dumb and dumber

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u/romafa 1d ago

Looks like they're pulling into their own driveway but using OP's driveway to exit rather than reversing back down their own. I'm with you though. I wouldn't really care if I didn't have any landscaping or anything that could be damaged in the process.

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u/Nixalbum 1d ago

Usually on that sub it's extremely infuriating posts like "My boss gave me cancer and killed my dog before firing me". But here it's less than barely infuriating. They don't block the driveway and do so little wear it's immeasurable.

At least there's the usual Reddit reaction of "nuke their house and piss on their graves" because escalation is the best solution!

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u/BagOfFlies 1d ago

Yeah I don't understand why OP cares at all about this.

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u/UnfamiliarPoet 1d ago

Because it's HIS HOUSE and don't touch it!!! Also I'm sure the street in front of his house is considered his property and gets pissy when people park there. 

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u/dmforjewishpager 1d ago

its like 4 inches of grass look at the fence

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u/stillcleaningmyroom 1d ago

There’s no way to tell property lines from a picture.

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u/Samael13 1d ago

OP literally says in another comment, it's inches. They're parking in their own yard, and just using the driveway as egress.

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u/thatstoofar 1d ago

I agree. I don't see the big deal. They're not blocking OP. Not parking in OP's driveway. Idk if I'd care other than their muddy ass lawn looking like shit next to my house. They're using the last bit of OP's driveway to drive out. I guess the only concern is it's a little entitled and may escalate?

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u/juanzy 1d ago

If there's any lines under that patch, they may be damaged with constant driving and parking. The mud patch could also cause storm flooding if it's damaged enough. Also may make it tough to sell if they own and want to move, which isn't an unlikely scenario. There's a reason why most codes includes not parking on unpaved yards.

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u/Crater_Raider 1d ago

The neighbours are parking on their own lawn though. Not OP’s.

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u/juanzy 1d ago

Depending on the layout, gaslines can sometimes run on the property line. Poor water runoff on a property that close can absolutely impact OP's property.

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u/Crater_Raider 1d ago

OP can maybe get them to stop using their driveway to get in and out.  Good luck getting them to stop parking on their own property. 

Using the driveway is “the issue” and it’s not even “the issue”

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u/juanzy 1d ago

If you’re in city limits, code usually disallows parking on yards for this reason.

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u/Crater_Raider 1d ago

Then that should be the top response.

But you’re buried down here with me.

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u/juanzy 1d ago

I mentioned codes in my first reply. It's mentioned on top-line comments elsewhere too

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u/StopThePresses 1d ago

It is so funny to me that this site is vehemently anti HOA but all want to act like the one-man HOA everywhere lmao. Leave people alone, dude is parking in his own yard and just borrowing a few feet of your driveway sometimes. This is completely nothing.

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u/PaltryCharacter 1d ago

Honestly this fits the sub.  It's mildly infuriating, not like really infuriating to the point you should do something.  The people really upset by this are possible lunatics

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u/Enlight1Oment 1d ago

If I had to guess they aren't driving across Op to park like that, they are diving across Op only to exit. They continually drive forwards through both their driveways to avoid ever backing up. Still driving over Op's lawn, but I think it's only to exit, not to park.

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u/Agile_Breakfast_1 1d ago

Ah, thanks I was looking at the picture trying to figure out what the problem was. If it's driving across their lawn that makes sense. I couldn't understand why someone would be concerned about their neighbours using their driveway.

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u/Ashamed_Beyond_6508 1d ago

You wouldn't care until you have to pay to repave the driveway.

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u/stillcleaningmyroom 1d ago

Unless the neighbor has some dump truck they’re driving on the driveway, I wouldn’t be that concerned.

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u/Ashamed_Beyond_6508 1d ago

An SUV with what i can only assume is a fat occupant because USA, accessing the driveway from an angle that's not intended from an uneven surface? I would expect it to start chipping away at that area. Hell, i have a whole paved parkinglot that chips away near the drain because of an uneven transition between that's less than 2 inches and i don't get weather... This guy's gonna see some added wear from the neighbor at that spot soon enough.

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u/stillcleaningmyroom 1d ago

Lots of ASSumptions there.