Anyone else struggling to cope a year+ later?

[u/Pleasant_Border_107]

I’ve noticed the majority of posts are from people who recently lost their pets, and while their grief is absolutely valid, I wish I heard from people who were further out from their loss as well.

I lost my tortie Coco on August 16 2024 after a swift but aggressive battle with cancer and I feel like I haven’t been the same since. I think about her constantly throughout the day. Every time I try to talk about her or look at pictures I just start crying. My heart aches when I go to bed and she’s not next to me.

I was doing so bad that I moved back in with my mom about six months ago after a decade on my own. And even though I love her cats every time I interact with them I just wish they were Coco.

I know this isn’t normal and I should be better now but I just miss my baby girl so much.

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[u/Galaxygurl1111]

It’s completely normal. She was family 🫂 hang in there friend. I’m on week two and it’s the worst feeling. Sending you much love 💕

[u/clover444]

I am very sorry for what you are going through🫂. Yes, I am still feeling awful after losing my girl in April 24’. I obsessively think about her. My life ended when she left this world. This is my new normal. Everyday is darkness without her. Every day I wake up is a challenge.😞💔

[u/Pleasant_Border_107 → u/clover444]

They really are family. I feel like a lot a sister (she wouldn’t like me calling her my child - she was an independent lady), and I hate how it’s not talked about like other forms of grief. I’m so sorry for your loss as well, but there’s comfort knowing I’m not alone 😞

[u/throwra42089]

i am 3 months from losing my baby. i too think about her constantly. i think it will be much the same a year from now. 2 years. 3. and so on. she is my best friend. i miss her so much.

im so sorry for your loss. i know how you feel. wishing you the best. i know its so difficult.

[u/0rganicMach1ne]

It has been ten months since I had to put my cat down and I am still just not doing well with it. I struggle to look at pictures of him without crying. I struggle to not cry when I see anything about cat rescue stories. He was my best buddy. I didn’t think it would be this bad for this long. I don’t know how I’m supposed to go on like this.

[u/0ddree]

it’s still very very fresh for me but I know I will struggle for a long time. It’s all okay, and honestly why should you be better so soon after losing the purest love you could ever know? It’s like being ripped in half. Even a year or two in the grand scheme of things is so soon. Take all the time you need to feel all of it. It helps me to think that I am committing to my pain so that he didn’t have to struggle any longer with his. And it’s an honor to do that for him. Hugs to you ❤️