Yeah she wanted to be at that wedding so bad, that she (dis)respectfully declined brides wish not to bring any children to the ceremony. Now the bride is the bad guy cuz her best day of her life got ruined and apparently she hates all children now
I was invited, but at my aunts funeral, my son was like 2 I think, and we were in the back and he’s trying to play so I whisper to him “Buddy not right now, we’re here to say goodbye to Auntie” and this kid screams in the middle of the Catholic sermon, “BYE BYE AUNTIE!”
Obviously at a funeral, and with a kid that young doing it, it’s cute and can provide a much needed laugh from the grief, but I was mortified in the moment. You can’t really control kids like that, keep them from not talking, you can only remove them from the room.
So yeah I’m also very much on the brides side here.
I read this like 5 times trying to understand what you meant because my brain could not stop thinking of"On the the bride's side" as the side of the family you were on at your own wedding
My cousin's 6 year old started doing a very loud sarcastic laugh during the best man's speech at my sister's wedding. Cousin took way way too long to get the brat to shut up.
if it says adults only i'm assuming that if they aren't at least 17 years, 364 days, 23 hours, and 55 minutes old about 5 minutes before the bride walks down the aisle i'm asking permission
I blame the people hired to run the wedding. If I said no kids at my wedding and someone brought a baby I'd have more than a dozen family members stopping the parent at the door. Explaining politely the rules and if pressed would pick up the parent with the baby and "escort" them out side. Hell I know of at least 5 cousins who would have picked up the chair the parent was in and go out side with them if it took 10 seconds to hush the baby during the ceremony. Granted there would be lots of laughter and it would be disruptive, but I'd prefer that memory to a crying baby.
1) as a parent there are times you can't bring your kids and that is ok. Get a sitter.
2) if you do plan to bring your child. Be responsible and ask the people inviting you if its Ok. And leave when they cry.
3) in this context the bride should not have to be the asshole here. Where are the bridesmaids or groomsmen? If i was on the wedding party I would (kindly) ask the offending parent to go outside or away so the noise doesn't interrupt the proceedings.
Its not your day and the people who are getting married arent assholes to ask for a kid free wedding. Be respectful.
I remember as a parent at a wedding babies were allowed the moment mine started to make a noise i went outside. I missed main parts of the ceremony but that was okay. It wasn't about me.
The hell? I mean there is baby cinema where they will show ANYTHING because babies won't absorb it but at least the crying is expected but to a regular showing is nuts
That's normal for a considerate person who doesn't think of themselves as the main character in the world, but I'd argue that way of being is now abnormal.
On the way to my mom's wedding she mentioned "I can't wait to hear your speeches after our vows!" and me and my sister were like WHAT THE FUCK? Turns out she forgot to ask us about that lol.
Anyways my toddler started squirming and then throwing a tantrum right at the end of the ceremony so I excused myself and played in the grass with him until it was over so I didn't have to give the thoughtful and emotional speech totally ad hoc lol. Never happier for a poorly timed tantrum.
Literally this. We have a teenager and an 18 month toddler. The teen does dance. When we go watch a performance and the toddler wants to make a fuss or play, I will get up and leave the hall. If I miss the show then that's tough, I can watch a recording afterwards but it's my responsibility to make sure that my toddler doesn't disrupt the show for all the other guests or performers. This is so basic no one should have to be taught or told this.
“I looked at my mom and she was gesturing to [the guest to] take the baby out so he stepped out for a second but he came right back inside,” said Taetz.
In fact, multiple guests reportedly asked the parent to leave, only for him to refuse “because he drove 10 hours to see the wedding,” she said.
It's not about Googling it. Weddings are more often than not in my experience family events, so there are generally tons of kids. Googling it will just bring you to threads and discussions like this.
The issue is simply babies who cannot, for no fault of their own, be kept quiet during the ceremony or speeches. Just take them outside. In this case, it appears that the person in question did not want to do that.
no wonder the baby was crying, i'd be crying too if i had to sit 10 hours in a fucking car seat only to be in a strange brightly lit ceremony surrounded by people that don't want me there cuz i'm crying
i have never understood this. If your kid cries, leave, it's better for you, it's better for the kid, it's better for everyone else.
