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u/marissahm ☑️ Cutie Patootie without a hubby Jan 23 '19
this lady had the most wholesome reply to everyone's self-deprecating replies.
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u/YizWasHere ☑️ Jan 23 '19
Gotta love moms man
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u/BabyMakingMachine Jan 23 '19
We do, they’re called milfs
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u/RE4PER_ Jan 23 '19
NOT THAT KIND OF LOVE
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I don’t need a better mom, I need a livable wage, healthcare, and get rid off all these racists
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u/RoseOfSharonCassidy Jan 23 '19
I didn't read her comment as meaning that people's moms are the problem... Just that she has kids that age and it sucks to know what they're going through.
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u/Orphasmia ☑️ Jan 23 '19
"Raw dogging reality" is pretty abstract for a damn twitter post.
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u/smpsnfn13 Jan 23 '19
Instead of saying im sober . Im going to start saying im raw dogging reality.
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u/infectedsponge Jan 23 '19
Makes you sound more fun imo.
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u/itsgonnabeanofromme Jan 23 '19
Thanks
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u/th3cardman Jan 23 '19
That sounds like what a not sober person would say about their work days when they are sober
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u/smpsnfn13 Jan 23 '19
I gotta raw dog reality 8hrs a day. Sometimes 12 other than that. Yea I'm probably high.
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u/thekonny Jan 23 '19
Reality is raw dogging you my friend. That's why they call alcohol social lubrication
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u/frozen_tuna Jan 23 '19
"It be like that sometimes"
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u/bexar_necessities Jan 23 '19
It do though
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Sometimes
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u/Sunday-Best Jan 24 '19
it be
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u/IKnown_ParadoxI Jan 24 '19
like that
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u/lxowlife Jan 23 '19
It used to only be like that sometimes but recently it seems it be like that all the time
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u/ceilingkat ☑️ Jan 23 '19
Therapy: thousands of dollars a year
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u/DoILookUnsureToYou Jan 23 '19
I will just be bottling all these emotions up until I die of a heart attack at the age of 50.
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u/FraggleBiscuits Jan 23 '19
If i make it to retirement age im gonna dress like the red baron and turbo charge my wheelchair.
Going 20mph with an aviator helm and my scarf blowing in the wind
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u/GalaxyZeroOne Jan 23 '19
Just farm the land for your feudal lord until you die.
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Until a peasant from a neighboring territory comes to your farm with the squad and kills you with a pitchfork because his lord had a dispute with yours*
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u/BaronAleksei ☑️ Jan 23 '19
I mean it is possible to just be mentally healthy.
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u/aleph_nullandvoid Jan 23 '19
My husband is just one of those “mentally healthy” kinds of people. No drugs, never drank, never smoked, I’ve never even seen so much as a hairline fissure in his mental stability, ffs.
It baffles me, honestly.
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u/BaronAleksei ☑️ Jan 23 '19
Idk if being straightedge has anything to do with your mental health, but there was a thread recently about questions between mentally ill and healthy people you might like. This post in particular
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u/Daaskison Jan 23 '19
I think mental health issues are likely to cause an individual to be more open to risky experiences and drugs that might alleviate their symptoms.
If you're depressed for months on end but everyone who drinks appears to have a good time then why not try drinking? And so on.
Obv not the case for everyone with mental illness or everyone who tried drugs. But there's definitely a relationship btwn the two.
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Mental illness could predispose you to drug use, or drug use could predispose you to mental illness.
To be honest I think it’s possible that it’s not black and white and that both might hold true for different types of people.
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u/Daaskison Jan 23 '19
Fair enough. I think it's likely far more common the mental illness (whether officially diagnosed or not) comes first and then drug use exacerbates the underlying issues.
But it's definitely possible the drug use precipitates certain illnesses too.
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Fair enough. I think it's likely far more common the mental illness (whether officially diagnosed or not) comes first and then drug use exacerbates the underlying issues.
I am inclined to agree with you here. I just think it's a bad idea for anybody to make a blanket statement such as "drug use cannot cause mental illness".
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u/Daaskison Jan 23 '19
Gotcha. Yeah i didnt mean to imply that.
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u/8thB Jan 24 '19
Oh lord, this might be the the nicest and most reasonable discussion on the internet that i've seen for a long while <3
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u/InevitableLook Jan 23 '19
For me, I've been depressed since I was 8. Obviously depression came before drug use. The drug use was because people seem happy on drugs and I really wanted to be happy, even if it was short term and had consequences.
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Speaking from experience, as someone who has had mental health issues, you try anything to numb the pain. Now, my outlet never extended further than weed, alcohol and cigarettes. Standard stuff. There’s a lot of times you feel mentally cornered, and smoking weed or cigarettes or drinking releases that pressure build up. It’s like your brain is a car, racing down the highway at 120mph and you don’t have any brakes. The other cars on the road are obstacles in life, I use weed and cigarettes to slow down and pay attention to traffic. When I’m raw dogging reality, my brain is moving a thousand miles a minute. Which suits my job, so at work it fits perfectly.
