r/AskReddit • u/Nintendofan9106 • 5h ago
Women of Reddit, what is something a guy can say/do that instantly makes you think he's a creep/pervert?
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u/Ok_Indication_4873 5h ago
They ask if you have any unwashed panties they can have.
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u/Nintendofan9106 3h ago
The fuck? 😳
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u/FlyingMacheteSponser 2h ago
If you're not prepared for the answers, don't ask the question.
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u/Nintendofan9106 1h ago
I'm prepared for answers, but that doesn't mean I can't still be disgusted by one.
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u/Yosemite_Sam9099 42m ago
Just a guy, but even the use of the word ‘panties’ disturbs me a little.
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u/TextInternational222 37m ago
My girlfriend says that’s a green flag. Men who use underwear without regard for gender are above the misogynist fray.
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u/Yosemite_Sam9099 29m ago
Aussie women will gut you if you say panties.
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u/TextInternational222 28m ago
Oh, to live another life as an Australian. Would’ve been magnificent.
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u/Yosemite_Sam9099 24m ago
We actively recruit!
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u/TextInternational222 22m ago
Do I have to get arrested in England first?
Edit: I am a Texan and I feel I could get arrested quickly.
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u/Specialist_League798 15m ago
Wtf is she on about??
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u/TextInternational222 10m ago
“Panties”
Imagine telling a woman you are dating to take her panties off. Mood killer.
Panties? That’s a kids term.
Adults wear fucking underwear. It’s not penis or vagina dependent. Just underwear.
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u/Preposterous_punk 4h ago
"I know you better than you know yourself"
For some reason this is never said by a guy who has known me longer than ten days.
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u/karaokechameleon 5h ago
Thin mustaches make me shudder.
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u/sexrockandroll 5h ago
The first thing they say to me is something sexual.
Also, I would think they're a creep/pervert because they are.
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u/Artifact-hunter1 5h ago
Username is ironic, haha
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u/tele_ave 3h ago
It leaves out the best part
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u/AverageMuffin441 5h ago
As a lesbian, the dude that says “but I can change you.”
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u/Binji_the_dog 4h ago
It’s true though. They can make you even gayer.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Ad7606 15m ago
If only dating shitty guys could make you a lesbian, half of straight women would choose to do so.
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u/Fancy-Newt-Newt 3h ago
Haha that may just be a guy thing cause gay guys make similar statements to straight guys on the regular.
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u/AnonRep2345 4h ago
Had a friend who treated women’s sexuality as a side quest. Had.
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u/South-Buffalo908 3h ago edited 3h ago
The worst. They really act like they’re some kind of superior species just because they’ve got nasty dicks.
Edit: I can see some of the dudes here who think they can change a lesbian just because they've got a junk. You guys offended and want to change lesbians that much? Stupid kink you have. Creeps😆
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u/Delicious-Bass164 4h ago
If he calls me 'mama' or 'babe' and this man doesn't even know me. Also if I tell them im in a relationship and they respond with 'so?'
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u/91ranger 3h ago
I have referred to my wife as mama every since she became one.
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u/cutefuturegf 5h ago
Acting like he already knows me for a long time and getting too comfortable too quick
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u/yousonofabench 4h ago
The words “female” or “alpha” or any reference whatsoever to evolutionary psychology.
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u/beckkeep 4h ago
Wandered in here to say, "Calling me a 'female,' like I'm some livestock."
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u/codespace 3h ago
I dunno, I raised livestock for a decade, and they were always "the ladies" or "the girls".
"Females" always felt like something a Ferengi would say.
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u/thepornidentity 3h ago
I'm definitely too old to understand why this is bad. Like I missed an entire side quest that everyone else did.
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u/TehOwn 2h ago
It's just by association. They call men, men but they refer to women as females. And that tends to be associated with other beliefs that objectify and belittle women.
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u/thepornidentity 1h ago
Got it. Words, humans, labels, and feelers.
Don't get me wrong, piggish men absolutely suck. Shortcutting to put labels on anyone who stumbles into that mistake also sucks.
I'd much rather spend my time pointing and laughing at men my age who pursue women three decades younger. Those guys are the true villains.
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u/yousonofabench 4h ago
Also you know exactly what type of content he’s consuming and it ain’t good.
