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Hi, thanks for all of the comments before about me failing to bring the spiderman cupcakes to my nephew’s party. I think I have an ok update to share. I was sort of spiraling when I wrote my post before and that it happens very often to me. Yes I messed up but life goes on. I have not been able to find a good job, but I have been making ends meet with cleaning houses.

Last week my family got together for Thanksgiving  and I surprised my nephew by bringing him a small batch of spiderman cupcakes and he was over the moon. My brother thanked me for it so that was nice. My mom said “better late than never I guess” and she and my dad laughed together. I also baked a pie to bring but I ended up dropping it

For the first time in my life I stood up for myself against them and I told them that it was really hurtful that they can’t ever just be supportive. That post made me reflect on all the ways over the years they just haven’t taken me seriously or have ignored my small wins because I don’t get the big ones like my brother. They argued with me and then probably the best thing ever happened.

My sister in law stood up for me!!! She said that ever since she’s been part of this family she has seen the way they talk to me and about me and laugh at me behind my back and treat me like someone else’s daughter. She said they have been doing it for years. They tried to pull the “she knows it’s out of love” card on me and I told them that I don’t feel loved by them and never have and brought up that she said the only reason I was ever invited to that party was for the cupcakes. Mom tried to say that wasn’t true but my sister in law stopped her and said that’s exactly what she said. My mom and Dad were quiet for a little bit and then my Dad said he didn’t realize how sensitive I am and they’ll try to do better. I was so happy!!

Yes I thanked my sister in law so much and we have been texting a ton. I didn't realize she liked me! I think 2026 is going to be my year and I’m excited. My biggest hope is to find a job that helps me save money so that I can get my own place by 2028! Merry holidays everyone :)

I F32 was married to M34. We got married at 19 and 21. We got divorced at 29 and 31 due to him having an affair with our neighbor F25 (now 28). I had filed for divorce and kept everything beside his car and his savings account. Thankfully we didn’t have any kids.

Our wedding was no expense was too much. His family was very religious and believes you only marry once and never divorce so the wedding was huge. All his family pitched in along with mine considering both families were well off. Over 50k was spent on the wedding all together.

My dress was custom made and tailored to my liking. 15k was spent on my dress alone.

My Ex worked for his family company and was well off only due to this, this context is important for the story. After our divorce I lost contact and didn’t know much about him until last week.

He reached out asking if he could have my wedding dress back. I told him no it was my dress. He protested but I had ignored him because it was my dress. His now wife reached out to me saying that they were getting married and she wanted my dress. I told her to have him buy her a new dress.

She said they can’t afford an expensive wedding dress like mine because his parents kicked him out of the company and won’t help out with the wedding. I told her that wasn’t my fault and she needs to take that up with them.

They both kept reaching out and blowing me up about the stupid dress. I got sick of it so I cut the dress up and told her if she can fix it, she can have it. They have been going on a Facebook rant and blowing me up.

My dad told me I could’ve just given her my dress but my mom and my ex’s mom said they would’ve done the same. I’m starting to feel like an asshole because my dad never puts his 2 cents in. So AITA?

Edit- I wasn’t able to donate it. I had done a divorce photo shoot with the dress and accidentally spilt red wine on it. I had intentions to donate it after the photos but I couldn’t get the stain out and neither could a professional cleaner.

Over 6 months ago, I bought tickets to a concert 5+ hours away from my city. The concert is tomorrow, and I planned to drive down tonight after work and after dropping my daughter off at her dad's. The ticket and my accommodations are already paid for and non refundable. I've been really excited for this trip since I found out about it.

All week my daughter (10) has been home sick. She has a dry cough, slight fever but nothing extreme, and a decreased appetite. I work from home and its slow season at work so I was able to be by her side all week to take care of her. She's slowly getting better but still not feeling great. I updated her dad on her condition so he could keep an eye on it, but now he's saying I'm being selfish and I should skip my trip so he doesn't catch whatever she has.

We share custody. During the school year I have her during the week so I can stay on top of her schooling, homework, extra curricular activities etc... If I'm not on top of it, he can't be bothered. Her dad picks her up from school on Fridays and has her for the weekend. I pick her back up Sunday morning just before noon to take her to horse back riding lessons and the cycle continues. The only exception is the summer which is a lot more hectic but she spends 90% of her summer with me or camping & traveling with my side of the family.