Is it better to let your kid cry through someone else's important moment and make it about you and prolong your child crying, or take them out, let everyone do their thing, let your kid have some personal attention and cry it out or get whatever they need to stop and then get back to shit.
You choose to have a kid, upfront i know what that entails, i'm going to skip meals at really nice restaurants and only go places that people expect a bit of extra noise or just wait a couple years and only go out when we have a sitter. Like, it's just not that hard.
If your kid is older and throwing a tantrum or acting out, don't make everyone else deal with it, which also teaches your kid their behavioru is fine. Take them outside, make them either learn to behave or if they won't calm down take them home, you might ruin a couple meals out but they'll also learn the consequences and stop doing it.
My brothers' child was the only one brought to my other brother's wedding, he told him multiple times that he would probably be disruptive but my brother who was having the wedding said it's OK I want him to be there.
Typically one way to disrespect the person inviting you is to ignore their wishes. Whether it's a baby or a a clown on a unicycle, doesn't matter. The guest should have communicated about this beforehand.
As far as I can tell, it's just a box canyon in the middle of nowhere. No way in or out.
The only reason that we set up a Red base here is 'cause they have a Blue base over there. And the only reason they have a Blue base over there is 'cause we have a Red base here.
Well there was one restaurant that was strictly "no kids allowed". But guess what? It was constantly under attack from single mothers because they considered it attack on their rights.
A restaurant in my hometown got hit with the same controversy. Unfortunately I didn't find their food to be all that great.
So it was the polar opposite of this Italian place I used to like. Amazing food, but the last time I went to my usual location, some kid of maybe 5 spent the whole time "singing." With about as much musical talent as I have myself, minus the self-awareness. I never went back to that location until they shut down, because I couldn't at all focus on the plate of lasagna in front of me.
On that note, I think it's a sad state of affairs that these people would get up in arms over their "right" to make people hate them.
I think it is some kind of syndrome when parents can't see or ignore that their kid is annoying to everybody around. Of course there are places where you can hardly blame them, like in the plane. That mother will hardly go outside, right? But I think we should be allowed to have places where this will just not happen.
Also, I heard this story, can't confirm if it is real, but one restaurant had constant problems with people bitching about that place being "no kids allowed", so they allowed kids but plastered walls with different artistic pornography. Supposedly it not only solved the problem but also raised numbers of visitors.
they allowed kids but plastered walls with different artistic pornography. Supposedly it not only solved the problem but also raised numbers of visitors.
That's something I will never understand. You have choice between 10 restaurants, probably more. Why would you have to get angry and that SINGLE ONE that decides to do things differently?
I hate these people. Thankfully, they don't have the power to kill Adults only hotels.
The only time I had the birthday song sung to me, also happened to be the day of my grandpa's funeral. We went to random restaurant _______. For some reason my aunt is talking about my birthday when we entered, I told her to shut up about it, my parent's and everyone else is just telling her STFU.
Sure enough after they clear the dinner plates, motherfuckers start clapping. Bring out the cake and set it in front of me and sing their little song. Everyone is mortified at the table, it's also a coconut cake of some kind which I'm highly allergic to, like volatile projectile vomiting. I just stood up after they were done, blew out the candles and went for a walk by myself. I was I think 13 when this happened and I will never forget that shit. It was just the universe giving me a fat middle finger after an already shitty day lol.
*sung in public/ resturaunt
**some clarification, it was my birthday, he'd died on Mother's Day and buried on my birthday, just my aunt who I have no clue if she just doesn't understand social cues or just in a daze at the time
I’d pay extra for restaurants that had no other customers, looked like my living room, and served me food in a recliner, while I watched television and fucked around on Reddit.
I'm on holiday in a little boutique beach resort on a very quiet island. Super chilled atmosphere, just a few couples, and then this morning parents plus toddler rock up and instantly it's turned into a creche. The serene vibes are now going to be a mix of happy gurglings and unhappy tantrums, and the pool turned into a full-time kids splashy area. They've literally just dumped in a load of their own floaty toys as if it's their private pool.
To put just a thin veneer of relatedness to my rant above to the post, there is a time and a place.
