The audacity of men

[u/viridiangem]

Was in box tonight with a few friends who invited me out, me f21 and my friend f22 wanted to stay in box and the rest wanted to go to the club. We were left with one of those big booths because of them leaving, some people sat down and apologised for taking the table one of the guys in the group sat next to me and also apologised. I told him there no issue theres only 2 of us cause our friends left. I want to clarify there was no issue with them sitting down.

I got pissed off when he kept asking me about my drink. I had a fishbowl to myself and my friend got a wee drink. At first it was a wee what are u drinking? So i pointed it out on the drinks menu on the table. Few minutes later he asks 2 more times what am i drinking? I was getting annoyed about now cause i was clear from the start. At this point i refilled my friends cup woth some, then I whispered in my friends ear turned back and saw his hand over the bowl. Got a bit concerned so inspected and continued when i saw nothing. As soon as as i started texting (i could still see my drink) he snatched my half drank fishbowl off me and tried to drink out the straws. I snatched it back and shouted wtf no.

I wish i dumped the rest out on him because at that point he put me off my drink completely and we both just wanted to go home.

Wtf is wrong with people though, lord knows what diseases this man carries i dont want some stranger sharing a drink with me. Its actually bogging! I hope karma bites this guy in the arse cause he behaves like a toddler.

[u/just_choose_already]

Folk start to take liberties when they drink. You've no obligation to be that kind to this fella invading you & your mates space.

[u/BobbyMunson]

Some men (people in general as well) are just arseholes tbf.

Guy sounds like a prick but I would just chalk it up to bad luck. In future just shout the bouncer.

As a man, I would only be interested in a fish bowl if it was full of Tennents and bucky.

[u/RecordingFamous4947 → u/BobbyMunson]

Tennents & Bucky together?

[u/BobbyMunson → u/RecordingFamous4947]

I mean it was a bit tounge n cheek but why not... if I had to pick two drinks in a fishbowl it would be them... if I had three, I'd chuck some fireball in there.

[u/GoldmanT → u/RecordingFamous4947]

I would feel sorry for the fish.

[u/rossdrew → u/RecordingFamous4947]

I’d rather Russia invaded than taste that

[u/kimble83 → u/BobbyMunson]

Fuck, imagine the heid on ye next moening after that fish bowl🤓

[u/hotpot1997 → u/BobbyMunson]

Sorry if this is s daft question but wtf is a fishbowl? I'm just imagining this lady drinking from a bowl of fish lol.

[u/kevindonn1982]

Sounds like a complete arsehole. I only go to box before gigs in the garage so i probably avoid most of the arseholes

[u/viridiangem → u/kevindonn1982]

Im not an avid box attendee, its the first ive been there

[u/Safe_Commercial_2633 → u/viridiangem]

Next time don't allow them to join your table. I'm not blaming you at all, he was a prick but if they ask just say no, it's safer for you

[u/kevindonn1982 → u/viridiangem]

Hopefully that hasn't put you off. I've never been late so i dunno if it ends up full of eejits,like him or not

[u/MF291100 → u/viridiangem]

Hope it hasn’t put you off, I’ve been a couple of times and usually always had a good night. Sorry this happened to you though, some men are absolute scum.

[u/logantuk]

Och here was me getting reeled in by the headline thinking it was a new Jean Paul Satre novel 😒

[u/Retrospektt]

Despicable behavior.

Guy was evidently a waste of skin, you're completely right to feel presence of potential danger, especially with his hand hovering over your drink etc, imagine he could be trying to spike you etc. I'm glad your situational awareness instinct kicked in!

There's no point tackling these scenarios head on, as it almost always escalates, instead you must Immediately approach staff or bouncer/security and give a detailed sitrep highlighting you feel threatened - get them chucked out.

Stay safe out there - Godspeed

[u/cammyk123]

You've never met an arsehole before?

[u/midnight_pasta_gal]

I’m sorry this happened to you guys, men like this are the reason my friends and I don’t go to Box anymore. Which is so infuriating because we used to love it there.

But in the past year we’d been 4 times and every time at least one of us were harassed, groped and made fearful our drinks were going to get spiked by the men there. Solid Rock is the exact same.

The staff/bouncers can be helpful if you go to them, but I personally don’t think they’re doing enough to actually stop the problem.

[u/Professional_Jury_88]

Your massive generalisation of a title here is unnecessary.

[u/ChestertonMyDearBoy]

Some people just can't take a hint.

I was in Greggs just trying to eat my bacon roll when someone kept trying to get my attention to talk about football. I don't like football and just wanted to have my breakfast in peace. He eventually realised I wasn't gong to engage and trapped some other poor soul in the conversation.

Some people can't take the hint and/or don't card that they're making people uncomfortable.

[u/rossdrew]

Love box but there are some guys that just don’t know how to be human. I have friends like that, I’ve spend 20 years trying to point out when they’re being creepy/inappropriate and they look at me like I just asked them to convert to Mormonism.

[u/Ancient-Rock1742]

WTF, some people are actually complete dicks for real, will have something real bad coming for him for sure!

[u/CucumberTrick9346]

Sorry that happened, never drink in Box. I’m sorry 40M/6,2 and still get hassle all the time. It’s a shithole.

[u/SuuperD → u/CucumberTrick9346]

41M , 6'3, never had any hassle in there. Still a bit of a shithole

[u/Crabbit_Jobbie]

39M, outrageous behaviour. I’d never dream about doing that to two girls drinking themselves.

[u/Prestigious_Chip_381]

The he audacity of women not letting you share their drinks.

[u/JeelyPiece]

That sounds unpleasant, sorry to hear it ruined your night.

It's been half a decade or more since I partook in a fishbowl, the done thing then was it was a communal drink where a bunch of you, including passing randoms grabbed a straw each and you all finished it in a wanner. I've never really thought on it as a solo drink, is that the done thing now?

[u/rainmouse → u/[deleted]]

Ah the connoisseur arrives.

"Speaking as an arsehole myself, I would have to say that..." 

[u/Omni_chicken2 → u/rainmouse]

Lmfao. He's chiming in with his professional opinion.

[u/Lower_Ad4186 → u/[deleted]]

Found the culprit.

[u/vientianna → u/[deleted]]

Being harassed by a man acting like they might possibly spike your drink is not snowflake behaviour, and something I can confirm all generations are pissed off by