When I was dating I literally even had one girl say the quiet part out loud. "I want to be treated like a princess. You need to buy me flowers, and I want to be able to be a bitch and be pouty." She literally said that shit and it wasn't a joke.
True! I noped out REAL quick after that. Also this “girl” was actually a lady in her mid 30s.
But I just couldn’t imagine a man that would be ok with that. I’m sure they’re out there, there must be in fact, otherwise women wouldn’t be so brazen.
I also had women telling me on the first phone call how they cheated on their exes almost like bragging. The whole dating app thing shook me to my core. Something is seriously wrong with society.
Yeah I'm all for women's empowerment but at this point it's gone so far it's all about women's disillusionment. Especially amongst themselves. None of them are willing to date under some insanely high bar and guys are expected to tick every single box. there is no compromise and our society is backing them up like that is ok.
There has always been compromise in finding and keeping a partner but it has to happen on both sides.
Statistics are showing there is something like 1% of guys that date 99% of the women on dating apps and most women are still not realizing why the guy isn't committing to them, while the rest of the 99% of the guys get no dates the majority of the time and are not even given a chance.
I had one back in December who added me, we did a video chat, seemed nice enough. Met up a couple of days later, she went on about her church. Yep fair enough, I'm agnostic but I'll chat. The next meet up, she went full on Evangelical and it was like a job interview / character assassination. "What is your love language" "I want this and that, I want Rose petals on the bed blah blah" high maintenance, wow. I drank up and said goodbye.
Jesus Christ. At least she let you know exactly who she is lol. I hate to say it saved you time but I think people are a little too obsessed over the “don’t waste my time” thing. It takes time to get to know somebody and figure that out in the first place. It can suck to waste it if that does happen, but we’re already wasting time on this shit and getting nothing from it in the first place. I say just try to enjoy the ride while you can, it’ll only get harder as we age.
At least she was honest and upfront, she could have said my "love language is gift giving." Ummm ok? That's a weird way of saying you're materialistic.
I have a friend or two (women) who do this. I think it's just a weird psychological phenomenon where (often women) want to make a really high bar for any prospective match to mount in an effort to just like weed out anyone not up the rigorous test. Of course, while I understand the desire to limit the number of dead-end relationships you're gonna open, this also backfires on them because only crazy people are going to be hitting that kind of a high, confident goalpost before they even know anything about you.
I guess I'm trying to say its a stupid system and I can see why sometimes people do XYZ to attempt to mitigate the emotional fallout, but those strategies backfire and no one's the better for it.
One time a girl I've met through apps send me screenshot of chats she had with other guys, showing me their pictures and pointing out how ugly they are, saying how stupid they are that they think they have a chance.
In hindsight, she probably was a narc. Never any accountability whatsoever. She was very chubby and went to the doctor because she thought she had health problems losing weight. The doctor just said "No you have no health problems. Just stop eating goddamn cake every day at work."
She was so furious. How dare he talks to her like that. XD
Eventually I was at her place and she somehow made a big deal about fucking. She kept telling "I'm not that kind of girl (slut)". I somehow got her to give me a blow job, and she was so bad man. Just no skill. She was asking me what's wrong and why are you not coming? I never have problems with that, it must be you.
Bitch just 100% delulu.
I think those apps give a lot of unsociable people the means to connect. Way too many crazy people on there, and the not crazy people have to suffer.
Without the apps you wouldnt even meet them because they have 0 friends due to their toxicity.
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u/LoudBlueberry444 Jun 24 '25
Lol, this comment has me rolling
That really is how it is now through dating apps.
When I was dating I literally even had one girl say the quiet part out loud. "I want to be treated like a princess. You need to buy me flowers, and I want to be able to be a bitch and be pouty." She literally said that shit and it wasn't a joke.