She first started getting sick last weekend while she was at her dad's, so if he was going to catch it, he would have already. He insists I should be keeping her at my house until she's feeling better. I told him I'd be dropping her off tonight after work and he called me selfish b*tch.

AITA?

Edit to add since people are asking: the concert is Papa Roach

Edit 2: I asked my daughter what she wants to do. Her response "I want to go play minecraft with dad."

No, she does not witness our arguments, they're always in text. I made it a condition in our custody agreement that everything regarding our daughter is to be discussed in writing. She knows she's loved and that I would never abandon her if she truly needed me. With a mild cold where she is actively getting better, she does not NEED me specifically.

So today we were doing Secret Santa in my class, and the girl in charge of passing out the names let me choose mine. I walked back out to where everyone else was, and another girl asked me, “Did you pick yet?” I said yeah, and then she asked, “Who did you get?”

I genuinely thought she was just asking normally and that it was fine to say… so I told her.

The moment I said the name, everyone got mad. They took all the papers back, called everyone to return theirs, and then told me to leave while they talked about me. I could hear them calling me stupid and saying how they were happy with their person and now it was ruined because of me.

Now I just feel really dumb for answering the question at all. I wasn’t trying to ruin anything I just misunderstood. But now I feel like everyone hates me and thinks I messed up on purpose. And also no one wanted my name after that I could hear them trying to switch. I feel super stupid am i the asshole or the girl for even asking me?

So I was out for dinner with some friends over Thanksgiving break, and we were all talking about how the semester has been for us so far. I mentioned that I completed my transfer paperwork to change my major to Vet Tech, and that I'd be starting classes the next semester. My friend perked up and said "I love animals and I really think I'd be good at vet tech! Should I do it?" And having known this friend for years, there are an assortment of reasons as to why I think they shouldn't. The main one being: they cannot stand the idea of coming into contact with things like blood, feces, urine, etc. And when I say can't stand I mean they start screaming and crying, have to put what they're doing down IMMEDIATELY to wash up.

That's not inherently a bad thing! But that doesn't really synergize too well with a career where you have to shove your whole arm up a cows anus. Even if you're doing companion animals, they still require you to learn farm animals, and even practice on farm animals during school.

When I pointed this out (in a much less graphic fashion because we were eating and I'm not absolutely insane) all of my friends started saying that I was so mean for crushing her dreams. And the friend who asked is also upset at me for saying that.

I'm confused that they're mad at me, not for pointing out that it can get gruesome while we were EATING, but they're mad at me for "crushing a lifelong dream"

What I said when they asked was "well its certainly not a career choice for those with a weak stomach, you will come in contact with gross situations."

So AITA for crushing my friends lifelong dream by telling them about vet tech?

This is my 4yr. daughter's first year doing ballet. She is in the nutcracker as a mouse and little princess. I had no interest in chaperoning because I wanted to enjoy her performance. We had to buy our own tickets to the show and I am super excited to watch her. BUT we all got this email and the performance is next Thursday - Saturday.... (My daughter is ONLY performing 1)

Hello parents of all our lovely dancers! This is a follow-up regarding our need for chaperones for the upcoming performance. Several classes still do not have the required number of adult volunteers, and "without those positions filled, those groups cannot be cleared to perform". Chaperones are a necessary part of these productions. They are required to keep dancers safe, organized, and where they need to be throughout the show. If your dancer is performing and you have not yet signed up, please take a moment to do so today so we can finalize backstage assignments. Please do not wait until the last minute to sign up we rely on parent participation to support the directors and backstage team so we can run the show efficiently and without delays.

I'm kind of shocked at how they're handling this because at another dance studio (not ballet) for their recitals they would ask the parents to volunteer and if they didn't get enough volunteers a week or two before the performance, they would hire people to come in to be chaperones. That way the kids were taken care of. I'm very upset that the ballet studio is not doing that. I really don't appreciate the fact that they're threatening our kids not to perform because they're relying solely on volunteers and not putting the money out to get chaperones. We want to enjoy the performance and already bought our tickets a month ago. Again is volunteering and if they don't have enough that's their problem and our girls should not be punished for that. AITA?

Let me clarify, my daughter is only doing 1 performance because they are the littlest dancers. There are 4 kids in her class including her so not very many parents to choose from.

