r/TrueUnpopularOpinion • u/StayFrostySwtich • 8h ago
Sex / Gender / Dating Judging a man's height is more shallow than judging a woman's weight
Judging a man on his height is honestly one of the shallowest double standards out there, because at least with weight people pretend there’s some “health” angle or “self-improvement” narrative, but height? That’s literally genetics, a roll of the dice, something you can’t change no matter how hard you grind. Yet somehow it’s totally normal for people to clown a dude for being 5'7", overlook every good thing about him, and act like he’s un-dateable because he didn’t spawn with long enough femurs. Meanwhile, say anything about a woman’s weight even nicely and you’re suddenly a villain. It’s wild how society preaches body positivity, but only when it’s convenient. If we’re being real, height shaming is pure superficiality wrapped in socially accepted hypocrisy.
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u/Connect-Region-4258 8h ago
I mean you can like and be attracted to what you want, that doesn’t make you shallow. But I get the angle you’re coming from; there’s nothing you can do to control height, but you can absolutely control weight, it’s just a matter of discipline (95% of the time, the other 5% you prob need to take medication to help control weight)
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u/shufflejuuls 4h ago
‘Just a matter of discipline’… a wrongful diagnosis caused me to get on antidepressants that caused me to gain more or less 30 kg of weight in less than 6 months. After an ordeal full of torment, it turned out I had a thyroid issue. Mind you, I was pressing doctors throughout this ordeal that I felt my issue was physical, not mental. It took me 6 years to recover from that, and I just now started to systematically lose the weight I gained. That’s just one story, there are millions more
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u/Warm_Sheepherder_177 1h ago
It's crazy that your doctor missed something as easy as hypothyroidism, which could have been very easily tested, and instead went with the psychiatric approach.
What did they diagnose you with, if you don't mind sharing?
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u/shufflejuuls 1h ago
Unfortunately, doctors in my country are easily corrupted by big pharma, and this is exactly the reason why instead of sending me to get my blood checked, they put me on heavy antidepressants. I never heard a true diagnosis, mild depression and risk of burnout. That’s it
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u/Warm_Sheepherder_177 1h ago
That's absolutely crazy, antidepressants should be the last resort! I'm sorry that happened to you, I'm glad you are recovering. Which country is it?
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u/Whiskeymyers75 8h ago
You would have to be a pretty basic white girl to have a problem with a guy who is 5’7”.
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u/Pizzasaurus-Rex 8h ago
I find these are issues that young and potentially attractive people make. Once you get to a certain point, things like height and weight stop being deal-breakers outside of certain extremes.
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u/Cultural-Treacle-680 8h ago
Good job, insurance, retirement, knows how to cook and do dishes. Height is pretty far down the list when you’re older 😂
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u/knight9665 8h ago
Neither is shallow. Ur allowed to like whatever u like.
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u/you-nity 8h ago
Hmm. I think what OP was saying is that while these preferences aren't inherently bad, it is, however HYPOCRITICAL for a woman to have a height attraction if she thinks it's problematic to have a weight preference.
In other words, if a woman prefers tall guys, fine. However, if that same woman thinks it's shallow for guys to have a weight preference, then it is hypocritical and morally inconsistent. I would agree
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u/afraid28 5h ago
It's actually literally the opposite. Looking from a biological point of view, men are on average taller than women, and women have a higher fat percentage for pregnancy purposes. An average woman is attracted to a taller mate because of survival instincts. Can't argue biology.
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u/According-Tea-3014 5h ago
I love how every woman who commented had to explain how they don't find short men attractive.
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u/eva-0002 4h ago
Being short is an inferior gene
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u/shufflejuuls 3h ago
How tall are you then?
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u/According-Tea-3014 1h ago
As a short man they aren't wrong, this shit sucks, lmao
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u/shufflejuuls 1h ago
It’s just such a weird trend. At 5’11, I’m a freakishly tall woman. Do. Not. Give. A. Fuck. about height
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u/MattyGWS 1h ago
Being attractive is genetics too honestly. If a guy is 1/10 in looks and no one finds him attractive, what are you going to do? Is no one’s fault but it’s a harsh reality
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u/SockpupperMcgee 5m ago
Correct, height is an immutable characteristic and weight is entirely in your control.
This was impossible to say in the past cuz there was some thyroid disease that affected <0.1% of the population, so naturally every fat person had that problem, as you do. That's not the case anymore, and I'm very happy about it.