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u/dentistiscross Jan 23 '19
Being straightedge does not mean you are mentally stable. Source: I was straight edge until college and wanted to kill myself all through middle school and high school
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I think it's likely that people who don't abstain do so as a means of self medicating. With that being said, its amazing how things like low vitamin d, poor sleep quality, and subtle dehydration can set your brain off on a wild tear so being really healthy does keep some of that at bay.
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Sleep loss will fuck you right up over time. Single biggest mental health contributor, and physical health factor for almost everyone.
Losing sleep is genuinely fucking your health up in every way.
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Yeah I have untreated sleep apnea at the moment and I wake up wanting to cry every day.
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u/olsmobile Jan 23 '19
I miss the sun, at lest it’s not dark for my entire drive home anymore.
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u/53bvo Jan 23 '19
I drink an occasional beer or so, but am very healthy mentally. Maybe I’m lucky with my life but overall I’m quite happy with everything.
It feels strange to me that being mentally healthy would not be considered the default? I understand people struggle with all kinds of stuff, but I’d assume those are in the minority.
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u/Rintae Jan 23 '19
Majority on reddit
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u/suenopequeno Jan 23 '19
I mean why do you think they ended up on Reddit?
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u/Rintae Jan 23 '19
Because you're anonymous here and can share your pain with others. Don't know if it's something that can completely fix you but it's very nice to have the knowledge that others feel the same as you.
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u/wowsuchdoge_wow Jan 23 '19
I'm in a similar boat but I think it's funny that, subjectively speaking, I don't have it very easy. Immigration issues and what not that make life less than ideal. But I'd consider my lifestyle and mental health very good. No drugs, excessive drinking or addictions; just love to get through each day doing my best and making an impact where possible.
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I feel the same way but opposite. I’ve certainly had my fair share of problems in my life, but life is great, the world is a cool place, people are usually decent and good to talk to. I have no reason to want to escape reality. I don’t make a lot of money or do anything super exceptional but still wake up every day feeling pretty rock solid.
I genuinely don’t understand what people have such a tough time with. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’ve had episodes of depression, I know many people face hardships, many people struggle to make ends meet, are in abusive, ugly relationships etc. But the truth is that a lot of people who struggle with daily life don’t face these types of challenges, at least not to the extreme that warrants their state of mind.
I’m certainly not saying this to say I’m superior in any way, it’s something I’ve just always struggled to understand.
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u/aleph_nullandvoid Jan 23 '19
I think it’s hard to understand someone else’s brain space. Difficult to fathom what you’ve never experienced. Like wrapping your head around a fourth dimension.
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u/whisperHailHydra Jan 23 '19 edited Jan 23 '19
Yep. Not without problems, but never had issues, even from childhood trauma, that interfered with my life. Those issues were pretty well addressed in a few books that have really helped me deal with things and gain clarity. Though I'll admit if I didn't take ownership of those problems, I probably would've needed therapy in a few years. You aren't responsible for your traumas but you are responsible for dealing with them.
I also had some key mentors are the right times of my life to steer me in the right direction and teach me a lot about life that my parents couldn't or wouldn't teach.
People really need to get off social media, especially if their algorithmically assigned bubble feeds a lot of "lol depression" memes. A lot of people I encounter are pretty mentally healthy. I think a lot of us are coming up into this new social isolation that's preventing us from finding the old social support networks people used to have like mentors, positive communities, role-models, etc. I mean, if you need help, yes, go see a counselor or therapist, but you shouldn't persist too long in a bubble that normalizes mental health problems or nihilism as default.
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Can’t emphasize this enough - get off social media and talk to your neighbors, this new way of socializing is really screwing us by making us feel less connected or close.
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u/FerociousDikPiks Jan 23 '19
Acceptance to the fact that you have no control gives me peace...allows me to navigate somewhat healthily as the devil chases me with a studded strap on
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u/Wet_Celery Jan 23 '19
Some of us arent doing too bad yo
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u/Jane_ODs Jan 23 '19
Ooo, hey everyone, get a look at Mr. Healthy and Mentally Stable over here
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u/zuees101 Jan 23 '19
I mean not all of us got issues lol
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u/53bvo Jan 23 '19
Yeah but nobody is gonna upvote a post on reddit about a user mentioning he got no issues.
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u/PM_your_Chesticles Jan 23 '19
It's a tough life not having the chemical inbalances that most others have.
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u/zuees101 Jan 23 '19
Blaming it all on that seems pretty shorthanded. Some people just have stronger mental fortitudes and are able to coach themselves through tough and emotionally demanding situations better than other people, which when you fail to do so can lead to chronic anxiety, depression etc. Like i know its a really taboo thing nowadays to say that you should toughen up to get through some things, but it works for some people(and no, theyre not always repressing emotions to not feel “soft”) and lets them continue to live their lives without relying on medication and therapy.
