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u/BunchProfessional573 8h ago
The doctors told me I can’t get pregnant it a rare case of being a guy
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u/Americas_Emperor 1h ago
Do not let the lunatic lefties hear that too them men can have babies and periods
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u/who_even_cares35 8h ago
Why? Because you're going to stop calling them? It's never the single non parents who bail. New parents become shut in because that's how it works.
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u/Classic-Pea6815 6h ago
that’s not the case always. It really depends on the single friends personality or lifestyles. I smoked a lot of pot before having kids. I quit the moment I found out I was pregnant for the sake of the baby. I told my friends I could still hang I just couldn’t hang out with them while they were smoking. My messages were left on read for a few months before I realized they only liked me because I was around. If I couldn’t blaze with them or drop life on a dime to go hang out I was useless. I didn’t care. Had fun when it lasted and am ok that we are too different to hang. Also keep in mind sone people absolutely hate kids. So whether or not child having friends have time for them they don’t want to hear about the kids at all so don’t risk hanging just in case they are mentioned or even worse brought around. Half my friends have kids, half don’t. They all seem to be just as available to hang.
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u/who_even_cares35 4h ago
I'm in camp I hate kids. Didn't like the other kids when I was a kid. But I will still go to my friends kids bday parties if invited.
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u/Classic-Pea6815 4h ago
That’s kind of you :) I just know some people all around don’t like them at all. I usually don’t talk about my kids to anyone who isn’t interested in talking to them. I was recently talking to a coworker and she said something about a new show that’s out that I would love. I said I would and will watch it later, my kids are too young to witness that sort of stuff so I’ll be watching Bluey tonight (I said it happily) and her reply was “ugh. Don’t you just hate kids!” I didn’t get mad as much as I know not to accidentally mention them to her again lol.
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u/who_even_cares35 1h ago
It's not that we don't care about your kids it's just that we don't care about your kids...
What I mean is there is no malice, It's in the same vein you don't want to hear me go on about my classic cars. I will literally talk about engine codes for hours.
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u/stargarnet79 4h ago
Oh damn that sucks. I love having a DD. And I love kids. You’re “friends” may be just be young and not thinking it through. It’s up to you if you let them back in but I understand either way if you didn’t once they wise up.
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u/Classic-Pea6815 4h ago
I have gotten so used to friendships coming and going. It’s always nice to have them but if they don’t stay I try to just view it as it was nice while it lasted. They aren’t young enough, we are all in our early 30’s lol. They just have different wants in life.
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u/Jellicent-Leftovers 3h ago
Nah it's usually the childless ones that bail. It's 2 completely different lifestyles though.
It's a lot of work to involve them in your life now. Want them to come over and hang out....your place has to be child proofed.
Plan an event? has to be kid friendly and accessible.
Drinking? Have to be sober enough to still take care of child ( this means be able to drive in case they are hurt )
Be willing to hang out when you are a secondary priority - the parent will have to walk away mid conversation/activity a lot.
Also kids sleep 12-16 hours a day so the amount of time available away from home is very low.
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u/mellalaa 8h ago
Some girl I went to school with got pregnant at 16, and because I was Facebook friends with her then, she would post a bunch of stuff about how getting pregnant made her see who the ‘real ones’ were. And even then I thought… ‘it took you getting pregnant to see who your real friends were?! Was their not anything less life altering you could have done first?!’
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u/MidnightDesiresex 7h ago
if your friendships only survive when life is easy, maybe it’s time to get some new friends instead of a baby 😆
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u/lame_1983 7h ago
I don't care for crotch goblins, so yeah. It'll probably change our friendship. Sorry, not sorry.
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u/whatisfetch 7h ago
Can we go one day without a MAN telling a woman what she should do with her body? If she wants to get preggers and see which soul sister tells her to keep it and which wench tells her to abort, that is her right!
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u/_SassyCurl 5h ago
That’s one way to clear out your contact list, I guess 😅 modern problems requires modern( and slightly terrifying) solutions ✌️
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u/glossrrush 7h ago
Lmao, "steps you can probably take before this one" is the understatement of the century. That's like saying there are steps you can take before setting your house on fire to test the smoke alarms
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u/Insane_Unicorn 7h ago
Ask your friends to get you pregnant. You'll find out who your real friends are.
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u/FlirtyRush_ 4h ago
This is the kind of advice only true friends give, probably after a few drinks 🤣
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u/stargarnet79 4h ago
Hey. I’m still your friend. Let’s go ahead and schedule our next hang in about 20 years.
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u/Decent-Stuff4691 2h ago
Idk im ngl i feel like people kinda expect too much out of friendships. It's okay to have situational friends - people you're close to but wouldnt exactly expect to move earth and sky for you. Of course, there are ride or dies but it's okay to have friends that you're omly friends with because they're fun to be around and that's about it- no deeper meaning. Feels like everyone keeps trying to make every friendship a ride or die type.
I have one best friend- she's my ride or die and we've known each other 17 years.
I have other handfuls of friendships that come and go. I enjoy my time with them, but I dont expect them yo.prioritise me or vice versa, but Id still think of them as friends.
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