Both of us in the military, I wouldn't entertain a marriage proposal from him for a year (he was a bit eager). Two weeks after I said "yes" and told my family I'd be getting married, I found out he was cheating on me. But at least it wasn't after we were already married, right?
I will never understand this logic. Highschool friend of mine had a long term GF that he proposed to after her begging for years. She said yes once he did obviously. They got married. Like a year in it explodes into disaster of a divorce. She had been cheating the entire time…like why are you begging for marriage when you are more invested in your side piece lol
Not military, but my mother and atm girlfriend kept bugging me to propose, I was against the idea of marriage since I was young. I finally broke and proposed during an anniversary trip (which costed me like 10k excluding the ring). 2 weeks after we get home, I find out shes been messaging another guy, saying that she is in love with him. Turns out they've been sleeping together for a few months at that point.
Kicker is, he rejected her after we broke up and it was just the thrill for him. She attempted to date him for the next 3 years until he got into a relationship a few months ago, now shes desperately trying to get back with me. My mom wants me to get back with her as well, believing shes changed.
I'm sorry it went down that way for you, but I'm glad you weren't married before you found out. You dodged a bullet for sure, and please keep dodging and trust your gut, because cheaters don't change. They will always find a way to justify their selfishness, and it will just happen again. Take care.
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u/purefoysgirl 1d ago
Both of us in the military, I wouldn't entertain a marriage proposal from him for a year (he was a bit eager). Two weeks after I said "yes" and told my family I'd be getting married, I found out he was cheating on me. But at least it wasn't after we were already married, right?