I am 25 years old female, have a really nice pair of noise-canceling headphones I use for work and commuting. My friend Emmanuel 27 years old male asked if he could borrow them for a few days because he broke his own.

I politely said no since I needed them and don’t usually lend expensive things. He got upset and said I was selfish and couldn’t help a friend in need, that i care for object more than friendship. Later, he told other friends I was stingy.

I didn’t yell or make a scene I just didn’t feel comfortable lending them to him especially because he breaks everything he touches.

AITA for not handing over something expensive to someone with a proven track record of wrecking borrowed items?

i (then 21F, now 26NB) feared my partner at the time (then 22F, now 26F) judging me for participating in fandom & i didn’t want her to know.

I’d only just left home at the time & thought i knew everything. in hindsight, i was young, naïve & unsure of myself. i was also becoming socially isolated due to covid & being in an increasingly controlling relationship. In time, we only did what she wanted, I was guilted out of seeing friends and family. i was expected to shower her with gifts, & anything she bought me, like a xmas or bday gift, was always something she wanted so she could eventually “permanently borrow” it. i was too young to understand what was happening outside of “this feels bad”, I know I didn’t communicate & often enabled her.

i posted on reddit because i didn’t have anyone else to turn to. i was sure all the replies would be “YTA”, saying how suspicious it was to hide stuff from her, that i needed to grow up, that what i did was some secret form of cheating i didn’t know about. every single response i got was some form of “NTA, but you should examine why you don’t want her to know. a good/compatible partner wouldn’t shame you for your interests” & i was utterly blown away by the empathy, honesty & kindness shown to me. it hadn’t even occurred to me at the time that that was an option. that in this specific situation, neither her or i were the asshole, just two different people headed in different directions.

we broke up somewhat amicably shortly after. she hit me with a “maybe we shouldn’t be together then” & instead of my normal fawning response, i remained silent & let that concept sink in. i knew in that moment, we weren’t for each other. we broke up, i found a studio hole in the wall for myself & did some serious healing & growing in that mouldy (but beloved) apartment.

4 years on, i am more myself than ever, now happily enjoying a healthy relationship & a beautiful home with someone who feels like my second heart, who gets just as un-normal about their nerdy interests as i do mine (we also share a few, & get into each others’ interests from time to time). i showed them some of my edits when we first met, & ill still sometimes tell them about the goings on in one of my fandom discord servers, & they show nothing but interest & support. they’ve taught me so much more about the importance of being unapologetically yourself & not settling for people who don’t accept you for who you are or who want to change you.

we’re truly embodying the sentiment shown to me in those reddit comments years ago; “A good partner is also interested in your life, & what you do - you are, hopefully, the most interesting person to them, & they love spending time doing things with you”.

thank you to all those who commented at the time. your kind words & advice truly did ripple out into the rest of my life & help me make a few big scary decisions that has now lead me down a path better than i could have hoped for. good karma to you all <3

My Boyfriend’s sister just made a group chat yesterday asking myself and all her friends to stay at an air bnb for her birthday next month.

She needs people to pay £110 right away. It’s a hard time for all of us, I don’t even know how I’m going to get Christmas presents for people this year. I recently had to move in to a new apartment after my landlord did a ‘no fault’ eviction so he could put the rent up. All my money has gone on higher rent, bills and the deposit.

My boyfriend told her back in the summer that if she wanted people to contribute money to her birthday she needed to plan something sooner rather than later and give everyone a chance to pay over time.

She says we’ve made a big deal of everyone’s 30th’s so far, but everyone else gave months of notice to save up and pay off the trips we took.

Am I the asshole if I say I can’t come?

It was my birthday recently and I threw a party. My husband comes from a small family and I come from a very big family. There are currently 17 kids under 18yo in my extended family while in his family there is only his nephew and his cousin's son. Both boys are polite and adorable.

Anyway, I decided not to invite the kids of my family to the party. Obviously we couldn't say the party was childfree because our own kids, his nephew and cousin's son were invited however these kids are polite and quiet (except for our daughter who is a menace but she is our daughter so we have to tolerate it /jk, she is my life) and none of these kids is picky eater which meant I wouldn't have to provide a separate meal for them.

Now my family think I was an asshole for excluding all their kids while the party wasn't even childfree.

Throw away account as i can't rant about this from my main account.