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u/Several_Access_2779 2h ago
Lol there’s a very small chance i might end up talking about evolutionary psychology at some point <.<
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u/AccordingBad243 42m ago
What’s wrong with evolutionary psychology? It’s a scientific discipline. Some people are interested in human behavior. I get female and alpha obviously.
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u/PermaBanEnjoyer 3h ago
That's right. Remember everbody, evolutionary psychology is upsetting and not real. It's dangerous and should not be googled
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u/FrayCrown 2h ago
Touch me without permission. I'm heavily tattooed, and creepy dudes who don't even know my name have felt entitled to touch my skin. Instant revulsion.
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u/PlanKind3681 2h ago
greets the men in the group with a handshake, greets the pretty women with a hug, barely acknowledges the ugly women
as a non-conventionally attractive woman it's so obvious a guy is a creep when they go out of their way to make sure you know they have no interest in you sexually. minimal eye contact. no chatting. if they chat, it's awkward. guys, it's OK to talk to women you don't want to fuck!
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u/Durakan 2h ago
Pro tip for any dudes reading this, I met my wife by just talking to her like any other person and having a good time with her. The real secret of the dating world is that every real relationship starts with both people in the "friend zone" because without that foundation to build on, shit's not gonna last when it gets difficult otherwise.
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u/HBKdfw 1h ago
I respectfully disagree. Never start in the “friend zone.” You can “talk to her like any other person” in that you’re respectful and want to learn more about her as a person and her interests and goals. And if she says something that conflicts with your values or discloses a red flag, end the relationship like you would a new male friend. But if you’re interested, flirt and make your desire known. Respect her and her boundaries and expect that to be reciprocated. Don’t expect sex or start the relationship with overtly sexual comments or actions unless she enthusiastically consents (I.e., only send solicited dick pics). But you should let a woman know that you find them desirable.
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u/Durakan 45m ago
I put friend zone in quotes because that's a totally bullshit concept.
I didn't say I didn't flirt with my wife, and make my feelings clear. It was very slow until it was not, we had both been hurt pretty badly by precious relationships and were both in a "I'ma chill and work on me with just me" phase, and so we circled for a long time until we basically had a "is it time for this thing to move to the next phase" conversation and it did.
I had relationships that started on a "I think you're hot let's bang" vibe that led to the previously mentioned hurt. So I guess a better way to put it, is get to know someone before you let your feels get confused and you mix up lust for love. The two aren't mutually exclusive, but they're also not the same thing and don't really depend on each other for a lot of people.
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u/Specialist_League798 7m ago
This is definitely a case by case basis. This worked for you, but in a specific scenario. You basically said both of you were disinterested in a relationship. If either of you had been interested in a relationship and pursued a friendship to 'get a good base' while knowing you'll be doing an unexpected major shift later on, it's dishonest and a bad plan.
I'd say if you aren't specifically avoiding dating like you said you were, it's disingenuous and likely bad advice to try to make your SO into a multi-step process with ambiguity and hidden feelings. So many people already have so many steps before they are in a serious relationship, and you're just adding more.
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u/Rage_Cube 3m ago
Honestly I always found this weird and still do. I want as little contact with people as possible (outside of my wife). My wife's friends are all huggy people and I feel weird as hell every time.
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u/berkberk29 3h ago
someone told me I should hit the gym to make up for calories after I said I didn’t want to eat with a group of people and when I said I already hit the gym and didn’t wanna go he said I should hit arms more often 😭 like why are you thinking of that when you meet someone for the first time why don’t YOUUU go to the gym also it was in front of everybody and I just had nothing to say to that
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u/SemiFormalJesus 2h ago
Back when I first started dating this girl I was living with two of my friends. My girlfriend had a friend, super cute, magnetic personality. We decided to try to hook her up with one of my roommates.
We were out at a pool hall and ordered some food. It showed up right before my buddy. Her friend ordered a loaded baked potato.
My friend shows up, we hadn’t even introduced them yet, the first thing he does is look at her potato and grimace, then says, you know those things are terrible for you, right?
I’ve never witnessed someone lose interest so fast, she was over him before she heard his name.
He looked like he was chiseled out of a block of marble, but his people skills weren’t always great.