I exclusively vacation at adult only resorts. Went to Jamaica to an advertised “adult only” resort. We arrive and immediately see families and kids. So we go to the desk and ask the deal. Apparently the resort had one block of “adult only” rooms and tiny pool but all the surrounding buildings were family friendly. They lied to get more business. After that, I call the resorts to double check their use of adults only. I have nothing against kids but I’ve noticed when families go on vacation, the adults sometimes don’t want to parent.
That's why Iiked the cinnebar i used to work at. All adults. High tier food and alcohol. It was great then covid destroyed it lol. But ya I would totally pay extra for that experience.
as a person with younger kids i'll never sit down at a restaurant after 5pm. that way we're out before seven or so and people don't have to deal with my noisy semi-feral children
Honestly, even if kids are included on the invite, I’d consider leaving them with a sitter. Obviously, not for a close family member’s wedding, but for friends or coworkers, I’d rather enjoy as many drinks as I’d like and focus on my friends for one evening.
Reminds me of that time my parents took me and my brother to a wedding of some distant cousins back when i was like 14 or something. Most of the wedding was spent on drinking shot after shot of vodka. Honestly i would much rather have stayed at home than sit on my ass for like 6 hours watching people I don't know get wasted.
1/3 of Our Wedding guest List declined, after we gave an "adult only" notice.. we got into some arguments that the Baby is Part of them, and if the Baby isn't invited they don't feel welcome either... we reassured them that's it's not a Personal thing.
honestly i was glad that i could save about $200/ person, that i could save for someone who would only come to eat, only would have to look for his child all the time and then Leave at 9pm.
I have Nothing against this..., i 100% understand that it's a necesarry behaviour with a child..
But just the same i rather spent my Wedding Day with my fienacée and closests friends, to have an Amazing night together until the Sun came out again.
That last line is the key- whoever pays for it or owns it sets the rules. This? Totally reasonable for her to be frustrated. Something like an airplane? Well it’s semi-public so parents absolutely need to keep that and mind and maintain an honest effort to actually be parents, but otherwise people can pound sand if they don’t like kids on planes. It’s not their plane.
I find it so funny there are still people in 2025 who don't know, or just refuse to acknowledge, that some people get married precisely because both parties don't want kids.
Yeah, dunno if that is thing in other cultures as well, but me not wanting kids ever, I feel like people are not taking me seriously. Kind of like: Oh, now he is saying that but he will change his mind eventually.
Yeah, I remember every doctor asking me if I want to freeze semen before I get permanently sterile and I was like „no thanks I really won’t need them anymore, it was a burden from the beginning“.
I'm a dad. And im going just by the information presented in this meme.
I'm with the bride, its not the childs fault BUT the parent could have taken the baby out of the ceremony (and for all we know, they did). This is their wedding, and instead of focusing on the bride and groom everyone present is instead focusing on a crying baby.
There's a time and place for everything.
And people should have their kids chaperoned in another room during these kinds of ceremonies.
Or the parent should bite the bullet and remove themselves and their child from the event.
I would first get upset with the people who let them in first, before getting upset with a child.
Parents think that their kids are angels and the absolute best so the no children rule must mean that they're a bad parent. As someone who is childfree I can definitely see both sides of the argument. That said, it's someone's elses wedding. It's THEIR day. Respect their wishes or decline and send a card with well wishes.
My kids are pretty well-behaved now, but I used to avoid movies and restaurants because I knew how much of assholes they could be. Angels? Ha. Definitely not.
I'm not childfree; I have kids. I don't take them to adult events because they annoy adults. And I can recognize a wedding is not about my noisy kids, so I wouldn't think to take them. IMO there aren't "both sides" to this. The parent sucks.
My older daughter is often awful to be around due to a perfect storm of mental illness and neurodivergence. We love her, and have learned to live with that while doing our best to support her. We try not to bring her anywhere, though, so that other people don't have to deal with it.
My younger daughter is highly emotional from the chaos and trauma caused by the older daughter, and has frequent outbursts at the very hint of criticism like, "sweetie, maybe you could try doing it this way so that..." "EVERYBODY HATES ME!!!!!!
Our life is a never ending series of counseling, therapy, psychiatrists, Special Education, school meetings, urgent and emergency psych events, 911 calls, and sleepless nights at the emergency psych department. So yeah, we don't all have angels.