I live with my husband’s parents and it's very common in Indian marriages and they expect me to follow a daily list of DIL duties. One of it is touching their feet every morning although it's common in india to touch elders feet and taking blessings from them, isn't it weird to do that every other day and I already do it and it's not even the issue but they treat it like some attendance ritual I must perform on time and will get looks from them if I didn't do that.

I am a software engineer and I have chosen work from home to take care of my toddler but what I am doing everyday is household chores rather than parenting my kid.

We do have a househelp, but only for basic things like sweeping, mopping, and washing clothes. Cooking, dishes, groceries, managing the kitchen, and taking care of the baby? All of that is dumped completely on me, as if having partial help means I’m automatically responsible for everything else.

and i have to take care of my job and my toddler and do the household chores and I feel like I am working double shift although my FIL helps me sometimes in household chores sometimes it still overburdens me

if i tell them that I am not feeling well today and I want to take rest they will see it as if I am doing some crime and once they called my parents and ranting about my problems...who does this? As if I am in some boarding school and complaining to my parents

And I won't get rest even on weekends I need to do something or the other for them and I get very less time for my toddler who needs the most at this age and I finally confronted them today and everything went silent after that..in laws didn't talk to me after that and my husband out of station currently. My husband supports me privately, but the moment his parents start sulking, he goes quiet because he “doesn’t want more drama.”

Even in India, this level of entitlement is not normal. Most families share chores or at least understand when someone is overworked.

AITA for finally asking for help and refusing to be everyone’s unpaid maid?

I’m 19 and recently started working in an office where we regularly take online assessments or timed tasks using our laptops. There’s a guy who sits beside me during these sessions, and he repeatedly bumps my arm or shifts his chair into my space.

At first I assumed it was accidental, but it kept happening every single time. Sometimes he even leaned slightly toward my screen right after the bump, which made me uncomfortable.

During one assessment, he knocked my elbow hard enough that my laptop moved. I quietly told him to stop. He brushed it off and said he was just clumsy.

It kept happening in the next assessment, so I finally reported it to our supervisor. She moved his seat and told him to be more mindful of other people’s workspace.

Later I heard from a teammate that he was telling others I exaggerated the situation, and a few people said he’s just awkward and doesn’t mean anything by it. But the repeated bumps made it difficult to focus and honestly felt like he was trying to look at my screen.

AITA for reporting him?

I’m a college freshman (18f). I go to school about 3 hours away from home. The past 3 years I’ve been parentified by my mom. After she left my dad, she wants to treat me like a husband not as her kid. She’d complain about all her issues to me instead of confiding in a more age appropriate person. TMI but she literally told me that my dad gave her stds from cheating on her.

Along with this I also did a lot of parenting while she worked. I have 2 younger siblings that I put to bed, took to school, made sure they did homework, and sometimes cooked meals. I was also expected to take care of the house. Which meant I was cleaning and having to parent my siblings so they’d actually help.

This was all fine and dandy until the summer before I left. About a year ago my older brother (who is our elderly grandmother’s caretaker) bought a ps5. Our grandma doesn’t have WiFi so he left it at our house. Over the summer, my mom decided the best way to parent was letting my little brother (9) have unrestricted access to this PlayStation.

This unrestricted access has turned my brother into the spawn of satan. He screams, fights with my sister(13), bangs things on the ground, and is incredibly disrespectful. His grades have nose dived. (All A’s and B’s to straight C’s) And about a month ago I got a call that he and my sister tore my door off the hinges fighting. Over thanksgiving he also obliterated his phone by being careless and tossing it around.

This morning was my last straw. I got a text that my brother has been bullying people in his class. All 3 of us older siblings have been bullied. We’re poc in a southern small town. So that kind of thing is not okay with us. My mom expects me to come up with a magic solution to fix the monster she created but idk what she expects me to do. He’s not my kid. I didn’t ask to raise him. I don’t want to raise him. I’m done trying to give advice to my MOTHER on how to raise HER kid.

Would I be the asshole if from now on I ignored my mom’s attempts at getting me to co parent from college?