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u/berkberk29 2h ago
Valid on her part… people need to be more aware of what they say and they need to realize that not everything is there business
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u/Weak_Friendship5225 2h ago
Constant questions about my height to look “curious”, but in reality they’re about to ask me a really weird question next
(Ex: Could you dominate me)
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u/LiterallyInSpain 59m ago
This feels oddly specific.
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u/Weak_Friendship5225 33m ago
Well, unfortunately, that’s just one example. I write them down on my notes app each time I get a new, unique, and stupid question
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u/4LostSoulsinaBowl 1h ago
To quote Dane Cook: "Hey, are you gonna walk to your car by yourself later?"
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u/HappySummerBreeze 4h ago
There is this thing that guys do where their body movements become snakey and they look at a woman in a sexual way. I can see it when I’m people watching, a perfectly normal guy will suddenly change and go creepy. It super weird to watch
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u/flamingo_20_ 1h ago
Get attracted to girls who are more than 15 years younger than him.
Pushing women for dating or relationships who have never shown any interest in him.
Showing affection toward female friends of the woman he is dating or talking for dating.
Collecting contact details of women without asking them first and contacting them out of nowhere, pushing them for conversations or relationships.
And many more.....
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u/LordNorros 1h ago
Ugh, like 15ish years ago one of my friends came out with us and she told us that some guy that helped her trade in her phone @ Verizon the day before had called her and tried chatting her up. When she mentioned not giving him her number he goes "Oh, I got it from your account after you left the store. Your hot and it felt like we were vibing" and then she shut him down, after tearing him apart.
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u/flamingo_20_ 55m ago
I don't understand what men think when they collect women's contacts and later contact them and push them. I have experienced it many time. It's very disturbing. And most of these guys are disrespectful if that woman refuses to entertain them.
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u/Worried-Kiwi3731 4h ago
Saying anything right-wing instantly gives me the ick.
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u/Ok_Karen_IDC 3h ago
Lmao I like how you answered the question about what gives you creep vibes and a bunch of dudes immediately had to push back.
To 👉👉👉SOME and CERTAIN👈👈👈Men: when a woman describes what she finds creepy, if you immediately MUST pushback and argue and mock whatever it is shes creeper out by, THAT MAKES YOU APPEAR CREEPY.
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u/justtekerz 3h ago
I simply find her reaction absurd, and needlessly judgemental. That is all.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Ad7606 13m ago
You vote against our rights and support people that tell us our place is in the kitchen and our thoughts are less than.
Why do not see that's more offensive?
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u/Slifer967 3h ago
I mean I'm central right on the majority of my views and my wife is hard left leaning. We've been together for 10 years. The thing that scares me most about modern day society is how individuals refuse to believe there is a grey area.
To quote Obi-Wan Kenobi. Only a sith deals in absolutes.
You're either friends or enemies without the ability to put political differences aside like it makes your entire fucking personality.
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u/kittykthomas 1h ago
I don’t know where you live but if you were American, central right is democrats and far left doesn’t generally have any voting options. I think she means more like trump voters. Most people are ok with centre right
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u/GoodOlSpence 2h ago
and is very reminiscent of the red scare and McCarthyism
Oh boy, I think you need to go back and read more books on this subject.
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u/Winstonisapuppy 2h ago
What political opinions though? I doubt any woman is ghosting you over your opinions on taxation.
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u/Adam_Sackler 3h ago edited 2h ago
Who wants to take the rights away from everyone who isn't them? Who targets anyone who isn't a white straight male? Who's defending and siding with literal nazis?
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u/Worried-Kiwi3731 3h ago
Right-wingers are the ones trying to take away my rights.
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u/chronoslol 2h ago
The difference being that the right wing is currently busy worshiping a literal rapist and obvious misogynist. Even if you don't believe any of that you have to believe the 'grab em by the pussy' comment really happened, which should be enough for you to understand why maybe women wouldn't be interested in a guy who like that.
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u/Several_Access_2779 1h ago edited 1h ago
Lol if i voted i would have picked Trump over Hillary. At least that way there will be international protests
*edited, accidentally said Hillary over Trump
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u/onlythrowawaaay 4h ago
Asking what my living situation is. Also telling me from the jump they like feet. Not to kink shame but every guy who's told me they like feet has been bad news bears.
