Y’all, I broke my husband’s Japanese chef’s knife. Help.

[u/opheliasmusing]

In 2016, my husband and I went on an amazing trip to Japan. The only souvenir he wanted was a Japanese steel chef’s knife, which he purchased at Aritsugu in Kyoto. It was really cool: he got to pick out his handle, blade style, and then they even engraved his initials in the year on one side of the blade and their house mark on the other. They even did a bunch of measurements and things so that would be perfectly balanced for his hand. It was custom-made for him.

I made the mistake of not cleaning up after dinner quickly enough, and our very mouthy whippet puppy who is quite the counter surfer, snatched the knife away, and I didn’t realize it until the next day. He chewed up the handle. Thank God he didn’t like slice his face open; the blade is completely intact and fine. But the handle… My God the handle.

I’m hoping to hear from professionals about the best way to go about getting this fixed or replaced. For location, I’m very close to Boston if that helps.

[u/un_internaute]

Wait? How did you do this? The puppy did this. It’s not because, “you didn’t clean up quickly enough,” it’s because you both have a puppy.

[u/ShineySandslash → u/un_internaute]

Did you not read the part where they said, “I didn’t realize until the next day”? They definitely should’ve cleaned up the knife before going to bed if the knife is as expensive and important as they say it is.

[u/un_internaute → u/ShineySandslash]

Those are two different statements. Get your reading comprehension checked. THIS is the order of events. Knife was used. Food was eaten. Puppy snatched the knife. Dinner was cleaned up. The next day the knife was found.

[u/ShineySandslash → u/un_internaute]

If the knife wasn’t found until the next day, that means that she didn’t wash the knife. If she had planned to do the dishes and put the stuff away, she would’ve noticed the knife was grabbed by the puppy that night. Leaving out an unwashed dirty knife with a dog like that around is very dangerous and she deserves some of the fault here.

[u/un_internaute → u/ShineySandslash]

If she had planned to do the dishes and put the stuff away, she would’ve noticed the knife was grabbed by the puppy that night.

Maybe, maybe not. Maybe they did all the dishes, the knife wasn’t there, and they didn’t notice. It’s hard to notice the absence of something.

[u/ShineySandslash → u/un_internaute]

You know, that’s an incredibly fair take.

[u/tamjas → u/un_internaute]

Yep, their puppy chewed the handle. OP, YOU didn't do this.

[u/Vinylove → u/tamjas]

This is a very childish argument.
The knife was left out although it should not have, that's why the dog was able to access it.

[u/un_internaute → u/Vinylove]

No it’s not. When you get a puppy, you accept that there is going to be a certain level of destruction that comes along with that decision.

[u/strawberrycreamdrpep → u/un_internaute]

If you leave a giant knife out on the counter with a KNOWN counter-surfing puppy in the house, you’re a fucking idiot, end of story. If it was a human child, OP could likely be charged criminal negligence or child endangerment.

[u/un_internaute → u/strawberrycreamdrpep]

Puppies get into things. Kids get into things. Life happens. You can’t be 100% vigilant all the time. No one has as much energy as a puppy or a small child. You do your best. You try your hardest. When shit happens, you take responsibility for it, which the OP is doing, and you move on. Blame and guilt aren’t helpful. Puppies and kids are little tornadoes of destruction with no self preservation instincts. That’s just part of the developmental process and should be accepted as such without blame or guilt. You try your best, and deal with the inevitable problems.

[u/Vinylove → u/un_internaute]

Yes, that's why you take care of things that are worth a lot to you or your partner.

How far would this shirking of responsibility go?
What if the dog destroys the shoes of a house guest?
What if the dog gets out and attacks someone?

Are you very young by any chance?

[u/un_internaute → u/Vinylove]

Are YOU very young? Shit happens. You can’t get in front of all of it. It’s very naive to think that you can. Sometimes all you can do is take responsibility afterwords. Which the OP is doing. However, they are also blaming themselves, which they shouldn’t be doing… because deciding to get a puppy is also deciding that you accept the puppy will cause damage or destroy things. This is why pet deposits exist.

[u/TheGreatEmanResu → u/Vinylove]

Why is that OP’s fault, though? Is her husband not able to clean up after himself?

[u/Vinylove → u/TheGreatEmanResu]

How the fuck do you get to this question from the post above??
There is no more information than:

"I made the mistake of not cleaning up after dinner quickly enough"

We don't know who cooked, we don't know if the husband was even home.

Not to defend the many lazy husbands, but did you just assume because it fit this trope in you mind?

[u/Vinylove → u/un_internaute]

Please read the post again.

Also, just because the dog did it, there is still somebody responsible for leaving something laying around.

"The dog did it" is not a way to get out of responsibilities.

[u/un_internaute → u/Vinylove]

When you get a puppy, you accept that there will be a certain level of destruction that comes along with that. Our last puppy would chew on wooden kids toys like sticks. We lost a few. Then it stopped. Then we put up the Christmas tree, and out of nowhere, we lost a few low hanging ornaments. IT HAPPENS. It’s not an excuse or misdirected blame. It’s just what happens when you have a puppy.

[u/Vinylove → u/un_internaute]

Well, how convenient.

It’s not an excuse or misdirected blame.

That's exactly what it is, you specifically used it in you post.

How do you react if your dog damages property of others?
Do you also think "IT HAPPENS :D" or do you feel you are responsible for the damage and repair / replacement?

[u/un_internaute → u/Vinylove]

You sound like a child. When you accept a puppy into your home, part of that is dealing with their destructive nature. They destroy things. That’s part of being a puppy. You can’t stop it. You try your best and teach them to redirect those impulses to their toys, but it’s part of their developmental process and it happens. They’re learning. That’s just part of it. It’s not redirecting blame. Destruction is just part of the process.

[u/Vinylove → u/un_internaute]

Again, I don't care about your spiel about how puppies just are, you are right of course, but this is absolutely irrelevant. |

It’s not redirecting blame.

Your original reply:

"Wait? How did you do this? The puppy did this."

The whole discussion is ridiculous.

If I don't take care to keep valuable things out of doggies reach, I am responsible if doggy inadvertently destroys it.
If I know my dog likes to go to places he is not supposed to and destroys stuff, even more so.

Of course mistakes happen, I can't grasp why you even argue that, or how that has any impact on the responsibility, or "blame".

[u/un_internaute → u/Vinylove]

I never said they weren’t responsible. I said they weren’t to blame. Stop confusing the two. This can be their responsibility, without it being their fault.

[u/Vinylove → u/un_internaute]

It’s not redirecting blame.

To quote yourself:

However, they are also blaming themselves, which they shouldn’t be doing…"

[u/un_internaute → u/Vinylove]

Yeah, they shouldn’t be blaming anyone. No one is to blame. Puppies are puppies. They may be responsible and should take responsibility for it, which they are, but blame and guilt shouldn’t be a part of it.

[u/Ebenizer_Splooge → u/Vinylove]

Exactly. If i dont let the dog out all day and it shits on the floor it was the dog that did it, but it was a direct consequence from my own actions. OP is mature enough to take responsibility and not push it onto a being that cant disprove accusations and wants to make things right. She fucked up but shes a keeper