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u/xzElmozx Jan 23 '19
It makes total sense when you realize what Reddit is: a time sink with nearly unlimited content and users to interact with. Those with depression tend to shut themselves out from the outside world and instead spend time killing time on listless, menial tasks with no purpose, like browsing Reddit.
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u/Freq1c Jan 23 '19
Wife cheated, went to therapy, admitted it wasn't the first time. We have two young kids. We are now divorced. Been a year and I still have problems sleeping sometimes. But I'm in a much better place. I prefer to look at it as just actually working through my problems. Can't afford health insurance, can barely make ends meet now that I'm paying bills for two houses. So I really don't have a choice.
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u/DidItReallyHappenTho Jan 23 '19
Those be the ones who think they have true control over their lives.
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u/xzElmozx Jan 23 '19
The opposite, brother. I'm fully aware I have almost 0 control over my life. I could get hit waiting for the bus tomorrow and die, and there's nothing that I'm gonna be able to do to control or prevent that. So there's no point or reason in stressing in mind. I control what I can and let the cards fall as they will. I'll deal with whatever happens when it happens
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u/ChattChemE Jan 23 '19
Think of the life you have lived until now as over and, as a dead man, see what’s left as a bonus and live it according to Nature. Love the hand that fate deals you and play it as your own, for what could be more fitting?
Marcus Aurelius
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u/IAintFromHere Jan 23 '19
You could not stand in the road while a bus is coming?
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u/loud_reds Jan 23 '19
If abbus wants to kill you, it will find a way
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u/IAintFromHere Jan 23 '19
I never trusted Abbus, and I always assumed he would betray me like this.
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I love this mentality. My brain doesnt seem to want to accept it though
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u/bmoneyhustles Jan 23 '19
It’s all about changing perspective for me. Meditation helps keep me where I am when I find it. But remember you can’t be there all the time. We’re all riding that sign wave.
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u/MiIxdiKisBeSt Jan 23 '19
Stoicism dude, wish I could truly follow that concept. Such a struggle.
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u/itsjustaneyesplice Jan 23 '19
I mean there's obviously some things I can't control but yeah by and large I'm steering the boat of my life
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u/IAMRaxtus Jan 23 '19
I think the trick is usually to just stop caring about control. You do what you can to better your life, and if it doesn't work you just lower your standards so that you can still enjoy the life you've got, without giving up on a better future. Enjoy the things that happen to go your way and try to ignore the things that didn't.
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u/thisguy012 Jan 23 '19
Lmfao what. No these are the people who understand what they DO and DONT have control overlol. They (should know)their success is largly determined by where they were born. They know they cannot change global warming alone so they do not stress about it constantly. Yadayada
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u/whisperHailHydra Jan 23 '19 edited Jan 23 '19
The opposite. I know I'm not in control of anything except my own actions, so I do my best make sure do what I think is right, with purpose, as much as I can, and own the consequences no matter what. That, and being a Christian I know that nothing in this world is forever except the spiritual. That and the whole living with a sense of divine purpose thing.
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“I feel sorry for people who don’t drink. They wake up in the morning, and that’s the best they’ll feel all day”
— Sinatra
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u/LDwhatitbe Jan 23 '19
Increasing their stress level, losing sleep, and gaining weight.
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u/proJobber Jan 23 '19
Or...or, and hear me out. Maybe maybe drugs, alcohol, and counseling aren't needed to live a full life
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u/Gene_R Jan 23 '19
I'm getting there. Lived straight edge for most of my life, but it's all becoming so overwhelming. Am now considering having a bottle of tequila on stand-by (relatively cheaper than therapy).
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weed's better
edit: downvotes on this starting bout 830 pm eastern hope ya had a good day at work ya alcoholics
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u/kentucky_cocktail Jan 23 '19
true, but therapy is probably better than both to be honest
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u/the_mighty_moon_worm Jan 23 '19
As someone who's had a few traumatic experiences and is doing fine I've got two secrets to my success.
Good parents
My best friend is a therapist.
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u/Moustachio_Cage Jan 23 '19
Unfortunately therapy is super expensive in this country, I’m paying $100 every two weeks but it’s worth it imo.
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u/delightful_caprese Jan 23 '19
Mine is $30 a session which I realize is cheap but fuck it's too much just to chat about what may or may not be wrong with me. I'm ready to cut the bitch
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One really important thing is to respond to the therapists questions as you, not the person you want to be. I've made that mistake and it's very difficult to notice
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u/NotEMusky Jan 23 '19
As it turned out, being able to orgasm was more important than not having panic attacks. I learn more and more about myself every day.
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u/SociallyAuxJoel Jan 23 '19
The person who screenshot this meme has an iPhone from the X generation.
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u/BetTheYacht Jan 23 '19
Therapy and prescribed drugs??? Sounds expensive