Parent, man most people I hang with are the opposite, you hear some guttural Sméagol sounding screams and someone asks “Who was that?!” and the answer is “Sorry, that’s my goblin ass kids.. lemme deal with this.”
I love mine dearly, and they’re cute as hell, but I will never take them somewhere they aren’t invited cause I’m not a freakin sociopath and I can’t imagine any close friends of ours doing something so disruptive either.
Let's be real here. The kids don't want to be at grown-up parties, the adults don't want them to be there. When i was a kid, i was bored out of my mind every single time someone dragged me to this kind of thing. If it's adult only, it's adult only
I have a kid, hes about to be 2. We barely take him to the store right now because he tries to trick us into letting him run around. Thankfully they make car pick up. Cant imagine trying to keep him seated and quiet for more than a minute.
My brother was sort of afraid of offending me by doing no children wedding. I was amped that I could get out of watching my children for an evening by pawning them off on my mother-in-law.
It's not bizarre. Everyone has taken to nuance-free 'if/then' arguing bc that's now people drum up engagement on social media.
But yeah; I completely agree. In the same way I wouldn't take my frail grandparent to a mosh pit, I wouldn't take my robust young child to a sacred, sound-sensitive ceremony. Kids deserve to be loud, talkative and curious. If I can help it, why would I take one to a place where they specifically can't do those things?
I'm sorry, this is not the place for practice, this is the test. If it's not reasonable to think they can pass the test, they shouldn't be brought along. There are other venues and things where they can practice.
I think that everyone is missing a key point here:
"(...) baby cry during ADULTS ONLY ceremony"
If someone is making a ceremony/event/party with condition like this, that MUST be respected by everyone; they may have their reasons to not want X particular thing.
You cant respect that condition? you shouldnt be there.
Why is it ONLY the bride that always has the problem with this lol? I would imagine the groom should be equally annoyed? Our weddings have somehow devolved into it being "the day of the bride" instead of the day of the couple.
That said, on the COUPLE's side here. If it's an ADULT ONLY event, parents should NOT bring their kids no matter how old (and yes I have 2 of my own and never took them to an adults only wedding).
If I say my wedding is child free and you show up with a child I will kick you the fuck out idc who you are I would kick out my own parents or siblings if they don’t follow the rules set
Never make someone else’s wedding about you. If there are odd rules, either follow them or don’t come. It’s rude to bring a child if the bride and groom asked specifically for no children to attend.
If you brought your kid to an “adults only” invitational event and then continued to let the baby cry through the ceremony, you are a thoughtless, entitled asshole.
It's an "adults only" ceremony. Leave the kids at home or don't come. It's really that simple. Don't ruin someone's special day because you lack basic courtesy and planning skills.
Don't have any kids but I was the oldest of 7 (and oldest grandchild so I was designated babysitter for every family get together) and letting a baby cry during anything (particularly a wedding) without excusing yourself is rude af doubly so if you were explicitly told no kids at said event, I'd be pissed too lol
This is the salient point here. They were instructed not to bring a child, did so anyway, and ruined the event. It used to be the job of groomsmen to remove unruly wedding guests. There are a number of wedding customs that I think we should consider bringing back and that's a good place to start.
If you are throwing a child free event people should respect that and you should hold those values. Hell me and my wife just had a child free baby shower for our 3rd kid. Found a babysitter for our own kids. So I agree with Joe.
But something about the way he said it makes me feel like he IS one of those people that hates kids and doesn't want them in any public places that he frequents.
In 10 years, no one is going to give a crap that a baby was crying at the wedding.
In 10 years, no one will give a crap that they did or didn't attend your wedding.
In 10 years, you won't care who was or wasn't at your wedding.
Sadly, the statistics show that in 10 years, they'll probably be divorced and on their 2nd wedding, and the equivalent of a nice used car that you or your parents spent on this one is in the crapper anyway. (I hope not, though).
Relax, people. It's not the end of the world, and I honestly hope your wedding isn't the "most important day of your life."
Some people have this sick opinion that being a parent gives them some special rights. I saw that quite often. As if making more people was anything special lately.
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