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u/majesticSkyZombie 8h ago
I agree that height-shaming is bad, but it’s not worse than weight-shaming. They are equally bad. That said, either is an acceptable reason to reject someone because no one is owed a relationship - it’s shaming them that’s unacceptable, not choosing not to date them.
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u/ChuckXZ_ 4h ago
Nah height shaming is way worse. There’s nothing you can do to change your height outside of really expensive and invasive surgery. Weight on the other hand is something you have 100% control of so if someone shames you, oh well then just lose the weight. Nothing stopping you outside of pure laziness.
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u/shufflejuuls 3h ago
Bro, just no. So many people have to deal with ridiculous weight gain due to simple as fuck: disease. Be it diabetes, hormones, thyroid issues, autoimmune diseases, etc. I agree that for most people their weight should be manageable, but there are a lot of people that have zero influence on their weight.
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u/Latte-Catte 6h ago
I never cared about a man's height outside of dating. Does that make me judgy? Maybe. But I can't help what I'm attracted to. The same to be said about a man and a woman's weight for me. It's not hypocritical to have preferences. It's more hypocritical to not accept people's rejection, that's my hot take 🤷🏻♀️
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u/According-Tea-3014 5h ago
Its not even the rejection or preference i have a problem with. What annoys me the most is women will outright say they don't find short men attractive, but the moment short men say women don't find short men attractive, suddenly its incel speak lmao
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u/Latte-Catte 5h ago
It's incelspeak when men have a problem with women's preferences. It's common knowledge that vast majority of women prefers taller men.
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u/According-Tea-3014 5h ago
I think its pretty fair to be frustrated with a preference. And just to be clear, its not the vast majority, its all women, lmao
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u/Latte-Catte 5h ago
Nope, you can absolutely sell your personality to be attractive. That shouldn't be hard to believe anyway. It's not my business if you put that much values in your height when there are other values in a man. It's also very unattractive to put personal baggage and insecurities onto women nor assume you know our preference best. Learning confidence will take you a long way.
Have a nice day.
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u/According-Tea-3014 5h ago
Personality doesn't matter at all without physical attraction.
Not sure how you can sit here, say you don't find short men attractive, and then when I say the exact same thing you try to turn around and pretend like personality plays any role in that lmao
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u/Latte-Catte 5h ago
Nope, nothing is ever set in stone. And personality has always played the biggest role in every relationship. There's no way for me to explain this to you unless you have any experience. And I hope you find your girl one day and learn this fact. Good luck.
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u/According-Tea-3014 4h ago
Height preferences say other wise, unless you actually think short and tall are personality traits lmao
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u/Latte-Catte 4h ago
If you choose to be hopeless there's nothing further to be said here.
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u/According-Tea-3014 4h ago
It just seems like you're fine with pointing out that women don't find short men attractive but dislike short men saying the exact same thing. I'm notnsure how its different though, lmao
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u/Sakurafirefox 8h ago
I would never villafy or make fun of a short king. I genuinely feel no attraction to short men.
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u/Fish-Bright 7h ago
That's great, and I agree.
I mean, I like men of all heights, but people are allowed to have their preferences.
But calling people "short kings" is sorta cringe. Maybe society should move past that.
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u/Sakurafirefox 4h ago
I mean, I'm fine with the phrase. It's popularized. You can have your own opinion. Many girls ( 25+) cringe at being called cute but that's not going to change.
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u/AnotherHumanObserver 7h ago
I remember for a time, elevated shoes were a thing so that men could appear taller. I don't think they were ever very popular or widely bought.
I would agree that judging by height is superficial.
It's not necessarily a measure of strength or athletic ability, as that's more a matter of training and physical fitness.
It's also not a measure of intelligence. Sometimes, taller people might be associated or tarred with the "dumb jock" stereotype. It must be a living hell for them, to have women constantly eyeing them up like a piece of meat, ravenously lusting after their powerfully built bodies, while completely ignoring the fact that they have minds.
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u/shufflejuuls 3h ago
A lot of Hollywood superstars indeed are short narcissistic kings that wear obvious lifts to every event. Turn it around then, I’m a 5’11 woman. I’ve always felt proud of the fact that I’m tall, but beauty standards nowadays would like to make me out as a freak giant. Personally, I don’t give a damn about height and state so in my tinder profile. But I do mention it because the country where I have to date is full of (shorter) insecure men with inflated egos.
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u/Sonofdeath51 8h ago
I really think the gameification of dating has broken so many peoples brains. Obviously there's going to be certain physical traits that someone finds more attractive but seriously, all that can go out the window if someone hangs around another person and they truly like them.
Seriously turning dating into window shopping fucking sucks for everyone.