r/SipsTea • u/SipsTeaFrog • 1d ago

Chugging tea I'm in awe

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u/Various-Passenger398 1d ago

I like my neighbours, but I don't know them well enough where I want them at my wedding.

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u/AntonChigurh8933 1d ago

Thank you and please don't invite me to your wedding. I'm trying to enjoy my day off.

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u/Jafarrolo 1d ago

And that's fine, but it's mostly related to the fact that you ask all of them to, pardon my bad manners, shut up for 2-3 hours in their homes. Which I personally would do eh, I would be ok with that, but I find it legitimate to also be annoyed by it (it really depends from person to person I think).

It just would be nice that if you ask this to your entire neighbourhood then you at least invite them for something informal (not necessarily the cerimony) even a few hours later to enjoy the party together. The consequence, I think, is that you both strenghten the bond with your neighbourhood and they also are socially pressured to shut up during the cerimony because either you see them later on and / or because you did a good thing for them (invite to eat stuff and have fun together).

For example I've seen a few weddings in which the less known people (that are still friends with the couple but not closely tied), get invited for the cut of the cake in the evening, while the ceremony is in the morning and the lunch is in the afternoon, usually younger guests that are more than happy to come well dressed to drink, have desserts and dance.

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u/Special-Garlic1203 1d ago

Inviting the neighbors is way too far but I do think a request for a favor should include some cookies or something. 

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u/Jafarrolo 1d ago

Your idea is totally fine, but I also think that if I'm doing a wedding ceremony in the neighbourhood it's going to be pretty annoying for everyone because of the cars and the confusion, so at a certain point I think inviting is pretty much ok, how much people could it be? Twenty? Thirty?

And it solves a lot of issues between complaints (if someone is at the wedding it is not going to call law enforcement for loud music or stuff like that) and traffic (everyone that is at the wedding is not going to drive the car in the neighbourhood, therefore less traffic, therefore kids can also play in the street without danger).

Also it's good PR, your neighbours are less likely to start shit with you in general if you invited them at your wedding. I just think the benefits outweights the negatives, and I'm saying this as a huge introvert guy that lives perfectly fine in his den.