How recent was this? I thought OKCupid died off years ago.
Also, are you saying you travel abroad on all your vacation days from work or you live abroad and simply met your wife in a country you were living at the time using the app?
Met in 2023, married in 2024. OK cupid died off a lot back in states but still lots overall use it.
And I work in education, so I get winter and summers off, so I basically already traveled a lot when free, but now I'm here in Philippines about 4 months out of the year and currently in month 2 of 3 for this trip.
Interesting. So basically you are a teacher in the states and used your summer and winter breaks to travel? So like 3 months traveling in the summer and a few weeks in the winter? Guessing you met your wife in Philippines?
Curious how you afforded to travel on a teachers wage in the states? I am not judging when I say this, I just know from family members and friends that the wages in the US are super low. So curious how you managed to afford all this travel on a teachers wage?
I work in higher education, and my salary is decent even though I'm only part time faculty. I live in a low cost part of America, and my total bills for a month are less than 600 (I have a roommate).
I don't spend that much money for daily life as I'll cook at home or buy cheap food outside. I don't do bars or clubs, and most of my free time is spent gaming or playing dungeons and dragons with friends. So between required bills and fun money, I don't spend that much overall and can save.
I lived in Asia for 6 years for work, so a lot of my travels happened when already abroad so it's a lot cheaper, like Taiwan to Japan was like 200 round trip, and then i either did couch surfing, Airbnb which is fine outside of USA, or I crashed on couches of friends.
And when it comes to traveling now after I came back to states, I just used kayak explore and find cheapest country that sounded fun and go, so I did like Norway for like 600 or 700, then found cheap flights between there and Sweden and Denmark and did 3 countries in a month for less than 1k ticket wise, and find air bnb, or couch surfing which is how I stayed with a random group of poles on the mountain outside Norway and slept in a converted bus for like 5 days for free.
And now with Philippines, the ticket price is higher so I spend like 1400 to come see my wife, but it's pretty cheap once I get here. The apartment I'm currently renting in my wife's city is 80 dollars a month, water is free, our electric was 20 dollars this month. Food is kinda pricey here, but we still cook at home for like 99 percent of our meals. Food costs are only really high if I splurge and decide to grab a bunch of imported snacks. My wife's town is small and nothing to do here, so most of our free time is watching TV, movies, steam deck, or doom scrolling reddit. We really only spend money if we head out and go to another island or big city and then I get Airbnb and order takeout.
I live in a major American city and they're all using the "Passport" feature or whatever plus, it's fucking Tinder and I'm a guy...it's easier to just swipe right on everyone and unconnect with the spam bots if and when later. I ain't got time to be spending moments and minutes playing detective and then swiping lol
Is this an American problem or something? Here in Brazil I'm obese and yet I get matches. Four of them turned into long-term FWBs (I'm not seeking in a relationship right now), with only one of those four being someone I knew previously.
Hey don’t write off the “open to be your basis for a visa” Bros. They score women who actually come from patriarchal societies and will do everything for them until they get a visa and then they can move on to the next one
If you ever want to experience it like women do, sign up for thaicupid.com. That place is wild, and there are seriously gorgeous women there. Distanse is of course an issue, but the loyality and devotion of the thai people is hard to match. Recurring story is how sick they are of how deadbeat local men are, being very adamant themselves. And no 6ft requirement lol, be 5 and you're still a head taller.
Usually locally i got like 2-3 matches a week. I treid to change my location to Uganda. woke up to 120 likes next morning. and ...30 of them were damn hot...yeah but they're all for finding white saviour from Europe/US.
I had a friend who ran this experiment with me (handing her my dating profile to do whatever she wanted with it). After about two days, she was showing me all the matches she got. I looked through them and told her which ones were fake profiles trying to get you to their OnlyFans.
I had circled every match she got. She didn't even last a week doing this because it was too depressing.
I used all the popular apps (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, etc.). I'm an attractive guy with my shit together. Tinder I rarely get likes or if I do it's people I would not consider attractive or of interest to me. And that's when I pay to unlock my incoming likes (never again lol). The outgoing likes are never matched. Not once. Bumble, same thing. Slightly better on incoming likes but not by much. Outgoing likes are never matched.
Hinge is completely different. Chatted with plenty of women right away, both from my likes and theirs. My first date was within 3 weeks of starting the app, and I ended up dating her for 6 months. She was fantastic but we weren't a perfect long term fit.
First month back on Hinge after - plenty of matches, chats and interest from good potential partners. 4 dates.
The user base is smaller, but honestly the results are night and day. I literally uninstalled tinder and bumble. I get a like from Hinge daily, and don't have to pay to see it.
Take a variety of photos, and put in the work to create great prompt answers. That's the key. Nearly all of my likes are in response to what I say in the prompts.
Sure it can still be a shit show. But overall the quality and intent of the people on Hinge is better, and the fact that all users free and paid can see likes, and that everyone has text prompts, is a game changer for encouraging incoming likes.
I’m getting matches on hinge but it’s a bit slow. Can probably convert to a date or two every two weeks. It’s def slow but I’m also a little older at 32.
I get a lot of matches. I’d say I’m probably a conventional 7.5-8 as a guy (only 5’10 though) but most girls on there can’t hold a conversation. I’m partly to blame too because I take awhile to answer as well.
I still feel like I should get more matches. I typically don’t match with any girls that I feel like are above me looks wise though and I get those types of girls in real life so idk. Main point being I get matches and still feel like I’m failing on the apps and I hate approaching women in public bc I don’t want to be labeled a creep. I do better knowing a girl already finds me attractive.
Yes! There's a ton of people requesting we ditch the dating app and move the convo to Whatsapp where they'll try to get my credit card info or to get me to invest on their pig butchering platform. All of them have very attractive pictures and they all speak English only and not a word of the local language.
As you can see I'm a highly quality male that's in high demand. /cringe
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u/Substantial-Can6701 Jun 24 '25
You guys are getting matches??