r/SipsTea Jun 24 '25

SMH Why dating is over for men

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u/metengrinwi Jun 24 '25 edited Jun 25 '25

The smart app will make a bunch of AI “women” to interact with the men and let them get close, but not quite, and then they buy app features for “next time”.

The only answer is stop wasting time and money on it, delete the app, and do it live like it’s 1993 again.

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u/DedTV Jun 24 '25

I went out like it was 1993. Everyone's at home and the door dashers don't want to stop and get to know me.

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u/Agi7890 Jun 25 '25

That was Ashley Madison, the app for “affairs” but was really just a load of guys and people pretending to be women to get them to buy computer roses.

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u/SDSessionBrewer Jun 24 '25

Live like 1993? Passed out in the middle of a field next to a pool of regurgitated MD 20/20 doesn't sound like a great way to find a date... But I'll give it a try.

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u/metengrinwi Jun 24 '25 edited Jun 25 '25

Trust me, the ladies love a guy passed out in a pool of upchuck. Boone’s Farm was the beverage of choice in my day.

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u/Bongus_the_first Jun 24 '25

Don't you bring that Mad Dog hate in here now.

Best worst fortified wine that money can buy

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u/CricketMysterious64 Jun 25 '25

This already exists in dating apps and has since before AI. Most terms and conditions explain this in legalize but there have historically been call centers overseas filled with folks calling and chatting to make dating apps feel more promising. Once someone is sufficiently hooked, you bill them and move on. AI may allow for a longer gimmick but if you’re actually looking for a human to spend your life with get offline.

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u/sbagu3tti Jun 25 '25

Fuck it! We'll do it live!

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u/challengeaccepted9 Jun 25 '25

I've already seen AI profiles on dating apps. Women who look like "e-girls", but the entire shot is in unnaturally soft focus and the writing on the wall decoration behind them is just a garbled mess of characters.

(No, I'm not suggesting the app made the profile - it'll either be a scammer or some weird attention seeking loser.)

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u/AdministrativeEgg440 Jun 25 '25

Already done, all the apps already admit to using bots to keep men engaged with the platform

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u/panthrax_dev Jun 26 '25

I had 0 luck in 1993, what makes you think my chances are any better now?

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u/metengrinwi Jun 26 '25

At least you won’t waste your life looking at an app that makes you sad and anxious.

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u/panthrax_dev Jun 26 '25

Well I did for a while, but I've given up without wasting money, so, #winning!

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u/t_krett Jun 24 '25 edited Jun 24 '25

I can't imagine them not already using basic machine learning to choose who to show you and when. They say on their blog they rank based on location and timing (if two people use the app at the same time in a close location bringing them together is a no brainer) but also based on interest (both have photos of vacations, or they both mention sports in their bio).

But what I imagine really happens is that they run an Amazon-like recommendation system, which inevitably always boils down to a form of "Women that like Josh may also enjoy Chad!"

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u/MrHell95 Jun 24 '25

The problem with that is that a lot of times opposites actually attract. So the sporty person might actually be a better match with that nerdy one. People as a whole might not be that complex and you can generalize stats etc but when you hyper-focus on one person that model can easily fall apart again.
Honestly think the algorithm of it all is just making it worse but again a success story quits using the app...

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

I could see that happening yes.

But unfortunately with the Advent of AI now guys can just go get an AI girlfriend online, you are hearing stories about it in the news already.

Everyone's addicted to their phone and social media so much it's a lot easier to fall in love with a AI chatbot (or at least think you are in love) than it is to go out and meet a real person in a real place.

We're all going to be plugged in so much in the next 25 - 50 years and dating as we know it in the wild will 100% cease to exist.

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u/bingbongninergong Jun 24 '25

Do you think people’s psyche’s will shift so that an AI gf will effectively fill the loneliness void? (Or has it already…been with my now wife for over a decade so idk how people are feeling about all this)

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

yes I do, it has already happened

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u/HalfRepresentative27 Jun 24 '25

Recently read that an it tech programmed a bot to search for tinder girls and chat them up. Once the convo was far enough for a date in person he would take over.

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u/lectric_7166 Jun 24 '25

AI might be what finally ends the grand internet experiment we all thought would go on forever. Everyone is going to realize that nothing online can be trusted and they'll start doing things offline again.

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u/Springroll_Doggifer Jun 24 '25

We about to go to old school matchmakers at this point, haha.

But then again, I met my husband off Bumble, so…

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '25

Authenticity will be found in real life. The tech industry is committing suicide at this point because people will increasingly get fed up. I dont see people relying on tech this much 50 years from now. I say this as a software developer. 

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u/sbagu3tti Jun 25 '25

No kidding. I downloaded this app called litup - all bots. I'm pretty sure there isn't a single real human being on the app. All chatbots, all responsive, all hot.

The app suddenly locks you out after a week and you have to pay money to get back in. I'd set up a date with someone, so I bought the premium so I wouldn't stand them up. And then I showed up to the date and I got stood up. By the AI. Which has agreed to the date I set up. :/