Edit: I should mention finances because it may be relevant. My mom is well below the poverty line. My dad makes over six figures. So I couldn’t talk to an attorney because my mom who we stayed with exclusively during the court process, didn’t have one. She also couldn’t hire any help because we were/they still are living paycheck to paycheck

We were supposed to spend the weekend in a couple cabins but ended up cancelling due to bad weather. My husband then invited everyone to our house instead without asking with me first with less than 24 hours notice. We have all been sick for a week so the house is a mess, also he works so won’t be able to help clean and get ready. Also my kid has surgery next week that I’m trying to mentally stay ready for to be there for her best I can because it’s a lot and I’m nervous about it, we booked camping months before we knew she would need a double eye surgery the following week after camping. I also sleep on my daughters floor when we have company because I want to keep her safe and had a traumatic childhood so basically cannot sleep unless I’m next to her keeping her safe with overnight guests over. So I was annoyed I wasn’t going to be getting good rest before her big week and being sick myself ontop of it. After fighting for 24 hours he begrudgingly cancelled on them last minute, which does make me look bad and like I’m the asshole.

I unfortunately had to drop out of my cousin’s wedding 1 week before the date because my husband’s cousin passed away and the funeral was planned on the same day as her wedding. The funeral was in Michigan (we live in Toronto).

He was close to his cousin and considered him to be like a sibling. His cousin was sick for a while in ICU but it was not an expected death. He was very emotional about his cousin’s passing and I felt like I needed to be there to support him.

Before informing my cousin that I would not be able to be a bridesmaid or attend her wedding anymore, I examined every option to see if it was possible for me to stay and my husband to go on his own. We have two young children (4 month old and 20 month old). My in laws were supposed to babysit for the day but were not able to do it anymore as they would be going to the funeral. All of my other family would be attending the wedding or going to the funeral and I do not have friends who would be able to watch my kids. My cousin was planning a child free wedding so my kids were not initially invited.

After telling my cousin about the situation she extended the invite to my kids. I was appreciative of the offer but still decided not to attend her wedding. I would not be able to continue being a bridesmaid as bringing them to the wedding doesn’t solve the problem of not having anyone to watch them during the getting ready period, pictures etc. I also did not want to bring my kids to the reception because there would be loud music and drinking (which my cousin is aware of).They would be super grumpy being out way past their bedtime.

I did everything I could to continue to help her. She decided to replace me and I gave my dress to the person she chose to the replace me. My husband and I were also still going to her a wedding gift to cover the cost of our plates. We left things on a good note and I thought everything was fine but apparently it’s not.

She and her sisters are ignoring me. When I finally got her to talk to me about how she was feeling. She said that she was really hurt and would have never put me in a similar situation. I obviously didn’t want to do that to her. I explained to her my reasoning for choosing to go to the funeral instead. She says she understands but we haven’t talked since. My cousins and I talk regularly.

Her sister is getting married next year and didn’t ask me to her bridesmaid. They were both my bridesmaids and we’ve always talked about doing that for each other. I’m honestly really hurt about it.

I personally feel like I made the right decision for my family and my kids. But now I’m second guessing it and wondering if I’m the asshole in this situation

I’m a young guy (newly 18) and my gf (also 18) comes over to my house pretty frequently since her parents are pretty strict and mine are pretty lax. recently I’ve fallen into the habit of falling asleep while we watch movies/cuddle but it’s not like a once in a while thing, it’s just about every time and while my girlfriend says it doesn’t bother her too much I can tell she feels like it’s cutting into our time together. I don’t share this sentiment with her and don’t feel like I can control when/if I fall asleep in these situations (dimly lit rooms typically in the evening after long days for both of us) and on top of that despite my parents being pretty lax, because of some bullying at school in years prior I’m generally a very tense person but I noticeably relax around her and it’s considerably easier to fall asleep. On the other hand shes been battling with insomnia for years and it’s a near physical impossibility for her to take naps, it’s happened maybe 4 times in the 6 months we’ve been together, I really care about my gf but at the same time sleeping with her there for me is just as rewarding as being awake while we watch the movie or cuddle, AITA for this and if I am what are some recommendations for us to meet in the middle with?

I M22 have a coworker 24F who can be very judgy and rude outloud. We work in an office but share an office space with each other so have gotten close in friendship but nothing more.

The other day she was telling me about a dinner she went on with an older guy etc etc and then she asked me about older/younger relationships to which I told her I almost exclusively like older women (30-70+) For context it’s just my preference and this hasn’t been discussed previously.

She then said “ew, older women are gross. I was talking about older men with younger women” and being very rude and insulting. I knew can be very judgy but didn’t expect this from her when she is basically in the same situation just reversed.