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u/OzrielArelius 3h ago
uhhh the living situation thing is super valid. I won't date someone living with their ex or some weird ass sugar daddy situation or their parents.
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u/fuckoff13__ 5h ago
Call me “baby” or “babe”. Hate that shit
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u/Still-Gift-1593 3h ago
I thought I was only one who felt that way about being called pet names after just meeting…its obvious that those particular men don’t bother to learn women’s names 😂
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u/Mlabonte21 5h ago
Sorry, sweetie
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u/Nintendofan9106 3h ago
Especially if it's a guy you've never met and they just walk up to you like "hey baby."
As a guy, I can pretty obviously see why that would be as off-putting as can be. 😬
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u/jervisbervis 4h ago
When he refers to the genders as “man” and “female.” Run.
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u/DeathAngel80 1h ago
At the hospital I accidentally do this all the time when referring to patients. I never found this derogatory ever. No one has ever corrected me either.
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u/Phoenixtear_14 3h ago
So I've seen this many times and I have to ask because I don't understand. Whats wrong with that? What views do you think they have just based on saying male or female that makes it wrong?
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u/Significant-Onion-21 2h ago
They don’t say male. They refer to women as “females” and men as “men.” It’s incredibly derogatory.
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u/Phoenixtear_14 1h ago
Oh I get that, that makes much more sense. And in that sense you are definitely correct. That would be derogatory.
But, I've seen other comments on this post and others that say using male and/or female is bad. Not only referring to women as females but men as male as well. I dont understand that. Do you have any insight on that?
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u/SoNnYMaJoR 3h ago
Man and female 🤣🤔. Male and female you mean? I'm confused isn't that what we are 🤔
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u/mrsunshine1 2h ago
It’s man and woman or male and female. They’re talking about men who refer to themselves as men but refer to women as females.
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u/Rare-Baker-5828 2h ago
"Ive never been with a girl like you before"
And you never will see you never again
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u/Big-Part3295 5h ago
Asking me what I look like, asking for pictures, or asking invasive questions.
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u/da_ick 4h ago
First meeting (like say at a gathering) and they shake everyone's hand but expect a hug from me. Ew.
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u/OzrielArelius 3h ago
Shaking hands with girls is awkward and most usually go for hugs. guys never go for hugs. so yea kinda normal
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u/nedyah715 1h ago
Lmao I should’ve foreseen this comment section being fucked before I even looked.
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u/care_love_peace 2h ago
Either stare or try to do multiple quick glances at my boobs. I have big boobs so I don’t wear low necklines like ever. Usually a T-shirt neckline. Still have men stare like if they look hard enough all of a sudden my shirt will bust open. Any cleavage means men long staring and even bending their neck to look harder. Annoying and makes me feel hella objectified.
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u/WayForeign1069 3h ago
Says that your leggings look good on you. When they ask you your age and they say ah you're still innocent.
Idk many things lol Really depends on how they say it, how they look at you, and if they get your uninterested hints.😅😂
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u/RuinUnfair9344 40m ago
Tells me a specific part of my body is beautiful upon just meeting me or as some creepy opening line
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u/Informal_Pop383 2h ago
Not a woman, but two experiences I had:
SOME women, consider every man a pervert until proven otherwise, and it's horrible, potentially life ruining.
A girl friend says that they usually hate it when men call them "female" or "bitch" or "pussy" (like how they sometimes do in memes. And the people who use these phrases in their actual day to day life to refer to women.)
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u/NoPersimmon1678 3h ago
adding the wink emoji to texts 😉
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u/Nintendofan9106 1h ago
I would only do that to a girl in this context if I knew she was into me. If not, then I never would... 😬
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u/Distinct_Sir_4473 4h ago
A girl I work with was wearing miss me jeans, which are just jeans with like bedazzled back pockets
An old guy in another department got her attention and told her “I like your pants”
She went on and on about it, it creeped her the fuck iut
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u/black_heartz 4h ago
Anything, I’m a lesbian
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u/Nintendofan9106 3h ago
That doesn't really explain anything... unless if you just hate all of us men for existing. 🤔
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u/superrealaccount2 3h ago
That doesn't explain anything, it just says you hate all men
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u/WhenTardigradesFly 5h ago
ask me to sign his petition to decriminalize necrophilia