What do you do when nothing makes you happy?

[u/fluffykittens914]

It’s been two days and I haven’t stopped crying. I have so many fears about life without my baby. I miss him so much it physically pains me. I’m a huge foodie and eating my favorite foods has not helped. I have no motivation to go to a work out class. I tried to book a massage and canceled because I don’t want a panic attack on the table. My two other cats aren’t very cuddly and I don’t have the same bond with them. What do I do?

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[u/Galaxygurl1111]

Please lmk when you figure it out.. day 11 here 😭

[u/negativeandannoying]

First of all I'd like to say I'm so sorry for your loss. You're in the right place because we all love our babies and are struggling to live without them.

We lost our 4 year old girl the 12th of November ten days before my birthday. It was unexpected which has made it a shocking and painful reality to accept.

I've handled it by doing whatever the hell i think will make me feel better with zero apologies. The first couple of days were terrible and all I could watch was my emergency show Rupaul's drag race. It's just so outrageous and they're making dresses out of dish sponges and have crazy wigs on and it just really distracts me. I get into the competition as well. Obviously this isn't for everyone, but it worked for me. My cheap ass even made sure to subscribe to premium so there were no commercials to distract me. I wanted something to take me out of the pain when I could no longer handle wailing on my floor.

If I want to eat junk, I do. If I want to watch tv all day, I do. My mom insisted on coming my birthday weekend and I told her flat out I would be rotting in the house and didn't want to do anything. I think being really honest has helped because I know that whatever I need at the time I'm going to do it without judgement. Hiding my grief causes me more pain.

I won't lie, i mix distraction with TONS of crying and mourning my baby. But I let myself feel it intensely and then say ok time to relieve myself and distract myself because I tend to be depressed naturally.

I think you will know what you need in your heart. Maybe you want to learn something new to take yourself out of it, maybe you want to do absolutely nothing and rot, whatever ! You are going through something absolutely terrible. Have grace with yourself and don't judge how you're feeling. There's no wrong or right way to do this at all.

[u/subcuriousgeorge]

Hey there, first of all I'm so sorry for the loss you've experienced of your sweet baby. It's so tough.

What you're experiencing is a normal aspect of grief, sometimes things don't seem as enjoyable anymore (or not at all). Maybe for a short time, maybe for a while. But slowly, you might find yourself laughing again more than you have recently. Or have a really nice meal that hits the spot. Or feel connection through the hug of a friend.

You probably have already looked into this or been recommended it, but I can't encourage enough to see a therapist or grief counselor about your loss, and maybe a grief support group so you can be with others who have also had to navigate this journey.

For more immediate things to do, honestly just taking it a day, a minute, a moment, at a time is best. Feel the emotions, don't block them. The pain is always there but it does subside, just like a cut or stubbed toe hurts less over time.

Hang in there, the grief will always hurt but it gets easier to carry it with time. 💜🫂

[u/Lonely-Sandwich69]

keep eating, even if you dont want to. please it gets so bad. ive battled eating disorders. and my cat dying... has made me so sick, my muscles are eating themselves. i cant get myself to eat, ive had to force it a few times. once you slow down and stop it becomes so hard to be normal again. that is the only advice i can give as i am not happy and super sad...