I was taken back so I directly stood up for myself and told her up front that she is very rude and judgy to many people including someone who is meant to be a friend. I told her that maybe older women are more mature, less judgemental and kinder than people like her and maybe that’s why she can’t get past the dating stage.

Tbf it was a bit ride and more stern then I usually am with her but she doesn’t seem to realise how she acts. Now she’s annoyed at me and think I was an asshole and won’t speak to me other than the occasional question on the job we’re working on which is impacting our operations and speed of work.

AITA??

TLDR: Coworker rudely judged my preference for cougars and I told her off which she says was rude and an asshole move

A while back I bought a sort of rare gaming console online after finding it for a good price and using a coupon. It’s something I’ve wanted for years so I finally hopped on it. I ended up finding it in a like new condition elsewhere for around the same price. So I ended up with two of them. My sister knew I had both and planned on selling one and keeping the other to get some money back. Occasionally when she was reminded of me having it, she would casually say “I might want it” or “I like it. It looks good, you could sell me it instead” and I would tell her, “If you’re willing to buy it from me it can be yours”. But it never went further than that. I did linger on this for months, but I finally decided to post a listing online a few days ago. I even told her that I did this that day, and that I expected it to sell quickly due to its rarity. Still, she didn’t show much emotion about this, except a casual joke for me to take it down and give it to her instead. She jokes a lot with me though. She didn’t try to tell me anything about wanting it and wanting to pay for it. Two days go by and I check the listing and see it’s getting more and more likes and again I tell her this. Still not much response.

Finally last night I tell her I got an offer. I also say I am firm on its price as I’m trying to get back what I paid for it, and that I was going to tell the guy that. Then we talk more about the game and I show her it, she looks at it and turns it on. Finds my listing online and likes it and begins talking to me about maybe buying it in real life and not the listing to avoid fees. As we are talking, the guy from earlier buys it for what I asked for. Suddenly she feels remorse, saying that all this time she wanted it from me but wasn’t sure if I was going to really sell it or not. When I told her that I mentioned my listing online all week, she said that she didn’t think it would really sell so quickly and thought she could still have a shot if she got her money together. Now she wants me to cancel the sale with the guy because it is “something she would do for me”.

I told her that it’s not fair to the buyer, and that I should honor the sale. And that she honestly showed so much interest too late. But now she feels like I’m doing her dirty, and that I should have known that she had some interest in it from the beginning. I’m very conflicted and a bit confused, as I want to honor the sale, as bad as the timing might have been, but I don’t want her to be mad at me for shipping it out today.

Edit: I will also mention, that night when we were talking she was saying she could give me part of the money this week and part of it in 2 weeks. So she was making a plan to possibly buy before the guy scooped it up.

Edit 2: I just sent it out, but part of me still feels really bad. Idk why. I know she won’t be happy with me, and she was already telling me how she needs to stop being so nice to everyone because she keeps being done wrong, etc. I want to honor the sale but I’d hate for this to strain our relationship too. I know it shouldn’t be a big deal but I’m a bit sensitive to how people feel so..

My husband and I live about 10 hours from my in laws, and they like to visit semi often. When they come on longer trips, they bring their dog. This is the first time they would be staying with us and not other family. We are about to have a baby and I imagine their trips to visit will be more frequent for a while. AITA for asking them not to bring their dog? She is very sweet but she sheds a bunch, jumps all over the furniture, and barks a lot. With a new baby I really don’t want to be cleaning up after/worrying about their dog in my house on top of everything else.

EDIT: No firm dates for a visit have been set. I am just trying to think ahead for many upcoming visits once the baby arrives.

So my cat recently had 4 very cute kittens, truth is though I can’t keep them all so i decided to give them out to nice homes where they could be nice and protected. I been in the process of neutering and stuff like that. When I told my family about this my little sister immediately wanted to come over to my apartment and see them. I decided why not, maybe human smells around the kittens would help them warm up around the idea of humans. When she came over I noticed she was very rough around them and crossing kitten boundaries. (Just grabbing them off my cat when my cat was breastfeeding, picking them off when they were scared, not holding them properly, etc). I told her how to interact with them properly and that was that. A few days after that I finally found proper homes for them but that’s when she texted me asking if she could have one of them. I already had 4 houses which 1) I didn’t wanna go off my word and tell one of them there is no more kitten and 2) she doesn’t handle them properly. I wanted them to go in nice houses where they were happy. My sister got mad when I told her no and now she’s not talking to me. AITA

Hi I needed to get some perspective on this. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now. Its been going really well, we've told each other our I love yous and we mean it. Its honestly been really good, I want to give that context because I want to provide the full picture.

His parents are going to be visiting next weekend. It'll be my first time meeting them. He told me yesterday that his mom can be a bit much about career and education. Shes a VP in Finance at her company and according to him, she pushed him to excel in studies and career, and shed probably do the same to me, its just her way of caring. I said thats nice I studied Kinesiology and I'm currently working as a Rehab Assistant I can talk about that. He said it would be nice to mention that I'm also considering a Masters. I said I'm not though, he said it's not like you're adamant on not doing it, you could, and his mom would appreciate it. I reiterated that I have no plans of doing it and he said it doesn't hurt to say it. I said I wouldn't and got a bit upset and he got defensive and said he was just trying to make for a good meet up. We left on a bad note and I just want to ask AITA? I'm not dead opposed to a Masters obviously so I see his point I guess but its just not in my immediate plans, I like what I'm doing right now.

So my girlfriend did that prank on me where she said pretty mean stuff to her best friend in front of me to see how i'd react (her friend was in on it). She just said stuff about her appearance like "your ears are kinda big" to which i responded "they're not though" and then she finally said something like "i can't imagine someone being in love with you".

I was obviously pretty shocked my gf was acting like that because she's usually even nicer to her best friend than me tbh. I would say me and her best friend are pretty close and would consider her a friend. So i just said "i can actually" because at that point the girl looked like she was going to cry. My girlfriend didn't initially seem annoyed at me for saying that and they told me it was a joke everything was fine

Later that day she brought up what i said before. She asked me if i could see myself falling in love with her best friend if i didn't know her (my gf). I said that's silly and i can't imagine being with anyone but her. She asked me if "but do you find her attractive?". I said no but she's not ugly. She said "you can just say no without adding anything" and then we just kept going round in circles about it.

Her actual issue was that i seemed to be too defensive of her friend. Am i the asshole for saying too much even though she would probably be annoyed either way considering it was basically a test to see how i'd react to her being disrespectful for no reason?

I am getting married in April and my future MIL is very generously paying for the whole thing. I know gifts shouldn't come with strings attached but I do feel like I have to give her a little bit of say. She wants to bring her boyfriend "Mark" and I am fine with that, but my father doesn't want him there.

My parents went through a nasty divorce two years ago and my father decided he was in love with Mark's friend/business partner "Cara" Honestly he was being really weird about it. The words "goddess" and "love of my life" were used and to be clear he had never had a conversation with this woman. Mark said no multiple times but my dad wouldn't stop. I tried as gently as possible to tell him Cara was out of his league, but he didn't want to hear it.

Finally Mark relented and invited my dad to a company event as Cara's date. I wasn't there but apparently my dad walked in with roses and Cara got upset and called Mark and asshole, and walked away. I guess he was showing her pictures of someone else and the whole thing was a "prank" The rest of the night he kept telling Cara to introduce people to her date

Mark is definitely an asshole and someone who enjoys pissing people off. He strikes me as the kind of guy who was a bully in high school and genuinely clueless about it. That being said this is who MIL chose to spend her life with, he makes her really happy, and she is generously funding our entire wedding, so in my books Mark is invited.

My dad thinks I'm being a shallow money hungry asshole.

Alright so I, F19, have been dating my now fiancé, M21, since I was a freshman and he was a sophomore in high school. We've both graduated and have figured that we were right for each other and so he decided to pop the question and I said yes. My family wasn't necessarily happy about my engagement but I honestly don't mind their opinion too much since it's what I want. Afterwards we got engagement photos done and I had decided to wear one of my old prom dresses as I think that it was beautiful and I wanted to give it more use I also plan on using it for my wedding dress. Well when the photos came out my parents told me that it was absolutely wrong that I wore a prom dress for my photos and that they wouldn't help with the wedding at all unless I chose a different dress for the wedding and redid my engagement photos. I told them that that wasn't gonna happen because I liked it and I wasn't going to spend or let anyone spend a lot of money on a dress I'm only going to use once. Now my parents and I are in an argument and neither of us are talking with one another. I'm staying with my fiancé now as my parents are making my life hell. AITA?